Need help you men out there.

[Rainbowreflect]

My husband just called and he is having a really bad day at work.
I told him I would take him out for dinner & drinks tonight after work, but I would like to do something more to make him feel better.
Besides the obvious, that I plan on taking care of, any great ideas on making my man feel better?

[VelmaD]

1. I really can't answer this one...

without violating the Rules. ;-)

All I can say it this - Lingerie. Lipstick. F*ck me shoes. Furniture.

[TXlib]

14. What she said.

And throw in a blindfold, too. A little light B&D never hurts.

[VelmaD]

18. Well, it never hurts...

unless you want it to. :evilgrin:

[trof]

2. Take him to Hooters.

Just kidding.
Buy him a massage.

[greatauntoftriplets]

4. Give him a massage!

[Qutzupalotl]

22. Second that.

:-)

[Droopy]

3. If he is having a really bad day at work

he will probably want to tell you all about it. So I would say just listening and sympathizing would be a good place to start. But I think you got it covered as far as the other stuff goes. Dinner and drinks and then later on..........he should be a happy camper after all that.

[trotsky]

7. I might disagree with you a bit on this:

he will probably want to tell you all about it

Not to delve into stereotypes, but typically, women have a greater desire to talk about their problems. Men would rather put the problem aside and focus on some other task, returning to it later. I believe this is a big part of the "Men from Mars, Women from Venus" line of thought, which actually does have valid psychological research behind it.

And speaking from a personal standpoint, if I've had a crappy day at work, the LAST thing I want to talk about is work.

[Droopy]

10. Good point

The last thing he might want to do is rehash what happened at work. Just leave it open and let the conversation go where it may. I was just going by what I see from my parents. They both work and they usually like to talk about how their days went when they get home.

[Rainbowreflect]

You are probably right that he won't want to talk about it tonight.

He did vent to me during the phone call earlier.

[trotsky]

5. Flowers aren't just for women...

My wife gets me flowers for special occasions and I just love it.

[ZenLefty]

6. Hmmm. All guys are different

When I've had a crappy day at work, I just want to get to the gym, put headphones on and be left the heck alone for a while. No dinner, no sex, no nothing - just a good hard hitting workout that usually involves the gym's punching bag. After that, I'm fine.

Is there anything he's been shopping for? You could go to his favorite store after dinner and buy it for him. It doesn't have to be expensive, but I bet a wide screen high definition plasma TV would cheer him up. :D

[plcdude]

8. Just be positive and happy

to see him laugh and tell him how much you love him and love to be with him. Say to hell with the day this is the night and we have each other. Let it be and just enjoy each other tonight. Hot tubs are great also. I think by just being attentive and positive will help him to get over the day.

[stinkeefresh]

9. its a tiny thing, but

I love when there's music playing on the stereo when I walk in. It makes me feel like I'm coming home. Putting it on a moment after I walk in doen't work, it has to already be on when I get there.

Weird, but so soothing.

[YNGW]

11. Tell him you're pregnant.

That ought to goof him up for a minute or two. Then after you tell him you're just kidding, his day won't seem as bad as he thought. Then tell him you wrecked the car.

[Rainbowreflect]

13. Not a good idea since he could not father a child.

Although it would make him forget his work problems.

[YNGW]

17. That could put a whole new twist on things.

You've have to either tell him it was the mailman or the UPS guy.

Oh well, take him to his favorite place to eat and just relax. That'll be a treat.

[BiggJawn]

12. "The Obvious" should do it.

Dinner and drinks is great, too.

You got a sister that thinks like you do?

Honestly, all I've ever gotten in 22 years and 2 marriages is "YOUR day was bad??? you wanna hear about a BAD day? Lemme tell you about MINE!"....

[Rainbowreflect]

15. He is there for me when I've had a bad day too.

He is a good listener & tells me he loves me all the time.

[BigBadDaddy-O]

16. get a movie (he likes) and stay in.

If you know your man, then you know what to do.

[BlueJazz]

19. When he walks in the door, make him eat a Toad.

After that, the rest of the night can only look better for him!

[Buns_of_Fire]

20. Meet him at the door wearing

two round-trip tickets to Acapulco. And nothing else. :thumbsup:

[Blue-Jay]

21. Again, not to state the obvious

but it has the same initials as my sign-on. I'm talking before dinner too.

Also a massage with some good-smelling massage oil.

[DS1]

23. Yes

The first room you find him in.

[private_ryan]

24. no dinner or drinks. He's tired and in a bad mood

Hint: One former president got in trouble for this... :)

[jokerman93]

25. Remind him of the big picture

How you admire him
Why you love him

Get him to look ahead to your future plans together - vacation, projects, whatever!

And yeah, you know his fantasies. Take him for a ride on the A train! Smoke him like a cheap cigar!

(Is that against the rules?)

[TrogL]

26. If there's a financial problem...

...he may resent having the extra money being spent.

He may just want to sit at at home and veg or lose himself in a book.

Find out what he wants to do.

[Deja Q]

27. He's a lucky guy...

I know what I'd want... dinner is nice, having a listening ear is a big plus... and "the obvious" of which you already mentioned! O8)

How do single people cope? That's what I'd want to know! :D