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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:24 AM
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I'll Be seeing you... (dialup warning to the extreme)
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 07:53 AM by MrsGrumpy
Hi,

It has become apparent to me that I am having a hard enough time just breathing these days. I am staring hard, every morning, at my children to gather the courage to get up and keep living. In a nutshell, it is being a walking dead woman. I have, so very much, appreciated the many kindnesses shown to me/us over the last month. I said it before but Leonard's family was stunned by the outpouring of messages here. The truly unfortunate thing is that my husband never realized how well and truly loved he was. He was a playful boy and a loving man all wrapped up in an incredibly handsome package. And I still can't make myself believe he's gone. My heart and my head are stuck back at 12:32, Sunday August 26. The crushing crowds at the funeral home nor the many visitors over the next few days didn't do anything to make it any more real for me. My life, my love, my soul is gone. When I see the pain reflected in the faces of his coworkers, our friends, my family...it intensifies the fact.

His funeral was a tribute to who he was. A man. 32 of his friends, neighbors, coworkers and family got up to speak. I could have listened all day. My mother in law read the letter that I had put in his anniversary card to begin the service (you can read it on my blog posted 7/19-my blog is in my profile-if you wish). Over 500 people signed the book.

And still, I want to see his truck pull in the drive. I ache for him.

You have all been dear and wonderful friends to me. Whether it was arguing in GD...or goofing off in the lounge, or telling me (via PM) what a shitty mod I was. If you want to keep up with us, I post a lot on my blog. I'll leave my PM box open, but it may take awhile to get a reply. But I have to be done posting because I'm not me anymore. You are all sweet people. You really are.

I just can't do this anymore. Because I'm not me anymore.

Again, thanks for everything. You're a wonderful bunch. Here are some of my favorite pictures of MrG--I am sorry dialup users:



Angel Flying Too Close to the Ground---Willie Nelson

If you had not have fallen
Then I would not have found you
Angel flying too close to the ground
And I patched up your broken wing
And hung around a while
Tried to keep your spirits up
While you were feelin' down
I knew someday that you would fly away
For love's the greatest healer to be found
So leave me if you need to
I will still remember
Angel flying too close to the ground
Fly on, fly on past the speed of sound
I'd rather see you up
Than see you down
Leave me if you need to
I will still remember
Angel flying too close to the ground

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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:27 AM
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1. I can't begin to imagine your pain.
It's not fair and I'm sorry. :hug:
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:29 AM
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2. You've been in my heart and prayers Laura ..
hang on ... I cannot imagine what you're going through these days, but ... hang on.


:hug:

much love.

kesha
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Zomby Woof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:30 AM
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3. Nini and I love you, Laura
What beautiful pictures of Leonard and your family. Thank you for sharing, and thank you for the gift of you these past years...

Our hearts are with you, always. You know how to reach us ANYTIME, and we are here for you.

Love,

Laurin and Gina
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MissHoneychurch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:32 AM
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4. I am so sorry MrsGrumpy
I wish there would be a way to take away that pain.

Please come back when you feel like everything is overwhelming you. We are here for you to cry with you, to laugh with you, to support you.

Please take care of yourself :hug:
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lildreamer316 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:37 AM
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5. Love you so much, dear.
I can't quite identify, but sorta.
My fiance of 8 years passed away suddenly in a motorcyle wreck May 20th, 2001.
I was stuck for quite awhile.
Fortunately, I have to say, we had no children...
You will become unstuck. You will make it, I promise. I know that is hard to see right now, and I know that people have told you this 'till you are tired of hearing it. Take it from one who has (sorta) been there. I'm looking back at it from the other side of six years now. My life has unfolded in quite a way, but I still have to drive down the same roads; live in the same town as we (Ken and I) used to. In a _____ irony, I am now living almost around the corner from his parents.
Some days it is still fresh...but less days than it used to be.
I kept repeating to myself that someday it would be better; I would be in my life again.
It will feel like you are in a different universe; a parallell one.
I am able now to see how even in death he gave me a wonderful gift, and to love him all the more for it.
I will be thinking of you and your beautiful children always. I don't forget these things.

Take all the time you need. You may not be able to come back here, and we certainly understand that. I was an active member of the VHML until after Ken died..now, I post once every six months.

Please let us know how you are doing, however.
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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bicentennial_baby Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:51 AM
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6. Sigh....
We love you. :cry:

Still here, always will be. :hug:
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:55 AM
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7. The door here opens as well as closes
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 08:41 AM by GoPsUx
You will be missed.
Ton's of :hug: for you and your family.
I hope to see you here again someday.
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Jeff In Milwaukee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:22 AM
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8. A friend of mine...
years ago was talking about the loss of his father. This was before my own father had passed, and so I really had no frame of reference as to how that felt. He said people that say time will heal all wounds, but that's not true at all. It's like losing your arm or your leg, he said. It's never going to grow back and you're never going to be the same person you were before. Nothing will ever be right again. But just as with losing one of your limbs, you eventually figure out how to live your life in a way that makes sense to you. Life will never be what it was, but it will be what it is. And that's just about all any of us has a right to expect out of this world.

You're at the beginning of a long and painful journey that nobody should ever have to make alone. There will be times when you won't want a new life, and this journey that you're on will not seem worth the effort, especially when the destination is so uncertain. But you need to know, as I'm sure you do know, that you have the support of a large and loving family and a vast circle of friends. And you have love and memories of love, and those never really leave us.

Take care and God bless.
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:23 AM
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9. (((Mrs Grumpy)))
Please take care of yourself, MrsG.

I wish I lived closer. I'd offer to help out with whatever. I went through a similar experience with a different person but left me with the deep grief you describe. It takes whatever it takes.

Please check in with us when you feel up to it. We do miss you. :hug:
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peacefreak Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:37 AM
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10. Thank you for posting these.
It's a long journey you've begun. Not one you'd ever wish for. It is obvious the depth of love you shared. I hope it will help to sustain you through these hard times. I know it doesn't seem like enough.
Don't be too hard on yourself. There is no right way or wrong way to go through this. Just your way. There are alot of us here that have suffered loss. We will support you with our thoughts & prayers.
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NewJeffCT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:44 AM
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11. I'm so sorry
I can't even begin to know how much pain you're going through. Please take care of yourself and your family. You'll be in my thoughts.
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Massasauga Donating Member (42 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:45 AM
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12. Wow.
I've only been here a little while, Mrs Grumpy, and I don't know you. At least ... I didn't until now. You're a special person, and Mr G was clearly special, too.

Stay strong.
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Shakespeare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:49 AM
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13. Laura
I love you to pieces, but do what you have to do for YOU--for now. We're here for you, no matter what. I really hope you'll come back, but I do understand.

I'm so very sorry, and you continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. :hug: :hug:
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helderheid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:56 AM
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14. Oh, Mrs Grumpy
I am so so sorry :cry: :hug:
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Starbucks Anarchist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:58 AM
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15. (((((MrsGrumpy)))))
:hug: :hug: :hug: :grouphug:
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:58 AM
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16. Thanks for sharing your memories with us.
I can truly understand your need for a break from DU.
I'll send you my phone numbers and contact information, no need for a reply until you feel up to it.
You are always on my mind.
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:02 AM
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17. ...
:hug:

Life isn't fair. :(
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Haole Girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:03 AM
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18. Please know you are still you...
You will always be you. I know a very large piece is missing inside you... and time never completely heals all wounds (sometimes it just doesn't). It is natural to become numb in grief... to just shut down. When I went to grief counseling after my mother's death, my counselor invited me to her home. We'd talked for about 6 months by that time. When she invited me to take a look at her backyard I was astounded. There were layers upon layers of flowers... it was one of the most beautiful yards I'd ever seen in Southern California. I remember my expression... "Wow!" Then, I remember what she said in response to it. She said, something like, "It's nice that you had a reaction because a lot of my patients don't." And, that is the moment I knew I was beginning to come out of the fog.

Though this "fog" you are in at this time feels safe, it is not life... and you know (I'm sure) it isn't how your husband would want you to live out the rest of your life. Please forgive me if I'm over stepping here.

Any time you need someone to talk to, please contact me at myspace.com/sherimyspace... okay?
I can't promise I'll always be around DU.

Please do what works for you. For me, it was long walks on the beach, music, and talking with a counselor (until one day she had to tell me I didn't need to go to her to "just talk girl talk"! lol). Even though the experts tell you not to make drastic changes after the death of a loved-one, after my mother died I moved, sold my car, and changed jobs. It helped me. I think every person is unique... and not everybody knows what will work for every individual.

Okay, I'm rambling now.

Please take care of yourself. You always talk about your children, and I know they are first and foremost on your mind, but please take care of YOU too... alright?!

Many hugs for you,
"KC2"
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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:07 AM
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19. MrsG.. thank you so much for sharing Leonard w/ us
I imagine at this time, your instinct would be to hold on to him with all you have, but you've opened up and let us in and I can't tell you how much that means to me.

I can't begin to know what you're going through, and I am no where near eloquent enough to assume that I can say something that will ease your pain. I know that he was a part of you, and because of that, we will miss him.

Part of me wants to tell you that he's really not gone, that he IS still with you. I'm not sure there's any circumstance that will ever change that.

:hug:

Peace be with you.
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LaraMN Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:09 AM
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20. Oh, sweetheart....
you do whatever you have to, to keep any semblance of sanity.
We will always be here. You will ALWAYS be welcome.
I'm so sorry for your pain and that of your babies.
I'll be haunting your blog, for certain.
Much love to you, Laura.

:hug: :hug: :hug:
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:12 AM
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21. Gosh, I don't know what to say!
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 09:13 AM by Shell Beau
What a beautiful man he was. I am praying for you and your family! You will make it through as the strong woman you already are! :cry: I am so sorry! :hug: You will be with him again! All of your family will be together again! And he is still in your heart. Keep his memory alive.
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greatauntoftriplets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:19 AM
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22. I will miss you a lot.
Please take care of yourself and your children.
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mzteris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:20 AM
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23. it's evident you guys had something very special.
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 09:21 AM by mzteris
What a beautiful man! (and I'm not talking just his looks, either.)

I can't imagine what you're going through. But yeah, your children NEED you more than ever. When nothing else "works" to get you out of bed and breathing in the morning, hang on to that.

I just want to add that if the depression seems to be getting worse, or doesn't have some relief in the next few months, please see a doctor. Depression (with a capital "D") can strike anyone at any time. And that could be even more devastating for you and your kids.


Please come back when your ready. Maybe you could just drop in on occasion to say hi.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

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Richardo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:32 AM
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24. We will miss you
Bless you and your family.
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AirmensMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:35 AM
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25. I'm so sorry, MrsG.
:hug: I just don't have the words. Thank you for sharing your beautiful memories with us. I know it's not nearly enough, but you have a lot of friends here who are crying with you, wishing you didn't have to go through this. I hope you'll come back, but do whatever you need to do for you and your children.

:grouphug:
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Blue Diadem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:51 AM
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26. Oh Mrs. G, it's so obvious the love you two shared,
and what a wonderful man Leonard was and will continue to be in the mind, heart and soul of all who knew and loved him. I so wish I could have known him, but in a way, I feel as if I do by your posts and your blog.

Honey, your words of grief are nearly the same as what my Mom described to me when she lost her first husband. She was pregnant with my oldest brother when he died. My brother was their first child to survive and he was born 5 months after his father's death. Children have a way of keeping us going. She always said that.

If there's ever a time we can help with your journey, don't hesitate to come back. I've missed you around here.

Hugs and much love




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ceile Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:56 AM
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27. We'll be here when you're ready.
Thank you for sharing the memories and pics of MrG.
:hug:
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Zuiderelle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:00 AM
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28. You will be missed here.
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 10:02 AM by PelosiFan
May he rest in peace and may you and your family find strength from his love and memories to go on and find peace and hope. So very sorry. :hug:

Those are such beautiful pictures.
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:06 AM
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29. (((( MrsG ))))
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 10:07 AM by merh
you and your entire family are in my prayers, Laura.

:hug:







.
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graywarrior Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:07 AM
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30. I'll love you forever.
:loveya:
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Tian Zhuangzhuang Donating Member (422 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:15 AM
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31. Kick
with a :grouphug:
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XNASA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:20 AM
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32. We're all gonna miss you.
A lot.

:hi:

Maybe you can come back sometime. That would be great for all of us.
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Cathyclysmic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:22 AM
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33. ...
:hug:

please take care.
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catmandu57 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:22 AM
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34. Understood
Please take care of yourself and children.
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:28 AM
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35. Be well.
:(
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Blue-Jay Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:30 AM
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36. Take care of yourself, Laura.
Who knows? Maybe you'll come back one of these days. You'll be welcome.

