Atleast 10 times today, I have almost posted a response

[La Lioness Priyanka]

then thought better of it.

sigh!

so much second guessing of self, is giving me a headache.

:cry:

[ScreamingMeemie]

1. Go with it. I have.

I feel much better.

[Oeditpus Rex]

2. Take a deep breath

and leave it alone.

It's not worth it.

:hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

4. thats what i think.

not worth it.

[Marrah_G]

3. I do the same thing

Mostly because it's just not worth the argument. There are certain topics where either you become a complete cheerleader for the local popular crowd's opinion or you get flamed and sent nasty PMs by bullies. Some days I don't mind the fight, other times It's been a long day and it's not worth dealing with the jerks.

I almost just erased this post too, but screw it, you are not alone :)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

10. yeah its not worth dealing with bullies.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

11. dupe

[cwydro]

5. I hear ya babe.

not worth it.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. so true.

[NMDemDist2]

7. ok, i've been in and out of the Lounge all day

what thread am I missing that's causing all this angst among DUers I really like??

somebody give the clueless a clue eh?

[cwydro]

8. ah just the usual

pot and kettle thing.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

9. all over the place. no particular thread/person

[ScreamingMeemie]

12. People are nasty...

And then, when called on their nastiness...they act all aghast. Same stuff, different day. Same people. I use the term people loosely. I tend to like to think people would care. But quite a few obviously don't.

[NMDemDist2]

14. some people (and it seems especially so on the internet) don't seem to have

the ability to empathize with others. They rarely seem to be able to put themselves in another person's place and judge how they would react to a situation.

I'm not talking just of the Lounge, but of the internet (and real life too all too often) in general.

It's become my favorite way to get a Freeper at work, ask them what they would do if China invaded and occupied the US. I let em get all hot and tough talking about how we'd be sniping em and using guerrilla tactics then I innocently ask them "Do you suppose that's what the Iraqis are doing?"

:rofl:

the looks on the faces are priceless :evilgrin:

I think that's why I'm not in the 'cool kids' group around here, I usually just ignore the mean chit and move on.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

15. an alternative explanation is

one hears only one side of a story, considers that the only truth, and starts taking up battle for this side.

most stories have 2 sides to them.

[bicentennial_baby]

16. yes, they do

funny that you, of all people, should say that. actually, hilarious.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

18. and its equally funny to me that you think theres something wrong with this.

[bicentennial_baby]

26. something wrong with what, exactly?

[ScreamingMeemie]

20. And then sometimes, people are smart enough to form their own

opinions based on not hearing any stories, but instead based on their own interactions. Which is, in fact, the ultimate let down. It happens time and again to me...and bothers me all the same.

[NMDemDist2]

22. but that's the point! why in the world would you take up battle for something

that has nothing to do with *you* ???

although I must confess about the only flame wars I find myself in are about Gay Rights and I'm an old straight married woman so that issue doesn't effect me personally either.

I think it's rather sad that we have lost so many DUers to these silly Dramas that never should have been on a public forum in the first place. But that's just my opinion, your mileage may vary....

:hi:

[Gormy Cuss]

17. Hey NMDD2

We may not be cool kids but we can still have our own gang. The NoChit gang, mebbe.

[NMDemDist2]

24. hehehehe

or the "Clueless Club"

:hi:

[ScreamingMeemie]

23. I think the removal from the "real world" is what creates so much of the

ability to be mean.

I have said some not so nice stuff today perhaps. But I feel better. It's bugged me for awhile, and now it's gone. I just don't like to see gangpiling...regardless of whatever the supposed "stories" are. :hug:

[NMDemDist2]

27. absolutely! to gang up on anybody is wrong and against every pacifist

thing I've ever learned or believed. and I know people that don't come in here anymore *because* they were blasted and lied about. It has hurt some very fine people, starting with Cindy Sheehan all the way down to our newest member

That's why I just don't play (usually) OK OK the AA thread was one that struck too close to home and I came out guns blazing, but still tried to treat the naysayers with respect and humor.

for a progressive message board, there is way too much meanness. If we can't play nice, how can we expect others to do the same? How can we lead by example if the examples we are portraying are against everything we claim to believe in? How can we attract people to our cause if we are no better than the Republican assholes who want to nuke everybody?

As it is in the micro, so the macro will form. It's a pity :cry:

:pals:

[ThomCat]

28. I agree with you.

But I think we're thinking about different people. :shrug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

47. I only know how people have treated me personally.

And then when I see them treat others the same well...

[bicentennial_baby]

13. check your pm

[Wetzelbill]

19. typically i have no tact

but I have learned to stay out of flame wars, or at least to crack an absurd joke them leave.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

21. i was trying really hard all day to not say anything outrageous.

[Wetzelbill]

25. yeah, but sometimes it just has to be done

Why fight it? :evilgrin:

[Guava Jelly]

29. I do that a lot

Normally it is for the better.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

30. yeah i think it was for the better.

[Maddy McCall]

31. I do that ALL THE TIME.

Oh I have trashed some award-winning beauties of responses.

:rofl:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

32. yeah today there were some doozies. then i remembered the vicious cycle.

sigh!

[Maddy McCall]

33. I sometimes think...

"Maybe they've grown past it." And I ALMOST post a pleasant response to someone, only to see the spiteful shit continue 30 minutes later. Then I come up with a humdinger of a response, but the angel on my shoulder says, "Don't do it!" So I delete.

And then, WHOOPS! Back on ignore.

:D

[enigmatic]

34. Don't worry about it

Life really is too short, and you've got a wonderful life w/ a wonderful partner so enjoy that:D

[La Lioness Priyanka]

37. thanks.

she is wonderful! :bounce:

[cwydro]

40. who is that person

that you quote on your profile comment?

I may have to steal it.

[enigmatic]

44. Charles Bukowski

My favorite writer for going on 30 years:

http://bukowski.net/

[Nickster]

35. So sorry to hear about that. I hope I wasn't a cause of your tension.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

36. no. there was no real tension.

[Nickster]

45. I just wanted to make sure that I didn't accidentally say something to hurt you. You seem like a

pretty decent person, and I'm usually a clod.:-)

[RetroLounge]

38. Come on, reply to my posts, be snarky, I dare you!

:rofl:

:hug:

RL

[La Lioness Priyanka]

39. but you dont say anything unnecesarily mean.

:P

[RetroLounge]

42. Damn, and here i thought I was T-R-O-U-B-L-E...

:9

But alas, I'm just a nice guy... :cry:

RL

[NC_Nurse]

41. I do that more often than not.

Probably why I never am involved in anything flammable.

Oh, well....;-)

[Danger Mouse]

43. It's generally not worth it to respond to bullies. Just like child bullies...

if they don't get the attention they seek, they're not getting what they want. I think, however, there's only so much a person (or people) should have to take. :hug:
Just remember the motto:

[InvisibleTouch]

46. I do my best not to get into altercations, but...

...there are one or two people who piss me off so much that I kick myself if I don't respond to them. Sometimes you really do have to slap the jerks down for your own peace of mind.

[Major Hogwash]

48. I used to be a married to a gal like that, she'd say yes early in the evening.

And then have a headache by the time we went to bed.

[Shine]

49. I can relate to self-doubt

esp when I'm on my period. It's all part of the ebb and flow....so to speak. :)

:hi: