I'm going to need your love and support because I've broken up with the repuke.

[crim son]

This time I did it. I'm really sad but on Saturday night he grabbed me and jerked me around in public, at the place I usually hang out. The bouncers came over and asked if I was all right and went to toss him out but he'd already left. There's no way I can see him again after that. Right?

I tend to fall in love with the wrong guys! At least this time I didn't marry him. :cry:

No response required: just a request to be nice to me!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

1. ohh baby i hope you are ok. please please dont go out wiht him again.

[crim son]

6. I'm okay; thanks.

I'm a little bit afraid so I've locked all the doors and shut the curtains etc., turned the phone off, blocked emails etc.

I won't go out with him again. He has two sweet daughters and I don't want to be messing with their heads, either.

[KG]

27. want me to beat him up?

you deserve better.

i recommend...me :hi:

[Bake]

34. Shoot! Let's ALL go whup his ass!

Bake

[Starbucks Anarchist]

2. ...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[crim son]

7. ...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

3. I am so sorry crim son

:hug:

I wish you the best. You deserve the best :loveya:

[crim son]

8. If not the best, then at least somebody

who isn't pissed off all the time! :loveya:

[MissHoneychurch]

10. The best for YOU!!!

and he definitely wasn't that

:hug:

[Sugar Smack]

4. WE have the same story!!!!

Mine never jerked me around in public, but he was superlatively stupid.

Gotta hug for you ---->:hug: Right here. You did the right thing.

[crim son]

9. I'm really sorry you've had the same stuff going on.

There are different kinds of stupid. I almost prefer the idiot who doesn't know where California is on the map to the idiot who doesn't know when he's got his head up his ass. Thanks, Sugar Smack. And it's good to see you on DU! :hug: :loveya:

[Richardo]

15. Both of you deserve better.

:hug: crim son

:hug: Sugie

[Sugar Smack]

17. Baybay!!!

It's so good to see you. :D :loveya:

[Richardo]

18. Likewise I'm sure!

:loveya: :pals: :hi:

[BarenakedLady]

5. *hugs*

:hug:

No you can't see him again after that. Well you definately SHOULDN'T anyway. You did the right thing, love. It would have only gotten worse.

:hug:

[crim son]

12. You are right, and you've told me that before.

He asked me for a committment and once I gave it he became more... moody. I feel badly for myself of course (really, really fucking badly!!) but I also feel badly for him. He's really an extraordinary person. Oh well. I would prefer a little more ordinary and a little less anger I guess.

[lost-in-nj]

11. Ah Crim son

please stay away from him...
You know its for the best.
I am so glad your alright...
geesh girl it could have been worse......

:hug: :hug:

We're here for you.....


lost

[crim son]

14. Thanks you, lost.

DU has been my crutch since before I determined to get a divorce. You all mean a lot to me.

[Heidi]

13. crim son, no one should be manhandled and/or humiliated.

Yes, you can choose to continue to see him, but I suspect that would tell him that it's okay to manhandle and humiliate you.

You're gonna be okay. I'm sending you healing energy. :hug:

[mzteris]

16. And no matter how much or how

sweetly and (pretend) contritely he comes crawling back and apologizes - DON"T GIVE IN!

(And then of course he'll become screaming abusive toward you. And blame you for ALL OF IT! And then he'll apologize profusely again and blah blah blah di frickin' dah.)

It WILL only escalate. You KNOW that. If he jerks you around in public while you're dating - just think what he'll do over time and in private. You DON"T want to go there.

I suspected as much about the controlling behaviour when he'd so "nicely bring you coffee in the morning." Ha. He was just checking to make sure you were alone.


He may have nice daughters, but it's through nothing he's done. Imagine how he treats them when he's mad. On second thought, don't imagine that. They are NOT your children to concern yourself with.

I'm sorry. Really I am. I KNOW how scary and devastating it can be. How charming how utterly wonderful he probably IS - when everything is going just exactly how HE WANTS IT, of course.

You knew though, you really did know all along he wasn't the right guy for you. Next time, trust that little voice that's saying - "uh, no."

Again, :hug: I'm sorry. Really. But better now and a little embarrassment - than later and the hospital.

[IndianaJones]

19. Good for you. nt.

[supernova]

20. So sorry that happened to you

crim son.

:hug:


Yes, you did the right thing. You deserve someone who will treat you with the utmost respect. We all do. :hug:

[Fire Walk With Me]

21. "Get out" is a good response to having been man-handled like that.

Glad you found out now and not further down the road, and in worse ways.

A better one awaits!

Be well.

[Evergreen Emerald]

22. Perhaps a counselor would help you.

You are still in the midst of the dysfunctional relationship and cannot see it for what it is. It is so hard not to go back, but you will be so much healthier in the long run if you can step back and just let go.


I wish you peace.

[wain]

23. It's an automatic so long for good

No decent man EVER physically abuses a woman. Ever.

This cad has just stated clearly what a future relationship holds for you. No matter the apology. The act should be a clear warning and raise all the red flags loud and clear.

Hang in there. You're going to do just fine.

[raccoon]

24. Please stay away from him! He's just trouble. nt

[Guava Jelly]

25. You know you will have it from me

:hug:
I'm sorry my friend.
It is his loss.
If you need to vent feel free to pm me here or on myspace.
I am sorry again. :(

[Blue_Roses]

26. be glad your out of it...

it doesn't get better when they start shoving. You deserve someone great...he's out there, but for now, you have friends:hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

Oh no

That is completely out of line and you did not deserve that at all. Good for you for being strong enough to end it after that.

I promise to be extra nice to you now.

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

28. *hugs* He's a bum. You are too good for him!

[NewJeffCT]

29. I'm glad you're rid of him

You're too good for him.

:hug:

[MissMillie]

30. you always have our love and support, my dear

and if someone is treating you badly, then we're glad you're not putting up with it.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

31. My dear crim son...

Oh, sweetie...

I am so sorry...

Yes, please stay away from him...

And after all the terrific things he did for you...

The fucking idiot!

I'm here for you, you know that...

:hug: :hug:

[plcdude]

32. I am sorrry

to hear about this but you are doing the right thing. Respect yourself. Just be careful and circumspect for a while.

[Arugula Latte]

33. You are worth waaaaay more than that.

It's a good thing it's over. A very good thing.

:pals:

[LanternWaste]

35. My best friend once told me...

My best friend once told me, "It's much better to be miserable because you're alone than it is to be miserable because you're with someone..."

True-- it does sometime suck to be single, but look on the upside: afternoon naps whenever you want them, eating what you want rather than eating a compromise (which still tastes horrible regardless of how much soy sauce you put on it), you get to control the channel changer, you get the couch all to yourself, you can do laundry (or not...), and our number one good reason to be single (from our home office in Peoria, IL) is... when you're single, you can can tell the person criticizing your driving to "get the hell out of my car!"

I'm sorry this happened to you, but you know you're better off. (My best thoughts coming at you...)

[skygazer]

36. I'm so sorry but you did the right thing

I'm sure you're hurting but I hope you can also feel a justifiable pride in having the strength to see it was wrong and to end it. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[MrScorpio]

37. It's hugging time

:hug:

Please, stay away from the jerks.

They're no good

[guitar man]

38. what was it Dolly Parton said in "9 to 5" ?

oh yeah, she said "I think we should hire a couple of rounders to go beat the shit out of him..." :evilgrin:

seriously, take care and don't see him again, you deserve better, much better. :hug:

[redqueen]

39. You're gettin a response anyway

:hug:

[laylah]

40. ...

I am so sorry :hug: You did the right thing. He had no right at all, putting his hands on you in that fashion, in public or anyplace else.

[Shakespeare]

41. OMG, I'm glad you're OK.

Please, please do not take this scumbag back, no matter what kind of sob story he feeds you. :hug: