I have a question, lounge...

[TOhioLiberal]

...tomorrow is the STBE's birthday. Should I call him to wish him well? Or ignore it?

[Guava Jelly]

1. Crap in a box and give it to him

.. :D

[Deja Q]

3. But tell him it's instant putting!

[TOhioLiberal]

7. Wouldn't it be...

...a little firm to be pudding? :rofl:

[Deja Q]

8. Not if you add milk and mix it with a spoon!

:spray:

[TOhioLiberal]

16. Now stop that!

...You're gonna get this thread locked! :spray::rofl:

[TOhioLiberal]

6. LOL...

evil GoPsUx!! :spank: I would never consider such a thing!

[Omphaloskepsis]

2. Since you are even considering it...

I assume that you don't think it will be a painful conversation.

I would call. It can't hurt. Just make it short and sweet. Even better, try to leave him a message.

[TOhioLiberal]

9. It has potential to be painful...

:shrug:

[ThomCat]

4. I'd ignore it.

Someone else can wish him a happy birthday.

:hug:
Your life is separate from his, and that's a good thing.

[TOhioLiberal]

12. Ah yes...

...and I'm glad of it! but there's other things to consider. Like twisting the knife in his back a little. Since the boys were little, it's been traditional that the birthday boy/girl gets the meal of his/her choice. His choice always was meatloaf and fried potatoes. Will Hootchie make that for him? Doubtful. I'm thinking a little sarcasm, wrapped in honey tones. 'Gee STBE, what are you gonna have for dinner.'

My meatloaf is to die for. :)

[skygazer]

46. Don't indulge in those games. Please don't.

They're not worth it and only serve to make you look a little pathetic. Do you really think he's going to have regret for MEATLOAF at this point? If you and kids and responsibilities and love and promises and everything else haven't caused him any second thoughts, why would meatloaf? No matter how good.

Look forward, not back. Think about fulfilling YOUR life, not dabbling in his.

No, I would not call him and I wouldn't waste my thoughts on him or wonder what he was doing or what he was eating or anything else. Do something nice for you. Leave him to his own devices.

[TOhioLiberal]

47. You're right..

...I just can't help but want to try to hurt him as much as I've been hurt. But I'm not going to talk to him at all today, if I can help it.

[skygazer]

49. I do understand that, believe me

But I'm also a firm believer that people reap what they sow and that those who behave dishonorably will eventually come to grief because of it. Sometimes its hard to let it happen on its own but the problem with helping it along is that we get caught up in poor behavior, even though it seems to be for a good cause.

The best revenge is living well. Live well. :hug:

[TOhioLiberal]

51. I've kept myself busy all morning...

...packing for my 'big move'. 12 days and counting. :woohoo: Then I will forever be beyond the power of him hurting me. :hug:

[Gormy Cuss]

52. Make the meatloaf.

Eat it and remind yourself that you can enjoy a damn fine meatloaf without him. Think of it as a metaphor.

Ignore his birthday. skygazer is right on target.

[SeattleGirl]

5. Ignore it.

He hasn't exactly treated you well, my friend. In fact, maybe you could do something nice for YOU tomorrow!

[TOhioLiberal]

14. That's a good idea...

...I'll have to give that some thought....

[City of Mills]

10. Yeah, i'd say no...

...'we' got together for our anniversary post-breakup; we both felt it'd be too weird to just not call or just hang out... BUT we would've been better off if we hadn't - it was just awkward and uncomfortable for both of us.

[TOhioLiberal]

18. you're probably right...

...awkward. Very awkward.

[Haole Girl]

11. For what he's put you through?

Just ignore it. He doesn't sound like he's worth the time of day, as the expression goes. :hug:

[TOhioLiberal]

21. I'm leaning that way...

...:hi:

[Fire Walk With Me]

13. Do something nice for yourself instead.

[TOhioLiberal]

22. I gotta think what that would be...

...not a lot of money right now.

[Wapsie B]

15. Ignore it and go do something fun for you.

[TOhioLiberal]

23. maybe I'll go to a movie...

...if I can find one I'd like. :shrug:

[Wapsie B]

36. Yeah, that's not easy for me.

Not always one playing that captures my interest.

[TOhioLiberal]

37. Not easy for me either...

...not a fan of The Simpsons. Underdog? Looks underwhelming. Rush Hour 3? Please. I didn't see 1 or 2. :shrug:

[Wapsie B]

38. I know.

I can't get into Harry Potter at all. And outta this list I'd be hard-pressed to find a few I'd like to see:

http://movies.yahoo.com/mv/boxoffice/;_ylt=AqzL5Wnmz5xX4xQuhWAy6N5fVXcA

Maybe pick one by throwing darts at the list. :P

[wildhorses]

17. ignore it...maybe it will go away and leave you alone

[TOhioLiberal]

24. I hope it does...

finally...I can't wait to leave for Texas. :woohoo: 13 days and counting. :woohoo:

[wildhorses]

31. wo0t!

