I found this online - me, circa 1985

[NewJeffCT]

I'm almost embarrassed by this pic now...

Was I a geek or what?

(somebody had posted all the pics from our high school yearbook online)

[Gormy Cuss]

1. Potential serial killer, if you ask me.

You look so SERIOUS. :)

[otherlander]

2. Serial Killer?

I was thinking more along the lines of urban radical...

[NewJeffCT]

4. is that sarcasm?

urban radical?

[otherlander]

29. Heh. Admit it.

You are so comtemplating the uprising in that picture. :silly:

[NewJeffCT]

3. In my high school class

I was voted "Shyest"

same with my junior high (8th grade)

[Gormy Cuss]

6. Isn't it funny how none of that matters any more as an adult

yet it was so important back then?

[NewJeffCT]

8. you mean the "superlatives"?

or the fact that I was shy? I'm still not exactly outgoing, but I have managed to sucker two otherwise intelligent and attractive women into marrying me.

But, I do still look back and wonder what would have happened if either I was not so shy, or if it was more acceptable for young women to ask men out back then (and somebody asked me out)

[Gormy Cuss]

12. Either.

That teachers or advisers would even allow a vote on who's most shy seems like they missed an opportunity to educate students on name calling, because "shy" is not a label most people want attached to them in a yearbook.

I held a student leadership position that was an automatic ticket to the senior superlatives page in the yearbook but my photo was left off the page. It's not as if they decided to honor someone else instead -- the senior section editors deliberately left me off the page and left a blank space. I've never learned which ones were responsible or why they did it. My friends were up in arms, as were the members of the student group I lead, but I shrugged it off because I wasn't that big on the whole rah-rah high school scene any way and figured that someone was too immature to confront me. While that sounds like I had my act together, the reality was that I had a chaotic life away from school and viewed high school as a means to an end, namely getting enough scholarship money to attend college away from home. Being a 'superlative' on campus was the least of my worries.

p.s. you're probably lucky that we weren't in the same high school. I had a thing for shy boys.

[NewJeffCT]

22. well, more likely lucky for you

if I had had a date in high school, I would have been in heaven

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. My dear NewJeff!

I don't think you look geeky at all!

I love your moustache!

You have a quietly sexy look to you....just sayin'!

:hi:

[NewJeffCT]

7. Wish I had known a woman who thought like you 22 years ago!

I spent most of my teens & early 20s being depressed over a lack of success with women... and, back then, it was still very unusual for a girl to ask out a guy, or for a young woman to ask a young man out.

[Goblinmonger]

9. Dirty Sanchez! n/t

[Beer Snob-50]

10. I gotta say...

future computer geek club President.

[NewJeffCT]

15. Not computer geek

Dungeons & Dragons geek, maybe.

[Beer Snob-50]

21. I personally was manager of our student store

that is the ultimate in high school geek in my opinion.

[azmouse]

11. The girls didn't know what they were missing

by not asking you out. :hi:

I had to ask my husband out for the first date because he was too shy to ask me. I'm so thankful I did!
And this was waaay back in 1979! We'll celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary in April.

[NewJeffCT]

16. an early happy anniversary to you

I've found that most guys won't turn down a woman if she asks him out. Well, assuming they are available, that is...

[MissMillie]

13. Well, in 1985,

I would have definitely wanted you!

(I'll bet you're still dashing...)

[NewJeffCT]

14. well, several years later...

I found out two girls in my high school did like me, but were too shy themselves to ask me out. And, one of them I would have killed to date.

And, this pic was not that long ago (i'm the one on the right)

[MissMillie]

17. you held up well

and the ladies still smile around you, so you must be doing something right.

[NewJeffCT]

19. I think it's Stockholm Syndrome

Or, whatever it they say when the kidnapped sympathize with their kidnapper.

[Mojambo]

24. Stockholm syndrome is crap! O'Reilly says so. n/t

[skygazer]

18. I wish I had my yearbook photo

I've lost the copies I had over the years as well as the yearbook.

I think you look very suave.

[NewJeffCT]

20. back then

I was about as far from suave as one could get... I'd literally freeze up and go speechless if a girl talked to me.

[Mojambo]

23. You took a freshman to senior prom, huh?

;-)

[NewJeffCT]

25. what do you mean?

I didn't go to my junior or senior proms.

[Mojambo]

27. Me neither.

In fact I never went to a single school dance or function.

I was just joshin you about the geeky yearbook photo.

It didn't really come off. I can't do humor on message boards. I shouldn't try.

[devilgrrl]

26. No, you don't look like a geek. You look like a man of action.

:shrug:

[Arugula Latte]

28. I think you looked good.

You have nice eyes, nice hair, nice bone structure -- not geeky. :hi: Now, I'm not a huge mustache fan, but, hey, that was 20 years ago ...

[Strawman]

30. My 1985 self is envious of your 1985 high school moustache

I couldn't have grown one like that in the 9th grade if I tried. Nice job.

[NewJeffCT]

31. That was my senior picture (12th grade)

I'm half-Italian, so I can grow a beard pretty quickly. And, even though I'm 40 now, i still have a full head of hair (granted, with a lot of whites mixed in...)