Question about Friends and Significant Others

[La Lioness Priyanka]

1. Do you have any close friends that your SO does not like?

2. Does your SO have any close friends you dont like?

3. How do you guys handle this situation?

[6000eliot]

1. He has a guy whom he may or may not have had a "thing" with in the distant past.

The guy is obviously gay, but leads a completely "straight" life now with a wife and kids. It's probably irrational jealousy for me to hate him so much, but I do. How do we deal with it? Awkward silence works for me.

[Lex]

2. Your SO should go do stuff separately with their friend.

Or you should go do stuff separately with your friend.

Whichever the case may be.

Easy-peasy.

[skygazer]

3. Not now but in the past

I've had both scenarios. It was never a problem - we just did things on our own with our own friends and did things together with friends we shared.

[JVS]

4. My answers

1. I have no significant other, so no!

2. See #1

3. Whenever you hate your SO's friend, your SO is not required to adjust unless you swear "blood oath"
To swear "blood oath" you must take a sharp knife and cut a line across your right palm running from beneath the pinky to
beneath the thumb (see red line in illustration below). At this point you place your hand over your gun (or sword, if you're
oldschool) which should be on a table in a clear spot of the room. This is when the oath-swearing begins. You make a
declaration that you hate this person and that if you have an opportunity to smite him/her that you will do so. At this point
your SO has been advised that he/she is to keep that friend out of your sight.



4. If you break your oath, you have no honor and your SO can dump you with it all being YOUR fault.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. you are a funny person.

:rofl:

[RetroLounge]

5. answers

1. Do you have any close friends that your SO does not like? - Yes

2. Does your SO have any close friends you dont like? - Yes

3. How do you guys handle this situation? - Divorce

RL

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. ohh retro..

i dont know whether to laugh or cry at your answers

[RetroLounge]

15. Please do both...

I do.

:hug:

RL

[Critters2]

12. By the time of our divorce,

I liked my SO's friends better than I liked my SO. Even the ones I didn't like.

[racaulk]

14. Retro...

:hug:

[terrya]

8. Answers

1) No

2) No

3) not an issue.

[bridgit]

9. 1) no, 2) no, 3) n/a...

[ceile]

10. He dislikes over 1/2 my friends

and the feeling is mutual. They don't even want to be around each other.
There's only one of his that I don't like. She's overly flirtatious, makes snide comments to me, etc.
As far as handling it-we don't. He avoids my friends or I go out w/ them and he does his own thing. But of course I get to hear about it later-how he's never invited to do anything. Because they don't like you!

[Critters2]

11. These days I seem to have neither SOs nor close friends

Maybe they liked each other and ran off together.

[LaraMN]

13. Hmmm.

1. Do you have any close friends that your SO does not like?

At present, no, but I have in the past.

2. Does your SO have any close friends you dont like?

Not really. Most of his close friends are friends with me, as well.

3. How do you guys handle this situation?

Historically, if he hated my friend(s), he just avoided being around them. He's not very good at hiding his own dislike of people.

[ThomCat]

16. I knew it!

Rockit hates me! :cry:

:P

[La Lioness Priyanka]

18. no, not at all

[ThomCat]

19. I know. Joking.

:P

:hug:

[Der Blaue Engel]

17. My SO and my ex-GF don't get along

She's now my closest friend (although I'm not hers...lol...does that say something about me or her?).

It makes for some logistical difficulties with special occasions and LGBT community events. I just try to plan "girls" outings with the ex (since my current SO is male), which solves a lot of the problems, but I've also missed things like her 40th birthday party because she didn't want him there to "spoil" it, which was hurtful.

I don't know; I always seem to end up in this situation, where my closest friend and my current partner clash. Maybe it's something I do subconsciously to keep them both to myself?

[Roon]

20. My ex so

All his friends were closet cases who wanted to get in his pants. nuff' said.

[Thirtieschild]

21. My husband's closest friends are - have always been - women.

I like all of them, we've most often become couple friends with and their husbands. Husband says he likes women better than men because we are wiser and more sensitive. He's a keeper. (And I've kept him - and he me - for 50 years.)

[mainegreen]

22. 1- Almost all of them, 2- No, 3-Very carefully.

:P

[Shine]

23. One of my hubby's best friends is an obnoxious, over-bearing jerk

but he's not consistent in his behavior. Sometimes he can be very pleasant and charming. It just depends on whatever mood he happens to be in, how much alcohol he's been drinking, or how stoned he is. He's very mercurial in that way. He's charismatic and yet always has to be the center of attention. He dominates conversations and tends to talk down to people as if HE is the only one who knows anything. MrShine and the wifey of said friend seem to be perfectly content letting him be the way he is, without calling him on his bad manners but Mama don't play that game. Sometimes I've gone head to head with him and it hasn't been pretty. They've been friends since high school and he was the best man at our wedding, too. I don't absolutely despise him, but I try to limit our interaction with him and practice Patience. It's a love/hate relationship, I'll leave it at that.

I'm not as patient as MrShine is.

[cobalt1999]

24. it's called acting

My wife has a few friends I find annoying, but I suck it up, put on a happy face, and pretend I'm in a movie playing a role. Thing is, my wife is grateful for my effort and "rewards me" afterwards. :)

[philosophie_en_rose]

25. 1. Yes. 2. Yes. 3. We get over it.

I wouldn't tolerate someone that was truly an asshat to either myself or boyfriend, but I also wouldn't tolerate someone that tried to control my friendships with others. We don't always enjoy or even like the same people, but neither of us needs permission or approval before being a friend.

With that said, I don't believe in taking shit from someone, just because they're friends with a SO.

[Nikia]

26. 1. My husband tries to like or at least tolerate all my friends

2. I have concerns about some of his friends. One of these friends, I used to like as a friend too. Then he said that he didn't really like talking to women unless he was trying to get sex. Of course I was offended. He told my husband to tell me that he didn't mean that in regards to me because I was one of the few women who he actually enjoyed talking to. Naturually, I am still offened and haven't gotten over it.
3. I let my husband see his friends without me.

[GaYellowDawg]

27. Well, let's see... this was in the past.

1. Yeah, they all hated her. Friends, roommates, family, everyone. She just refused to make any kind of effort with any of them.

2. No, I got along with her friends (and her family, for that matter).

3. Agonized over it and fought with her about it until the breakup. She gave no ground at all on anything (only child, Daddy's princess, etc.) and her refusal to treat my parents or friends with any modicum of respect doomed things.