:hug:
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WillParkinson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:36 AM
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37. My very best to your family
Sometimes taking a step backwards can ultimately help us to move forward. I hope you find the peace you deserve and return to us in time.

If there's anything I can do for you please don't hesitate to ask.

Will
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EstimatedProphet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:39 AM
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38. Be well, and come back to us.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:41 AM
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39. I was thinking of you last night! I wish you well, and will miss you.
Good healing to you, and may you take as long as needed for the grieving. Don't rush it.

Often you are in my thoughts.

Blessings!
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:43 AM
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40. All our best to you, Laura, peace to you love to you...
strength to you eternal lover :hug: :loveya:
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:44 AM
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41. You will be missed greatly.
:hug: :grouphug:

:cry:
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NewWaveChick1981 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:45 AM
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42. All my best to you, MrsG...
:hug: :pals: My heart goes out to you and your family. Take care. :hug:
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texas1928 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:46 AM
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43. It is always tough to lose some one so unexpectedly...
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 10:47 AM by texas1928
Mrs G.,
I am sorry for your lose, and I hope you find peace and understanding in this time. Remember you had him and he will always be with you, in your heart. The memories of the good and the bad times will always be there. And those are the best, even the bad ones. I lost a friend and classmate, a few years back, and it was hard. It was not as hard as losing a spouse but it still was so shocking to get that call. A song that helped me so many times in my life as I have gone through, dealing with being paralyzed, and some of the trying times that have come my way has been "The Dance" by Garth Brooks. I know he is a country singer and you may not like country, but listen to the lyrics of this song.

You may have lost him, but you did not miss the dance with him and that is what counts.

here is the video for this song. Enjoy, it helped me a lot.

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=1893704856292247710&q=Garth+Brooks&total=1558&start=30&num=10&so=0&type=search&plindex=7

With love and caring,
Texas.
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ronnykmarshall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:57 AM
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44. We will miss you so very much.
:loveya:

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BarenakedLady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:01 AM
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45. *hugs*
I can't imagine. You are in my thoughts.

:hug:
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sundog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:10 AM
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46. .
:hug:
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Magrittes Pipe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:11 AM
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47. Please take care.
:hug:

I am so sorry for how lost you are, Laura. Hopefully you will find yourself again, hopefully soon -- but it will take some time. You're in our thoughts.
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yewberry Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:16 AM
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48. I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am.
Your dear husband was the same age as my husband is--and I'm shocked to think that you could have lost him so soon and so quickly. I'd be lost, absolutely lost, too.

I know that many here will hold you in their thoughts and prayers. I'll be one of them.

But I understand your decision, and I wish you the very best. Please take care.



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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:28 AM
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49. My dear MrsGrumpy...
My heart goes out to you and your beautiful children...

I continue to hold all of you in my heart...

I hope you will return to us someday...

Until then, know that we love and miss you...

Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful Leonard with us...

The Willie Nelson lyrics are perfect...they made me cry...

:hug:
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myrna minx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:32 AM
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50. I am so sorry.
I can't even imagine your sorrow. Please give my heartfelt condolences to your children and to his family. :hug:
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derby378 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:37 AM
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51. My very best to you, MrsGrumpy
I honestly don't know what I'd do without ginbarn. I can only imagine what you must be going through.

Both of us send you our love and our most heartfelt wishes. :hug:
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soleft Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:40 AM
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52. I will remember to check your blog
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 11:41 AM by soleft
I want to know how you and your family are doing. I will miss you here, and continually wish you comfort and peace.
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:42 AM
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53. Best wishes to you and your family for the future.
:hug:
:grouphug:
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huskerlaw Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:48 AM
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54. Thank you
for sharing Leonard with us.

I'm so sorry for the pain you and your family are going through. It's simply not fair.

Please take care of yourself, and remember that there are a lot of people here who love you.

:hug:
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:59 AM
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55. MrsG, my heart aches for you.
I can't pretend to know how you feel; just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I hope that some day, you find some healing. I know nothing will ever fill the hole left by Leonard's passing, but I pray that some day, you find some peace.

:grouphug:

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Zookeeper Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 12:15 PM
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56. My heart is with you, Mrs. Grumpy....
I am so sorry for your profound loss. Please take care of yourself and family.

We will be here when you are ready to return.

