Why Shouldn't Women Buy Men Flowers for Valentine's Day?

[Yavin4]

If a woman can be Speaker of the House and be the leading candidate for the presidency, shouldn't she also be able to buy her loved one flowers and candy for Valentine's Day?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

1. i have bought men flowers before

i dont think i would ever date a man who wasnt comfortable receiving flowers.

[zingaro]

2. Personally, I hate getting flowers.

I don't have real trees during the holidays because it seems like a waste. A vase filled with already dying plantlife? Not much of a gift to me.

And a box of candy? Who does that anymore?

There are so many more creative ways to gift. But I agree with your premise that gift-giving shouldn't fall to one partner or the other because "relationship" implies two or more interconnected people.

[leftofthedial]

3. CUT FLOWERS ARE MURDER!

[liberal hypnotist]

23. I support your position!

[lildreamer316]

4. I do this every now and then..

just as a different gesture; because he's not expecting it.
More often I get him a card (just apropos of nothing ).
I also don't like getting flowers myself; it seems a waste. I like to pick up a few fresh flowers such as sunflowers at the famer's market on occasion; or I pick my own roses.

[Sanity Claws]

A gift should please the recipient.

If the man would enjoy receiving flowers, then it is appropriate to give them to him as a gift. I don't think one should give a gift to make a statement. That is rude and places the giver's needs and wants over the recipient's.

[Kixel]

9. Very Emily Post of you!

And true I think. Why give someone something that they don't want?

[Sanity Claws]

11. Personal experience

I learned this when I had a boyfriend who never gave me anything that I liked. He seemed intent on making me over; it was as though he didn't approve of me and the things I liked. I always ended up feeling bad. What good is a gift if it makes the recipient feel bad?
I promised myself I would not do that to anyone else. I try to listen to people and figure out what they would really like.

[InvisibleTouch]

19. Sometimes it's a control issue.

Had an ex-lover several years ago who would repeatedly give me things or say things that, if he'd only stopped to think a minute, he'd know would piss me off. And I think he did know it, on some level, but would of couse always claim amazed innocense when I did in fact get pissed off. I got the distinct impression that his motive was "See, I have the power to make you mad," which translated in his little mind to "You have an emotional attachment to me." (You see where the "ex" comes in.) It's a way of keeping the other party engaged, even if in a negative way - as opposed to not being engaged at all.

[Sanity Claws]

5. Duplicate -

[Hugin]

6. My sweetie got me a 'facial' once...

I kid you not.

[JVS]

8. *snort*

[Bunny]

7. Who is saying she can't do it? If she thinks he'd like that, then by

all means she should do it. If she really cares about him, she'll send him what she thinks he'd like, regardless of whatever that may be.

I suspect more men would prefer a six-pack and some chicken wings, but who am I to say? :shrug:

[treestar]

10. Indeed, why not?

If men are "threatened" they will just get used to it over time.

[L A Woman]

12. Because Valentine's Day is a crock of shit

I'm not bitter. :evilgrin:

[Bassic]

13. Well, as a man,

and I realize that this is not the case of every man, but I don't give a flying hoot about flowers. I think the point is to get stuff that we actually like.

[Arkansas Granny]

14. No reason at all, if you think he would appreciate them.

[edbermac]

15. I'm allergic to flowers. How about a car instead?

http://web4j1.lane.edu/~stevens_d/Gallery/2004,2T/JPHomepage/Images/lamborghini.jpg

[Sanity Claws]

21. Can it fly?

Wow, I can just see those wings flapping in the air! Does it need much of a runway?

[LeftyMom]

16. There are two safe categories in gifts for men with whom one is romantic: food and sex

Grab something from each, such as dinner and a night at a hotel, a box of chocolates and some homemade nudies, whatever, and you're golden.

[NV1962]

17. I don't like flowers.

Their taste is awful. :)

And candy, no. Just no.

Keep those smelly rotting plants and tooth rot inducing marketing ploys to yourself!

I'd rather have a stroll in the park next to the river, dinner, perhaps a concert...

Yup, that's my choice. Actually, I think I'll do that this year.

Thanks for steering me in the wrong direction for the right idea! :P

[SayWhatYo]

18. Better yet..

If a woman can be speaker of the house and be a leading candidate for presidency, then she also be able to buy her loved one a teddy from Victoria Secret... :D

I'd wear it, but only if I can wear it in public too. :D

Anyways, if a man happens to like flowers then that's cool, but most men do not have the same affection for flowers as many women have... Of course, assuming she loves flowers is a good way to get ones ass kicked...

Oh, chocolate = good.

[Fleshdancer]

20. I buy my husband chocolate and Godiva coffee

he's not a big flower guy and I can't stand chocolate so I get the flowers and he gets the sweets in this relationship...only we don't do it on V-day because it doesn't seem very romantic if everyone else in the country is doing it.

[liberal hypnotist]

22. Dead things aren't nice gifts!

Live flowers sure. Dead flowers? I don't get it. There like diamonds-worthless.
It is like another species giving a corpse on Valentines Day