remembering your child's wedding anniversary

[shanti]

is this really that important?? my oldest son just called me on the carpet because i "forgot his anniversary", which was two days ago. i told him that other than my OWN wedding anniversary, i just don't place any value in remembering others' anniversaries. of course, his wife's family went all out for them, gifts, etc.

what's the deal here?? my own mother thinks i should remember HER anniversary too (i don't)!

[crispini]

1. WTF.. that's loony.

You don't have to remember any anniversary other than your own....

[skygazer]

2. My parents and in-laws never remembered mine

But I do have to say, I usually remember my kids'. I think it's rather unreasonable to expect you to, though - if you did, that's nice but if not, so what?

[shanti]

10. apparently

to him, it means i'm "not caring"....

[petronius]

3. My parents remembered mine this year,

which is good because I didn't. :blush: (Actually, I think my wife forgot, too.) They sent us a card and a check, which was unnecessary but very cool...

However, I would definitely not chastise them for not remembering.

[Left Is Write]

4. I always try to say "Happy Anniversary" to my parents and siblings...

on their anniversaries, but I don't think any of them would find it a big deal if I didn't.

My parents have five children, all married, 11 grandchildren, and one grandchild on the way. When the next baby is born, that'll make 22 people. They have enough to do just remembering birthdays, let alone wedding anniversaries!

My husband's parents always send us a card and a modest gift for our anniversary. The big difference is that he's an only child, and his mother is very celebration-oriented (which can be lots of fun!).

I do know all of my siblings' anniversaries and my parents' anniversary, though.

[shanti]

8. yeah

my oldest is "celebration oriented" too. problem is, i am decidedly NOT, so something "must be wrong with me"! :eyes:

this isn't the first time this has happened.

[AngryAmish]

5. You have no obligation to remember that sort of thing

He is an adult. Does he expect a snickers or somethng?

[shanti]

9. no, money

lol

[YellowRubberDuckie]

6. My mom sent us a card last year. That's it.

Anything more than that would have been creepy.
Duckie

[azmouse]

7. The only time anyone has sent us an anniversary card

was for the 'big' ones... 10th and 20th. Other than that :shrug:

[soleft]

11. My anniversary is my mother's birthday, so....