:hug: :hugs:

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1gobluedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 12:24 PM
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57. I'm so very, very sorry
Words fail me right now. We're all here for you, Laura; you and your children. :hug:
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Shine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 12:49 PM
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58. My heart goes out to you, Laura
I have thought of you often over these past several weeks.

I wish you Peace and Comfort as you go through the heart-breaking process of grieving your beloved soul mate, Leonard.

Thank you for sharing his pictures with us. What a handsome man he was. It's clear there was much love between you.

Blessings to you and your entire family.

Whenever you are ready, you will be welcomed back to DU with wide open arms.

In the meantime, take care of yourself and know that you are loved. :loveya: :hug:
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 12:56 PM
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59. I'm sorry to see you leave, but you have to do what you have to do
You'll always have a shoulder right here if you need one

:hug:

Farewell
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 02:50 PM
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60. Laura, I am so sorry for you.
I've thought about you every day since I heard this horrible news.

I remember when we were mods together and you were so nice to me, always helping me out when I needed it (which was always, IIRC).

My heart goes out to you.
:( :hug:
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 02:52 PM
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61. Laura, I'm so sorry.
You have been such a good friend to me.

My heart aches for your loss of your dear husband. I'm so sorry.

Take good care, Laura.

:loveya:

Terry
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 03:35 PM
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62. Oh honey...
:cry:

I'm heartbroken for you and your family... I don't even know what to say...

You'll be in my prayers... I hope you can find yourself and be truly happy again someday. And I hope that someday is soon.

Bless you...
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GOPisEvil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 05:46 PM
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63. ...
Since I find words inadequate, please understand that I wish this could be delivered in person. :hug:

Be well, Laura.
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Debi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 06:59 PM
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64. I love Mr. Debi so much it hurts,
I can't imagine your pain but I understand you wanting to find you now that 1/2 of you is gone. :hug:
I'll miss you :loveya:
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RFKHumphreyObama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:37 PM
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65. Words cannot even begin to convey how sorry I am MrsG
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 07:38 PM by socialdemocrat1981
I wish there was some way I could just ease the pain that you and your children are experiencing. I feel so helpless sitting here and wishing I could do something

Peace, hugs, comfort, condolences, positive vibes -anything that I can extend to you and your children, Laura -you have them. You will be sadly missed by many here, including myself. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care:hug: :hug:
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FuzzySlippers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 07:55 PM
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66. Dear, sweet Laura....I am so sorry.
I know he was the love of your life. Please take good care of yourself. :hug:
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snailly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:43 PM
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67. I'm so sorry, MrsGrumpy
My husband is the same age as Leonard and looks bizarrely similar. He's also my best friend. I just don't know what I'd do without him. Since this happened, I've made sure I tell him I love him and ignore the petty shit that pisses me off so bad sometimes.
I just hope you find some peace eventually. I know that you will never be whole again. You will feel glee and joy through your children but there will always be someone missing. Try not to let your anger swallow you (I think it would me) and trust that there are women out here who do understand.

I'm sorry for rambling about myself but your situation has hit very close to home.
Please take care of yourself and those beautiful kids. You've still got a lot of life left in you too.


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yvr girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 08:54 PM
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68. It was to soon
You're too young to be a widow. I know how much you loved him, and I can't even imagine what you must be going through. For now, you'll keep putting one foot in front of the other. You'll get up each morning, and somehow make it through each day.

I have every confidence that you will eventually thrive. You're a mom, your kids need you to keep going. You're a strong woman, and you're not done yet.

If you ever feel like visiting here again, you'll be sure of a warm welcome. For now, you do what you need to do.

:hug: :love:


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Xipe Totec Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:00 PM
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69. The Weeping Gardner
Edited on Fri Sep-28-07 09:00 PM by Xipe Totec
with my deepest regrets.



I want to be
the weeping gardner
of the grounds you occupy,
and compost so early,
my soulmate.

In the rain to feed the garden snails,
organ of my voiceless pain,
surrendering your heart as food,
to the disheartened roses,
such pain clumps in my chest,
breathing is agony.

A hard fist, an icy blow,
an axe strike, homicidal and unseen,
a brutal push tumbled you.

There is no wider chasm than my wound,
I cry to misfortune and her companions,
I feel your death, more than my life.

Death took flight early,
and early came the dawn of morn,
and early it spills upon the ground.

