Should I speak my mind? Warning Long Post

[Sewsojm]

Sorry everyone, I messed up and duped my post.

[cwydro]

1. Wow.

Maybe just give the info to the family and leave it at that.

[Sewsojm]

2. Sorry, I duped my original post !

[Maddy McCall]

3. In most cases, I'd say NO, STAY OUT. In this case...

I'd say TELL HER NOW.

This isn't the silly stuff that most people wonder if they should hold from a best friend. This is some serious shit that will tremendously impact her life and her future. I'm betting that the guy is a con man with serial marriages/engagements.

She needs to book it away from him as fast as she can.

If you were my friend and had discovered stuff this serious, and you didn't tell me, I'd be MAJOR pissed.

[madinmaryland]

4. Hmmm.... Did I miss something?

Donald Rumsfeld is giving the President his daily briefing. He concludes by saying: "Yesterday, three Brazilian soldiers were killed."

"OH NO!" the President exclaims. "That's terrible!"

His staff sits stunned at this display of emotion, nervously watching as the President sits, head in hands.

Finally, the President looks up and asks, "How many is a brazillion?"

:evilgrin:

[Maddy McCall]

5. Uhhhh....

:spank:

[madinmaryland]

7. Huh?

:wtf: There is no message. :wtf:

[Sewsojm]

9. Sorry

I tried to delete the second post, that's why there's no message now.

[madinmaryland]

11. Sorry, I thought this was going to another "Please Remove"

post, so I posted the Brazilian Joke.

BTW, I read the other post. It sounds like you have done a lot of prying. Unless you are very close to her, then its probably better not to go into details. Maybe lay hints that you have bad vibes about this guy, or mention that someone told you ...

Don't know what else to say.

[madinmaryland]

10. It's been a long day.

I didn't know this was a duplicate post. I am just so confused.

[ceile]

6. You're justified in your concerns,

but I don't know if saying something to her is the right thing to do. My ONLY reason for thinking that is that you make it sound like you're not close friends. I would be very resentful if I heard such things from someone who was outside my close circle of friends. I would think there were ulterior motives.
But it does seem like this is bothering you and you do seem truly concerned. It is a difficult situation.

[Sewsojm]

14. I am a close friend of hers,

I am close friends with her, the problem is that she doesn't see any of her friends anymore and very soon she's going to be living in Washington State where she knows nobody. I'm also a friend of her family, their afraid he'll end up moving her to Pakistan.

[Beaverhausen]

15. Has the family tried to talk to her about him? What have you said?

If she is absolutely dead set on marrying him,there is probably nothing you can do. Just be a friend and let her know you will be there when she needs you.

And she will need you.

If she seems wavering at all, suggest to her that she wait to get married. Maybe they could live together in Washington a bit longer without getting married. Maybe with time she will see what he is and won't have the legal hassle of getting divorced.

[Sewsojm]

17. Her family ,

Her family knows all of this and more, but they're afraid to say anything, she's already very defensive of him, its like she's an entirely different person now.

[AllegroRondo]

16. seriously, he sounds like an abuser

the kind of guy who needs to control every aspect of a relationship. telling the landlord not to talk to her, moving her away from friends and family, having total control of the money - these are all classic signs of an abusive person. its all about control. It wouldnt surprize me if not long after the marriage he started physically abusing.
She needs an intervention. seriously.

[Sewsojm]

18. I have to agree,

I have to agree with you on that, I would think that him being a psychiatrist has taught him how to control people.

[Shell Beau]

8. I replied in your other one!

[madinmaryland]

12. I've missed seeing your hamster!!1!!

With all of the server problems here.

[Shell Beau]

13. He's happy to be back! He was napping!