Ever watch "TELL ME YOU LOVE ME"?

[MrScorpio]

I'm checking out the episodes on On Demand

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[lost-in-nj]

1. the show does not live up to the hype

watched the first two episodes on demand and
was not impressed



lost

[MrScorpio]

2. I pretty much ignored the hype

I'm looking at it as a primer on how incompetent couples manipulate each other using sex and commitment

[Hell Hath No Fury]

3. I am enjoying it so far.

I tend to like these types of shows -- lots of said/unsaid things between people, who reflect my own experiences in relationships. When the wife spied her husband masterbating -- the emotions that flashed across her face were IMTIMATELY familiar to me! :D

The much ballyhooed sex scenes were very interesting in just how -- what's the word?, antiseptic?, unmoving?, -- they were. I loved how we were just a completely passive viewer of such intimate acts.

I am liking the actors and their characters so far. One local reviewer wrote that the show was very good, just perhaps not "entertaining" the way we have come to expect our from TV. I fear it could become like watching that 8+ hour movie by Andy Warhol that featured people sleeping -- an interesting exercise, but ultimately boring as hell.

I'll be tuning in until I decide otherwise.

[MrScorpio]

4. I agree with you 1000%

The sex scenes, which I pretty much discount and view them just as sexual checkpoints, are pretty much passionless and awkward.

Looking at the nuances, I think are the more interesting things.


I've already categorized all the women. Here we go.

- The Single woman who broke up with her fiance: She has no idea how to operate in a relationship. I think that she can't because she can't possibly allow herself to love on her own terms. She felt compelled to be in the relationship outside of her own control, whether it was from her controlling mother or her mate, who just really felt unsure about her because he demonstrated so much jealous behavior. So she found it necessary to engage in a whole exercise of passive/aggressive behavior in order to control her mate. He left her, thus she lost the ability to control him. It's not about love at all.

He's best to stay away from her ass until she learns to like and respect herself.

- The Younger married couple: This wife is obviously equating having a baby with being in a relationship. She's envious of all the other couples around her, who in her mind, are having happy relationships because they're having babies. Frankly, I think that this is a typical hormonal urge on her part. She really wants to be a mother, no problem with that. But unfortunately, she equating her worth as a wife and mate with her ability to conceive children. Because of this, she's taken the romance and lust out of the relationship. It's all very mechanical. No man, BTW, is turned on by mechanical sex, thus it fuels his frustration and creates a distance between them.

It's a horrible feedback loop between these two. If they really want to have a baby, they should stop fixating on that and start getting really freaky with each other. Get lusty, and the baby will come.

- The Older married couple: They're bored, pure and simple. I'm sure that they love each other and they really want to be together, but I'm afraid that they really just don't care about sex anymore. It's like paying the bills or taking out the garbage... It's like a household chore.

They need a vacation, away from the house, away from the kids... Find out what really got them together in the first place. You can see this because they're fixating on the anniversary. They need a break from being mom and pop and a recharge at being each other's favorite fuck bunnies.

- The Therapist: She's obviously having a great time with her wonderful boyfriend. Nothing wrong with that relationship at all, except for the issue that she's married and needs to break with her husband. There are still feelings to deal with and I'm sure that after so many years, its difficult to make a complete break.

She needs to put the past behind her so she can have free and complete fulfillment with her current guy.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

5. The single gal...

was the characeter I was having the most problem with. I found her shrill and overreactive -- which is probably exactly what she is supposed to be. :) And I liked the whole "If we just have hot sex it will fix all those other pesky problems we are ignoring" thing they have going. Ah, to be that young again!

I find the older married couple interesting -- I feel they are most representative of myself (though I am unmarried) and most of the people I know. I liked that they chose the husband as the one to have dropped sex from their lives, instead of the more predictable choice of the wife. I think the chance to explore just what the roles can should be/can be of sex and intimacy are in a long term relationship is a good one with this couple.

It's my hope that, over time, the series really challenges what sex/intimacy/relationship mean and how they can look/be different for different people -- I hope they don't get to fixated on one view of what a "success" looks like.

[MrScorpio]

6. The older couple is the most interesting one

They have the most potential for success.

But how exciting is that?

[Missy Vixen]

7. They're the most interesting to me, too

Due to heavy foreshadowing and the last five minutes of last night's episode, it's pretty clear to me what the wife's problem is. I look forward to seeing how it's resolved.

Julie