I do not forgive death for loving you,
or forgive life for its distraction,
or forgive the ground,
or forgive oblivion.

With my hands I raise a storm,
of stones, bolts and strident axes,
thirsting and hungering for catastrophe.

With bare teeth I want to dig the ground,
and move the dirt part by part,
in dry and furious bites.

I want to mine the earth until I find you,
to kiss your noble skull,
unbind your body and return you,
to my garden and my fig tree.

Your soul that was,
so effortlessly gentle,
will flutter bird-like,
among the tall flowery trelises,
and will return at the murmur
of the iron gates,
where lovers meet.

You will lighten the shadow of my brow,
and your blood will flow through my garden.
Competing with the bees for a girl,
your velvet heart will summon forth,
a crop of snowy almond blossoms.
But my jealous voice will call you
away from the almond trees,
to the winged souls of the roses.
For we have much to talk about,
my soulmate,
my companion.

- Miguel Hernández
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Tektonik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:02 PM
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70. I'm speechless
:hug:
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JanMichael Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:15 PM
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71. Laura
We think of you all the time.

Michael and Stephanie
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devilgrrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:16 PM
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72. MrsG I'm so sorry - you will be missed
:hug:
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NC_Nurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:25 PM
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73. I'm so sorry, Laura.
I have thought about you a lot since I heard about this tragedy. My heart goes out to you and your kids.
I'm will miss you around here, and I completely understand you needing time to grieve and to heal. I wish you
peace and comfort. I will keep you and yours in my heart and my thoughts.

Take care. :hug:
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:31 PM
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74. I'm So Sorry Mrs. G.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this pain. I know how hard this much be and how much your entire being aches for him. I wish I knew what to say; and how to say it; but I just really don't know how without it sounding so cliche. I just know that as hard as seems, as hard as it is, day by day you will make it through this. Day by day you will get by with strength you never knew, and you will be all you can for your children. Sometimes, it may seem like too much. Sometimes, you may doubt your strength or your ability to be there for them. But you will be there for them nonetheless. You may always ache for him, but you will always remember him as well. You will hang in there Mrs. Grumpy, and the sun will rise for you again.

But for now, you have my deepest sympathies and I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

It'll be ok Mrs. Grumpy. In the end of it all, it will all be ok.

:hug:
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yellowdogintexas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 09:50 PM
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75. take the time you need, and come back whenever you can
you will be missed, but you have to do what YOU need for a while.

Things will be better, and that is really trite to say but it is true, but it does take time.


Take excellent care of yourself!

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Dystopian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 10:16 PM
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76. Bless your heart.....
I know what you're going through...I have been there, but our children were grown....I don't know where I've been...This is all so very unbelievable...

Praying that you will find peace of mind...I have no other words...


Sending love~

:hug:
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tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:54 PM
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77. MY dear Mrs. G
if here is ever anything that I can do - or even to listen - please let me know.


I feel for you and your family and send you hugs over the miles. Many people here care for you and we all send healing vibes to you.

:grouphug:
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Suich Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-28-07 11:58 PM
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78. I'm truly sorry, MrsG...
Thanks for the pictures. I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

:hug:
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JI7 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 01:16 AM
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79. i hope you do come back here
i wish this had not happened to you.
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FloridaJudy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 01:28 AM
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80. {{{{{MrsGrumpy}}}}}
Do what you need to do to heal. You will be missed.

If you ever need a cyberhug though, you can come here to get it.

:hug:
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laylah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 07:40 AM
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81. Oh Laura,
my heart breaks for you. I cannot imagine your pain but please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. Be good to YOU, dear, that is what MrG would want. You are loved by many. :hug:
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 08:00 AM
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82. Though you leave DU you will not leave our thoughts.
Though you may not recognize yourself, you are still you, enduring the hours. Those are wonderful pictures.
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Sugar Smack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 08:07 AM
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83. Laura, we love you and I understand
God, if I could take away some of your pain... there are no words. I care about you. So many of us do. PLEASE take care of yourself. Please take care.

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Phentex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 12:02 PM
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84. Please just take a break and know that you
have friends here and people who care about you.:grouphug:

I think of you every time I use my Maytag washer. :)

Take care and please come back.:hug:
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TK421 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 12:17 PM
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85. You will really be missed here...I'm sorry for your loss
:hug:
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LaurenG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 12:26 PM
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86. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers
May you be lifted up and held in love and may grace and comfort be given to you in abundance.

I will have courage for you Laura ... courage for you and yours my friend. :hug:
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 12:46 PM
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87. Wonderful photo tribute.
I can only imagine your pain. You need to do what you need to do to heal. We will miss you. I love the poem by Willie too!
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ZombieNixon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 01:03 PM
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88. *hugs*
Edited on Sat Sep-29-07 01:04 PM by ZombieNixon
I can't even imagine what you've been going through. :hug: Be well, Laura.
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Callalily Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 01:08 PM
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89. My heart weeps for you.
Sending your strength and lots and lots of hugs.
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Mutley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-29-07 01:11 PM
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90. ...
:hug: :hug: :hug:
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DemReadingDU Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-30-07 05:51 AM
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91. very nice pictures, wonderful memories
I am so sorry for your loss, it is so sad and painful to lose someone so close to you.
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YellowRubberDuckie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-30-07 09:51 AM
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92. Laura, we love ya, and we will miss having you around...
But know that if you decide that you want to come back that you are always welcome. You are in our prayers and our thoughts.
:hug:
Duckie
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-30-07 01:06 PM
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93. Mrs. Grumpy, you are a joy to have here at DU
But do what you have to do for yourself. We understand.
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Sweet Freedom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-30-07 02:10 PM
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94. He is still with you sweetie.
His physical presence may not be here, but every time you hear, see, smell, taste or feel something that reminds you of him, it is because he's right beside you sending you little messages that he's always with you. :hug:

(I love the first photo. He looks like he's about to venture off into the unknown, but he's just to damn cool and gorgeous to worry about what's out there. Thank you for sharing some of your favorite pictures.)

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plcdude Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Oct-01-07 04:37 PM
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95. we will miss you
but you don't have to make a permanent decision. We're here and ready and willing to listen, to care, to support, to help in any way that we can. We stand on our DU porch looking across the field and if we see you we will run out to meet you and throw a party for you and your family.
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Redstone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Oct-01-07 06:11 PM
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96. Whether you're you or not, we'll be with you, and here if you need us.
Redstone
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WannaBeGrumpy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-03-07 10:04 AM
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97. I love you Mommy...
I'm missing him a lot today...miss you :loveya:
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helderheid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-03-07 10:14 AM
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100. I'm so sorry for your loss
:hug:
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WannaBeGrumpy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-03-07 10:26 AM
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104. thank you
:hug:
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-03-07 10:16 AM
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101. I'm sorry for your loss too
:hug:

Hold each other close.
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WannaBeGrumpy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-03-07 10:25 AM
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103. thanks
:hug:
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-04-07 01:06 AM
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106. *hugs*
:hug:
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-04-07 01:24 AM
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108. I'm sorry for your loss too, WannaBe.
You dad sounded like an amazing man, and he and your mom loved each other so much.

Take care of yourself.

:hug:

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zanne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-03-07 10:09 AM
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98. Im so sad that you're going through this.
I don't know what to say except that my heart hurts for you.
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snacker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-03-07 10:13 AM
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99. Take all the time you need...
I can't imagine your pain, but I know that everyone needs to grieve in his/her own way. You will remain in our thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing the pictures of the lovely man your heart grieves for. Know that we are all here for you... Peace
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Dastard Stepchild Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-03-07 10:18 AM
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102. I'm terribly sorry.
I've been away from DU for quite a while now, and am just reading of your husband's passing. I am very sorry for your loss. Your husband was just a few years older than mine, and I honestly don't know what I would do were I in your shoes. Crumple into a little ball and not move for a million years, most likely.

I'm very, very sorry.
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Missy Vixen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-03-07 11:47 AM
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105. I am so sorry, MrsGrumpy
My soul hurts for you. I wish there was anything I could say to make you feel better. The only thing I can think of to say is that as long as we remember him, he's still with us.

Thinking of you :hug:,
Julie
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amitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-04-07 01:17 AM
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107. I'm more sorry than words can say.
Edited on Thu Oct-04-07 01:18 AM by amitten
I can never ease your pain but I will say a prayer for you and your family.

So so sorry. :hug:
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-04-07 01:43 AM
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109. OMG Mrs. Grumpy...
:hug: :hug: :hug:

There is nothing to say that would make sense...

:hug:

:grouphug:
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