Study finds guys not so naughty, gals not so noble

[pokerfan]

http://www.ajc.com/health/content/health/stories/2007/06/19/0620LVsexes.html?cxntnid=amn062007e

[SeattleGirl]

1. Why am I NOT surprised at this?

Throughout my life, I have discovered that I am much naughtier than most of the men I have met.

Not saying I am "bad" but unfortunately, that is how I and many women like me are seen.

The old Virgin v. Whore dichotomy.

What bullshit.

Why should being okay with who we are be gender-based?

Why are men who notice and appreciate women okay, but women who notice and appreciate a man's body not?

Okay, maybe that's not the point of the article, or the point of your OP, but this is what came to mind when I read it.

Dang it, I am who I am, and I'm really tired of feeling like there's something wrong with me because I don't fit into the "purity" mold.

(And if I am totally off base here, forgive me. It's late, I'm tired, etc. But articles like this one DO bring up a lot of stuff for me, and thus, a lot of emotion.)

[SKKY]

2. Pretty much what I already knew when I woke up this morning.

Most of the women I've dated, in the end, end up more "freaky" than I am. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

[SeattleGirl]

6. It's neither.

I think the main thing is that we find people who closely match where we are in this area. Not saying that other things aren't also important; they are.

But I have learned, the difficult way, that sexual incompatibility can really hurt a relationship.

[SKKY]

10. Oh yes it can. fatally so.

[SeattleGirl]

11. I know.

It can definitely be a relationship killer.

I realize that some people don't understand how that could be, but I believe it's true.

For some, it is an integral part of a relationship.

For others, it's a peripheral part of a relationship.

Neither side is wrong.

The problem is when the two types of people end up in a relationship together.

:sigh:

[pokerfan]

3. Well, that wasn't my intent

It was purely scientific. Women have hidden estrus along with hidden arousal (more or less). I can be looking at the body of the most beautiful supermodel or Playmate of the Month or whatever. If the face looks bored or disinterested, guess what? I'm not interested either. Male arousal is somewhat more apparent.

I'm sorry I managed to offend you. It wasn't my intention.

Fuck it. I'll just leave for a while.

[SeattleGirl]

4. I wasn't offended by you at all!

And I apologize if I gave that impression.

My issue wasn't with you; it was (and is) with the men and women who have the kinds of attitudes espoused in the article.

As I said, virgin v. whore.

Why can't women just be accepted for who we are. Some of us have a very high sex drive, just as some men do. Some of us don't, just as some men don't. We just are who we are, and that's the bone of contention I have (again, NOT with you).

To me, it's just as bad to look down on men who DON'T have a high sex drive as it is to look down on women who DO.

Again, I am not offended by you. In fact, I thank you for bringing this article here.

I like to pay attention to this issue, because I'm hoping like hell that eventually, this society can get to a place where people are accepted for who they are, and not denigrated because they don't fit some pre-conceived stereotype.

:hi:

[Guava Jelly]

5. I think rolls switch after a certain age

I think boys are hornier than men and women are hornier than g_rls.
but thats just imho.
There are quite a bit of Naughty G_rls here

[SeattleGirl]

7. I agree, and the basis of that is biology.

Men overall tend to hit their sexual peak in their 20's, whereas women don't hit theirs, overall, until their 40's.

And as to the Naughty Girls here, a lot of us ARE over 40, and I think that along with biological changes, we also get to the point where we just say, Fuck it to the societal conventions. I'm too "naughty" for you? Well, guess what? That's your problem, not mine! It's rather liberating.

(And darlin', when I say "you/your", I mean that only in a general way; my comments were not directed specifically at you. I hope you know that. ):loveya:

[Guava Jelly]

8. I definately know that seattlesexy

You are a bud :) :hug:
Hey i'm no prude :)

[SeattleGirl]

9. I know, and neiher am I.

And I've gotten mighty tired of years and years of trying to hide my non-prudeness.

And you are a bud, too! :loveya:

[Oeditpus Rex]

12. And for the 'Well, duh' part...

Men are more likely to look at a female's face before gazing at other body parts, according to a new study by researchers at Emory University.

There are 28,471,692,356 photos of nekkid female torsi on the intertubes (I counted), and when I see 'em, I'm like, "Gee — breasts."

Without a face about a foot above 'em, they just ain't much worth lookin' at. :shrug: