she will turn 87 next month. She is in an elderly home since begin of the year. She is blind. Begin of this year they implanted her a pacemaker (for whatever stupid reason). Now she is slipping away real fast. Her short memory is pretty much gone. You can tell her something and a couple of minutes later she has forgotten everything. She is not able to get up anymore, doesn't talk anymore, doesn't eat much anymore (only mash). My aunt visited her this weekend and she didn't even recognized her anymore. I will most likely visit her coming weekend. As it looks at the moment she won't live very much longer. I hope they won't force feed her. I really hope that stupid pacemaker isn#t going to prolong a life that isn't a life anymore.
It sure isn't improving my mood. I am scared that I get the phonecall from my aunt that my grandma died. On the other hand I don't want her to suffer ...
When harleydad's 98-year-old grandma was dying a few months ago, he called and told her that he loved her and hoped that she went peacefully. She thanked him and they said goodbye to each other. She was gone two days later. He had talked with her about dying several times before that and knew that she did not wish to have her life prolonged. We were all relieved that she died quickly while her some of her grandchildren were with her and she was talking on the phone with her daughter. Strange as it sounds, we wished she would die before someone had the chance to hook her up to a bunch of machines.
I hope you get to see your grandma again and that she goes quickly.
I am not even sure she would recognize me when I visit her. But we don't know if she maybe has better days again. Doesn't look like it though. This week will tell. I am sure glad I visited her end of June. She was really happy back then about the visit and my aunt tells me she talked about it for weeks afterwards.
and she doesn't recognize you, please just concentrate on that June visit. You'll still be glad you visited her again. :hug: What a great thing that you made such a big difference to her!
she is noticing that we are here. Just talked to my brother. He is coming too. I will call him later that week again and let him know when I will be there (we agreed on Sunday) and he comes down from Berlin.
I'm glad she has such thoughtful grandchildren. You know, grandmas are so special to grandchildren that the grandchildren sometimes don't realize how special they are to grandmas. My grandson thinks he loves me more than I love him. :rofl:
Grandma's important. It's awful for her to have to live in confusion, my best friend's grandmother was so unhappy for her last couple of years. If you see her this weekend just try to do something to make her laugh or smile or know that you love her :hug:
I don't know if she will recognize me or anybody else. But I do believe that our presence alone will make her feel a bit better and loved for sure. If she can show it or not doesn't matter.
thank you very much. Both my grandfathers are gone already. It will be strange to have only one grandma left. But that is the course of the time. We all have to die. Too bad we can't keep our loved ones around ud forever.
She also was in a nursing home for the last year and a half following a stroke. She was 89. It was really a mercy that she went now instead of lingering further. But still, I know it's tough. Best wishes to you and your family.
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