:applause:

[mzteris]

19. ignore it

but I can bet you he'll find some excuse to call YOU because he won't believe that you're not going to wish him well.

Then if you STILL don't say anything, he'll probably bring it up.

I'd still say nothing other than a noncommittal - "oh yeah, that is today, isn't it?"

Better yet - don't answer the phone if he calls. Go out. Or pretend you have.

FORGET HIS DAMN BIRTHDAY.

And make sure he damn well believes you damn well don't give a damn about his damn birthday!!

(whew - that was a lot of damns - but then again, I mean it, damn it! :) )

[TOhioLiberal]

25. He won't call...

...pouting's always been his thing. :eyes:

[RetroLounge]

20. Leave it be...

Your meatloaf will be for someone else someday who appreciates it...

:hug:

RL

[TOhioLiberal]

26. It's a very good meatloaf...

:9 He doesn't deserve it.

[Lex]

27. Would he call you to wish you a happy birthday

without having an agenda of some kind--just out of the kindness of his heart?

If you said, 'no probably not' then don't call him either.

[TOhioLiberal]

29. I don't know...

...I doubt it.

[Dangerously Amused]

28. Make the meatloaf and fried potatoes.

For yourself.


And don't call him.


THEN, when he calls YOU for some inconsequential reason either that day or the next, whatever time he calls, the response is, "Sorry, I can't talk right now. I was just about to sit down to a nice warm plate of meatloaf and fried potatoes, and I don't want it getting cold. You understand." =click=



:hug:

[TOhioLiberal]

32. now that's twisting the knife!

I like this idea. :thumbsup:

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

30. I'd ignore it

As hard as that may be. Try to keep busy throughout the day and not think about it.

[TOhioLiberal]

33. I'm thinking of ignoring it...

...although I was looking forward to having meatloaf. Maybe I will.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

34. My dear TOhioLiberal!

Definitely do not call!

Let him squirm...

He is not worth your time or your trouble!

And I sure as hell agree with the other posters here: Do something nice for yourself!

:loveya: :hug: :loveya:

[TOhioLiberal]

35. I've already decided I'm not calling...

...I'm thinking of making my (to die for) meatloaf...

I can't decide what to do for myself.:shrug:

[amitten]

39. What is an STBE? n/t

[TOhioLiberal]

41. It's an shortened version of

...soon to be ex (husband, in my case)

[SPKrazy]

40. Ignore it

the road to indifference is best made one step at a time.

fuck him!

[TOhioLiberal]

42. Thanks SPK...

that's exactly what I'm trying to do. :hug:

[Callalily]

43. I agree with

all above, just forget it. And please purge your thoughts of "twisting the blade". Use that energy more wisely - use it on yourself. I know that part is hard, but you'll feel better about yourself, now and later.

[TOhioLiberal]

44. Oh I know that...

...twisting the blade serves no good purpose. I wish he was as miserable as I am.

[Left Is Write]

45. I'd ignore it.

He doesn't deserve your well wishes.

[TOhioLiberal]

48. I'm ignoring it...

...been busy packing all morning. Every time I think about feeling guilty about not calling, I remember how he marked our wedding anniversary this year and I get over it. :hug:

[BarenakedLady]

50. Forget it

:hug:

[TOhioLiberal]

53. It's already forgotten...

thanks m'dear. :hug:

[Parche]

54. stbe

What is an 'STBE' :shrug: :shrug: :hi:

[TOhioLiberal]

55. STBE...

...is Soon To Be Ex...husband in my case. But I'll bet you knew that. :) :hi:

[Parche]

57. Not really

I dont know alot of computer jargon, like IHIP?MIHOP/LIHOP HOPSCOTCH/HIPPITYHOP BEERHOP

:hi:

[TOhioLiberal]

58. Sorry...

...it's hard to tell if/when someone's pulling my leg. :hi:

[Parche]

59. Pulling Leg

Now that sounds kinky!! :rofl: :rofl: :hi:

[TOhioLiberal]

61. Kinky...

:rofl::rofl:

[supernova]

56. No, make it a point to go do something nice for yourself

Purposefully go do something you like to do: get your hair done, go to a movie, sit in a park. Whatever it is, go do that. I wouldn't even call him to say hi. If he does happen to call, fein indifference. "Gee, I'm so busy I hadn't noticed the date." Either way, he'll get the message.

[TOhioLiberal]

60. Yep, that seems to be...

...the way to go. :hi: