midlife crises check in thread...

[TOhioLiberal]

...Hi everybody! Are you having a midlife crisis? Have you been through your midlife crisis already? Check in here. Tell us how you deal with it; or how you dealt with it. Hell, check in here if you're not dealing with it! Get yer hugs and support here! :grouphug:

[Deja Q]

1. I'm having one.

I'm having one.

I'm having one.

I'm having one.

I'm having one.

I'm having one.

I'm having one.

I'm having one.

I'm having one.

I'm having one.

When I figure out what to go do with it, I shall let you know. And by that I mean 'deal with it in a positive manner' as there are ways I'm not going to approach.

[TOhioLiberal]

2. Well Hypnotoad...

...Have a hug. :hug: It may not help with what you're going through, but at least know I'm thinking of you.

[Guava Jelly]

3. I would have to have a life to begin with.

..

[TOhioLiberal]

5. aww homie...

...take heart, things will look up. :hug:

[NightWatcher]

4. what's it called at 31 years of age?

I just wanna run away to Holland and eat good food, drink good drink, smoke the obligatory sticky bud, and drive a tour boat through the canals.

[TOhioLiberal]

7. Well...

...supposedly men have midlife crises for 10 years. Perhaps you're just starting yours. Sounds like fun, anyway! :smoke:

[Tyler Durden]

17. That's called a Killer Vacation.

It's a midlife crisis when you actually move there and take up residence.

[Haole Girl]

6. You called?

How do I deal with it?

Not very well.

[TOhioLiberal]

8. me either...

...lets start a support group. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

9. Thanks for the hug...

Here's one for you, too.. :hug:

[av8rdave]

10. Count me in!

[TOhioLiberal]

11. so how are you dealing with it?

I wonder if it's harder for men or for women? What do you think?

[av8rdave]

Just grinning and bearing it!

Guess I could get a sports car...

[TOhioLiberal]

14. It would have to be red...

...No other color screams out 'midlife crisis' quite the same way. :rofl:

[av8rdave]

15. I agree...that's the color!

[TOhioLiberal]

23. ...

[av8rdave]

43. I'll take the try too hard red!

[S n o w b a l l]

12. Spent the last 4 yrs in a midlife crises and had a blast...

...it's the old life crises that's a bitch.

:hi:

[TOhioLiberal]

13. Sounds like you've got it together...

...by the time I get it together, I will have forgotten where I put it! :eyes:

[S n o w b a l l]

16. It helps when you go through it when you're not married...

...you can act out in whatever impulsive ways you want without wrecking havoc & destroying those around you...at least I was lucky that way. But, no way do I have it together...I'm not sure we ever do. It goes from one challenge to another constantly.

I'm sorry you're going through this and I understand how hard it must be in your situation. I wish you the very best, TOhio and hope you can find your way to peace & happiness soon. :hug:

[Nickster]

18. Not so much mid-life crisis, but I'm having a much delayed bout of teenage angst right about now.

[TOhioLiberal]

19. Well if it feels like a crisis,

it qualifies as a crisis (midlife or otherwise) I don't know what's going on, but I'll give you a hug if it'll help...:hug:

[Nickster]

22. You know, the what the hell have I done with my life, everything sucks, stuck in a dead end job,

blah blah kinda thing,thanks for the hug, much appreciated. Here's one back at ya!:hug:

[SPKrazy]

20. Having a mid life crisis

of prolonged duration

i'm not dealing well, although i've been working out again which seems to help a little bit.

otherwise, i'm a :grr: d00d who feels as if the rug was pulled out from under him somewhere along year 41, and it has been replaced by cheap cheesecloth "rugs" ever since.

I'm working on trying to see if i even need a damned rug, the floor may be just fine and hell even better.

Now if I could quit pissing people off I might be able to feel less whatever...

I'm the common denominator in that equation though.

I wish I had done some (make that several) things much differently, but I did what I did, and I reap what I sowed.

So, what were we talking about? Oh yeah, midlife crisis. I think that feeling the age, the extra pounds that came on so easily and go off so damned hard, feeling like maybe I've been some kind of an automaton, going through the motions, working for the "dream" and supporting those who depend on me, but feeling like it is all a farce, is all part of it for me.

:shrug:

:hi:

[TOhioLiberal]

24. Yeah...

...I empathize. Going through a bit of that myself (as you know) and it sucks worse than anything.
:hug: PM me if you need an ear.

[SPKrazy]

28. thanks dear!

I might, tonight I'm thinking bed, sleep :boring: is the answer

now if i can just find that bed...:think:

[lost-in-nj]

39. I have a couple of websites

to go to if you need to read and vent
one is an awesome place with separate and secure threads for the person in MLC and the
spouse .....

let me know...
These sites are excellent for the person going through MLC or
the spouse trying to understand what the FUCK just happened...

Knowledge is power


lost

[Fox Mulder]

21. I'm having one at 25.

Yikes.

[TOhioLiberal]

25. Sorry to hear that.

yikes indeed. :hug:

[femmocrat]

26. I got through it by going back to school.

I finished my master's about 18 years after dropping out to become a stay-at-home mom. It did wonders for my self-esteem to find out that I still had a brain!

[TOhioLiberal]

27. I'm glad that worked for you...

...:hug:

[femmocrat]

29. Thank you. Really, it changed my life.

:hug: back at 'cha!

[mopinko]

30. get through? by ripping the faces off of the idiots in my way.

not proving to be a very productive path, but, it is mine.

[TOhioLiberal]

33. If that's what works for you...

...I'll just step over here, out of your way.

[mopinko]

36. no, really, it mostly doesn't work.

although i have a teenager who needs a pile of that.
i'm getting kinda frantic to get moving down my chosen path, but something or someone is always in the way. sometimes it works to be a bitch, but sometimes the cost is pretty high. i'm in the middle of one of those situations this week, and fuck if i know what to do now.
the people who love me get it, but the people who don't, well, they don't.

[lost-in-nj]

31. Crap

My hubby is WAY DEEP IN THE MIDDLE OF THIS SHIT
It is real, it is devastating and the most absolute
demeaning crap for the spouse that can be spewed and thrown ....
you question your whole marriage......
for me its been 30 years

It hurts,,,,,,, big time

:cry: :cry:

he left in Oct.....



lost

[TOhioLiberal]

34. Oh lost...

...I'm sorry. It surely does hurt. :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

37. thanks

:hug:

lost

[SPKrazy]

35. I'm Sorry Lost

:hug:

sad :( for you

[lost-in-nj]

38. thank you

:pals:

lost

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[tandot]

40. Well, I am 43 and we are trying to have a baby.

I've postponed motherhood until I found the right guy to have a family with. I met him in 2002 and we are trying for a year now.

Does that count? Any tips on how to increase our chances?

[TOhioLiberal]

41. Sorry, no tips here...

...Both of my boys were pure chance. :shrug:

[tandot]

42. Thanks TOhioLiberal. I take my temperature every morning and

do baseline charting. Once you get over a certain age, "pure chance" just doesn't work. I've got old eggs and he's got lazy, slow, old sperm...to get a date between those two would be a miracle :evilgrin:

[Left Is Write]

44. Present and accounted for!

I deal with it mostly by complaining about it. :D

[TOhioLiberal]

45. yeah, me too.

except I suspect no one is listening, in real life anyway. :hi:

[Left Is Write]

46. They're probably not listening to me either.

I'm sure all they hear is, "Blah blah blah blah blah whine whine blah blah. Whine."