DU ladies, ever pass/fail the "door test?"

[pokerfan]

"Alright, listen to me. You pull up right where she lives, right? Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors. Then, get outta the car, you walk over to her. You bring her over to the car. Dig out the key, put it in the lock and open the door for her. Then you let her get in. Then you close the door. Then you walk around the back of the car and look through the rear window. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her."

"Just like that?"

"Listen to me, kid. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in, that means she's a selfish broad and all you're seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and you dump her fast."

[Connonym]

1. With the advent of remote controls that's no longer really a fair test is it?

How about this one, if he can't afford a car with a remote control entry then he's too poor and dump him? Is that too sexist?

[crispini]

2. Okay, I'll bite..

where's that from?

And, for the record, I would always at least unlock the door. Actually, I have a few little tests of my own. :D

[Random_Australian]

3. Given that there is a zero chance we'll ever meet like that,

would you mind telling me what they are?

You've gone and made me very, very nervous. :scared:

[crispini]

6. LOL!

They're more "curiosity / conversational" tests, actually.

Test 1 (on a very early date): Mention that I was in the Peace Corps in Thailand. All he has to do to pass is ask me one question -- any question at all -- about that. "What did you do?" or "Where were you?" both get a pass. A guy who doesn't ask a follow-up question to THAT... well, maybe that's lack of curiosity, or lack of conversational adroitness, or rudeness, but either way... it does make you go HM. I don't expect a follow up question on things like, "Yeah, I went to the gym yesterday," or some such boring nonsense, but this is a particularly juicy conversational tidbit that does sort of shout out for one, IMO! :)

Test 2, more for the artsy types: Mention some fairly obscure artist, film-maker, etc. If he asks about the person, admitting he hasn't heard of them, he gets props for being curious and not afraid to show he doesn't know something. If he PRETENDS to know about the person in order to get cool points, but actually doesn't, he loses points. :rofl:

Neither too hard or unreasonable, don't you think? :D

[Random_Australian]

10. Oh right! I'd pass both of those EASY!

Well, only because I'm not an artsy type and therefore you wouldn't ask the second one - I might just be nervous enough to not ask if I thought the artist was supposed to be really famous. (I don't know the fanmous from the obscure)

But if you asked me about an obscure physicist, say, then I would certainly ask.

As for the first one, you've actually managed to provoke my VERY ample curiosity: What DID you get up to in the Peace Corps? Is that an NGO, a charity, part of the UN, or what? Can you speak much Thai? What did you think of Muay Thai boxing? How long were you there? What's a great part of Thailand? Any interesting moments you have to share?

:)

[crispini]

12. Hee. See, you pass already. :)

Interesting point about the obscure vs. non-obscure... I wonder if there would be a corresponding test for the non-artist type... the point being just to see if the person will admit to LACK of knowledge! (curiosity vs. ego, haha!)

As far as Thailand, I was an English teacher there. I taught junior high ESL to Thai kids, and also did teacher training. The Peace Corps is actually part of the American government. A Kennedy legacy! I speak pretty good Thai still, although I've forgotten a lot. Total immersion is a good way to learn a language. I didn't go see any Muay Thai because I hear the matches are quite intense live and I am kind of a chicken about that, but now I wish I had gone to one, just for the experience. I was there for two years. I really like ALL of Thailand, for different things, the big thing is just to get out of Bangkok and see some of the country, and to go to some of the less-popular places, as the resort-type places can be really, really touristy.

Interesting moments... hm.... give me a second, I'll have to think of a story....:D

[Random_Australian]

14. :) Thanks for taking the time to reply. :)

That WAS an interesting tale. :)

[crispini]

16. Are you a fan of Muay Thai?

Since you mentioned it specifically? What a sport! I have seen it on TV -- pretty amazing!

When there is an important match on -- all of the long-distance "luxury" buses in Thailand have TVs on them, which they use to play videos on, for long trips -- but when there is an important match on you will often see the buses pulled over to the side of the road so they can get good reception and watch the match! :D

[Random_Australian]

17. Well, not specifically. I'm a fan of Capoeira, and there is a lot of good

feeling between the two. Search for one Tony Jaa on youtube. :) He has this choreographed fight with one of the Capoeira guys and it is awesome. :)


Strangely, Capoeira is possibly the least violent of all the martial arts.

I almost misspelt that as marital. Which would have been hilarious. :)

[unpossibles]

43. I thought all of the marital arts were violent

or at least looked violent from the outside.

*please do not take my smartass joke for acceptance or promotion of violence toward men or women.

[crispini]

13. Ok, thought of a story.

You go through three months of training when you get there, and they teach you a lot about being culturally sensitive and fitting in. One of the things is about accepting food you're offered; it's rude to turn people down. I get this, so I'm all ready to eat whatever. Well, about a week after I get to my school, my coworkers take me out for a "special" lunch. We get there and they only have noodle soup, and only one kind of noodle soup: intestine soup! with chunks of liver, heart, and congealed blood thrown in! Yum! So of course I start choking it down. It actually tasted pretty good, but the intestines were really chewy, and the whole time I'm sitting there thinking about What The Pig Used Them For and just wanting to upchuck. But I manage to choke the whole thing down...and then...

they order me another bowl.... :rofl:

[Random_Australian]

15. ...

:rofl::rofl:

That is a neat story!

[Kutjara]

42. LOL! That's the classic mistake Westerners make in parts of the Far East.

I had some truly gargantuan meals myself in China, until I learned that you have to leave a small amount in the bowl or on the plate, otherwise your host thinks they haven't given you enough. It's a real faux pas to leave a guest hungry, so if you finish all of your meal, you'll get another straight away. If you finish that, you'll get yet another. Until you figure out what's happening, it's like you're trapped in some kind of nightmare.

[leftofthedial]

19. wow! Thailand?

That sounds like quite an adventure? When was that? Where in Thailand? What did you do there?

[crispini]

21. Haha. Another winner.

When, was 90-92, where was Kanachanaburi, to the west of Bankgok, and for my job, see posts above. ;)

[northzax]

26. the obscure artist drop?

sheesh, how pretentious. I've had that trick played on me (and passed through random knowledge) There wasn't a second date.

[crispini]

36. No, no, not that way.

Not in the "Indier-than-thou, so I'm going to namedrop this obscure band/artist/film all over the place and see if you know them" kind of way, but in the "are you interested/secure enough to ask to learn something more about something that you DON'T know about."

I agree, the former can be irritating. :D

[jmowreader]

28. A question about Test 2

What if he really DOES know about them?

[crispini]

35. Hm, I guess that's a wash then....

the point is not to see whether or not Person X knows anything at all about Subject Y, but IF Person X should happen NOT to know something about Subject Y, how do they react? Do they fake it, in order to try and impress you, or are they secure enough to admit that they don't know much about something, and ask more about it?

Could be any subject at all I suppose. :shrug:

[WolverineDG]

37. Don't forget the fur kid test!

If the guy doesn't pass that test, forget about it! If the pets don't like him, too bad!

dg

[crispini]

38. Haha, ain't that the truth Wolvie!

Love me, love my cats. :bounce:

[InvisibleTouch]

50. I hear that!

My oldest girl loves everyone, but a guy who could make friends with the crazy 2-year-old, or get the shy 10-month-old pup to let him pet her, would definitely earn some points.

[sammythecat]

4. It was a scene in the movie "Diner" back in the early 80's

[pokerfan]

5. A Bronx Tale

A 1993 film set in the sixties.

[sammythecat]

7. I saw the same scene in "Diner" in 1982 and it was set in the

early 60's too.

Barry Levinson directed and Steve Gutenberg, Kevin Bacon, Mickey Rourke, Ellen Barkin, some other known names were in it. I remember the scene because not long after I saw the movie I went on a first date with a girl and that exact scenario actually happened. I told her about the movie and that she was a "keeper". She was. For a little over 20 years.

I never saw "A Bronx Tale". It's possible both movies used the same gag.

[pokerfan]

8. Yeah, I never saw Diner

but Bronx Tale is on AMC right now.

[crispini]

9. Haha, I am glad you two have managed to work this out.

I confess I was getting curious there! :D

[sammythecat]

11. I imagine it was a common "joke" back in the 60's

and both movies used it. :shrug:

[NewJeffCT]

24. good movie

I remember the scene.

I never saw "Diner" but I know I had thought of that before I saw "A Bronx Tale" because I was nodding in agreement when the mob boss was giving that advice to "C" (maybe I had heard it from somebody that had seen "Diner"?)

[SKKY]

18. That's too funny....

...I thought I was the only one who noticed stuff like that, or based dates on that very thing.

[meegbear]

20. If you lock the doors, how do get out of the car to begin with?

:shrug:

[Mad_Dem_X]

22. Good question! LOL

I guess you lock your door after you get out, before you close it. Anyway, that's a stupid "test" - what if she doesn't happen to notice your door is locked?

[NewJeffCT]

25. I had thought he said after you get out?

I had always assumed it was after the dinner/movie was over and you were walking back to your car... the guy lets the girl into her side, and when he walks in back of the car, he checks to see if she reaches over and opens the car for him...

I had mentioned that to a woman I dated once about how she didn't do that and her response was "A woman shouldn't reach out like that." or something to that effect.

[meegbear]

27. The OP says ...

Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors.

Now assuming it's a 4 seater, it wasn't specified how many doors there were, it could be that one of the two doors was not the driver's, but then he could have locked the back door ones and intended to has his date sit in the back seat while he drove.

[NewJeffCT]

46. Yes, I know

I had meant to respond to the OP - I remember the scene in the movie where the mobster (Chazz Palmentieri?) said that to the kid and had thought he had said it differently.

[pokerfan]

48. I found the dialogue online

so I wasn't typing from memory. But I was watching the movie and thought the same thing. :How does the kid get out if he locks the doors first." I think it was written that way intentionally because people IRL don't always express themselves perfectly. It really is a good film if you haven't seen it.

The punchline is the kid borrows the mobsters convertible (the mobster wanted the kid to make a good impression) and rolls up to his dates house with the top down and the windows down. He gets out and pushes booth door locks down. Kinda defeated the purpose of the test.

[Jimbo S]

23. I'd fail without getting that far.

I would unlock my side, get in, unlock her side.

I used to rarely open doors for women. Until I met my wife, she insisted, I gave in.

[youthere]

30. My mother tells the tale of how she got my dad to open doors for her

when they were dating. He would always just walk to the car and get in. Finally one night she refused to get in. She would just stand by the passenger side pretending she couldn't hear him say "well come on! get in!". She said he would even try lean over inside the car and pop the door open for her, and she would bump it closed with her hip and wait. Eventually he figured it out. She said he never forgot to open the door for her after that.

[Jimbo S]

31. I had a date like that once.

I was on vacation and met up with a friend of a friend, so it was no biggie.

[MissMillie]

29. I always passed it

but I think the test is now obsolete now that there's remote door locks.

[crim son]

32. Not intentionally.

I have been known to forget and I am known to be technologically challenged to the point where figuring out a car door may take long enough that the driver is in the vehicle before I've discovered the unlock mechanism.

[Maineiac]

41. It's not a test

but when we go out you always unlock the door for me and it's always appreciated.

[crim son]

47. Thank you!

:hug: I'm afraid sometimes I've had one too many to remember. :hug:

[skygazer]

33. I am the epitome of the thoughtful woman

Because I just tell him, "Give me the keys. I'm driving."

[Deep13]

34. Or she forgot.

[buddhamama]

39. not that i am aware of

i unlock the door with friends and family too.

[NewWaveChick1981]

40. Dude, not only did I pass the "door test", I even held/hold doors open

for guys and help them if they're carrying heavy stuff. :rofl: :P In the days before power door locks were so popular, I ALWAYS unlocked the guy's door. :)

[hfojvt]

44. now with power locks

you just hit that little button with a pencil

[NewWaveChick1981]

45. I can just pull one out from storage...

:rofl: :P

[BlackVelvet04]

49. I don't unlock my husband's door because

I have two metal rods and six screws in my back and he has a console in his truck making it hard to reach his door.