Internet friendships are the worst.

[billyskank]

Oh, people say they love you, you're such a good friend. And then one day *poof* they won't answer your messages. And people say, oh that's awful, I'd never do that to you, and then go and do the exact same shit to you themselves.

Internet friendships are NOTHING. It is too easy for people to walk away from them. I hate this fucking crap.

[XemaSab]

1. word

n/t

[wildhorses]

2. i know what you mean --

unfortunately, i KNOW what you meanx(

:cry:

i still love you, billy:*

:hug:

[LSK]

3. been there too

[skygazer]

4. I know what you mean

:(

:hug:

[supernova]

5. That's terrible

:hug:

I can't imagine anyone wanting to do that to you billyskank.

[billyskank]

6. People do it to me all the time.

[prolesunited]

34. If it's a pattern

perhaps you can figure it out and do something to change it. Think of whatever is going on as growing pains and learn from it.

You can't change other people, only your behavior and your response to others' actions.

[RetroLounge]

7. It happens.

unfortunately.

Sorry it happened to you...

:hug:

RL

[Haole Girl]

8. People suck, in general, don't they?

Do you need a cat? ;-)

Write to me, if you need to talk.. ok? :hug:

[Guava Jelly]

9. I 'm sorry that you are going through this

I disagree with your statement though.
Yes some internet friendships are meaningless but some are very very real.
I have met some truly beautiful people on the internets.
Friends I wouldn't trade for anything
That is my story and i am sticking to it.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

10. That's why I don't have 'em.

You never know who you could be "befriending." It's rather silly unless you know the person in real life.

[billyskank]

14. Yes.

It is silly.

[Midlodemocrat]

16. No, it isn't.

And, from swimboy, someone who has met you and says you are just as nice IRL as you are on the 'nets.

Friendships are never silly. :hug:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

17. But c'mon, billy....

If you've been having fun doing it, don't let that get you down. ;)

[Midlodemocrat]

11. I'm sorry, sweetie.

Maybe the person is busy? Or didn't get your message? I can't imagine that someone would intentionally be unkind to you.

:hug:

:loveya:

[bicentennial_baby]

12. Billy....

:hug:

Maybe they're like me, I'm notoriously bad at returning messages. I mean, really, really bad. :(

:loveya:

[lost-in-nj]

13. hey you

:hug: :hug: :loveya:



lost

[TZ]

15. I'm sorry...

I value all my friendships internet or not and would never do that to anybody, here or in real life.
I suspect that if someone is going to just do that they aren't someone you would want to be friends with anyway.
I recently made a very good internet friend that I am *terrified* is going to go *poof* one of these days, not because he doesn't care but because his life is so complex and busy that he just won't have time for me (as it is I rarely speak to him directly because of that). Sometimes life gets in the way too. Maybe these people have some real issues that you don't know about. Maybe they will come back when they work it out. As it is I still think a friend is a friend, internet or not and should be valued when found.:hug:

[MissMillie]

18. I'm sorry that someone treated you badly

:hug:

[kwassa]

19. Internet romances, on the other hand ...

13 years and counting.

Married 8 years.

It does happen.

[Rhythm]

22. 8 yrs and counting here, too...

Oktoberain and i met, of all places, in a chatroom...

After 4 months of IMs and later phone calls, she moved in with me!

[Parche]

20. I Feel Your Pain

Maybe some.....but I have one who I do tons of travel for, they go on a few trips each year
and we chat at least 3times a week..........:hi:


This is your internet :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

21. My dear billy...

I'm sorry someone is being cruel to you...

You, of all people, who is the heart and soul of kindness and great intelligence, and sensitivity...

I will never turn my back on you, and you know it...

I have been very lucky with all my internet friendships...

No-one has turned his/her back on me, and several folks here are very close friends...

The internet has changed my life, and for the better...

And I so wish this were true for you, sweetie...:hug:

[BarenakedLady]

23. If I wasn't out of town

Babysitting for FIVE (5), yes five kids (wasn't I supposed to be on vacation?) I would go smoosh some love on your arse (well not literally, but you know what I mean). I had to tackle two 7 year old boys just to wrestle my laptop away from them. I believe I got scratch marks and an oddly shaped bruise.

:* :hug: :*

[plcdude]

24. Yes that

sucks but wait and see.

[Blue_Tires]

25. internet relationships are not all that better

[Critters2]

26. Who was it?!!

Let me know, cuz I will kick their ass. Or at least send 'em an e-mail in ALL CAPS!!!! Mess with my DU friends, will they?!!

Sorry this has happened. Wish I could do something to make it better. You let me know!

In the meantime...:hug:

[SPKrazy]

27. I disagree

I've made some good friends on the internets and while there are disappointments (just as there are in real life and it is possible to walk away from those too) they are worth it.

I'm sorry that you are hurting but I don't know that it is just the internet.

Although there is a mentality amongst some that seems to say that internet friendships are not real.

I don't feel that way.

:hug:

[femmocrat]

28. Sorry, Billy.... I do know what you mean, though.

:hug:

[u4ic]

29. People do that in real life, too

Billy, are you sure that something isn't going on in that person's life; perhaps they got incredibly busy, or have lost internet access?

:hug:

[hfojvt]

30. they are sorta nothing even if people don't walk away

It's not like they can help you move or lend you their DVD of "Tank". At least I find that they stay pretty casual. That may just be my poor socialization skills though, or my defensiveness. The ability to walk away, though, is one of their advantages. I think I would say good-bye though or explain why I was mad or whatever.

[Wapsie B]

31. You are correct sir.

It's hard to think of them as real until someone puts for that effort to move beyond their keyboard and make an honest to goodness connection with another. As for me it doesn't matter, online or off. True friendships don't come easily to me at all.

[BlooInBloo]

32. Internet people are just well-made Eliza programs.

[Left Is Write]

33. I have had internet friendships end, just as I have had RL friendships end.

I had a particular relationship end after having been accused of a particularly heinous "crime" (which I did not commit). That was incredibly painful, because this person and I had been friends for years, and I still miss the rapport we had.

But internet friendships are not nothing. I have made many friends in a dozen years on the internet, and while some relationships have come and gone, I still have strong ties to people I've been communicating with in one form or another for a good while.

I'm heartily sorry you have been hurt by someone.

[Heidi]

35. This is sad.

Do you really think our friendship is NOTHING? :(

I'm sorry you're feeling abandoned by a friend, billyskank, but what you've just said isn't true of all internet friendships. :hug: :loveya:

[tjwmason]

36. They're easier to walk away from,

and my experience (perhaps too cynical) is that people do tend to be pretty crappy when they can.

:hug:

[sanguinivorous]

37. Friendships these days are meaningless...

...whether they're on the internet or not. They only last as long as someone finds somebody else entertaining.

Beyond that, it turns into work.

[In_The_Wind]

38. Some days are just like that, billyskank.

I've met some wonderful individuals on the internet and I've also met some real schmucks. One guy over in Connecticut disappeared while we were setting up a coffee date only to return again (twice) saying I'm sorry. After the first time I didn't pay too much attention the second time he went mia.

I'm sure you are reacting to a few rotten apples, missed emails, etc.
Some people say "expectations are premeditate resentments".


BTW ~ I'll be there to pick you up at the airport.

[lildreamer316]

39. ?

!

...luve ya....