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I can't help you with your mom, but my impression of you is that you're really sharp and have a good handle on who you are -- and you're at DU, so I know you're really smart.
You say you don't know how to study, but you really do. If you're naturally smart but not a good studier, it's just a matter of focus and time management.
I wasn't a good studier either, but I did really well with grades and pulled out what I needed to pull out at the end. Looking back, I realize that I did well because even though I didn't study well, I picked up what I needed to along the way. It was messy and uncoordinated, but all the right stuff spilled out at the right time for a test or paper.
BUT -- I know now how much better I could have done or how much easier I could have made it if I had studied well.
Break it down for yourself -- it's no different than things are for you later in life. If you look at the entire jumbled mess, it's sometimes chaotic and seemingly impossible.
Prioritize -- What are you closest to "mastering"? Set up some quick review time for that first, then set it aside. Put it out of your mind and move along.
What needs the most work? Block off time and swear to yourself that you're not going to crack a book or take a phone call (or post on DU) during that period of time.
Maybe most important of all, what you need to know is probably already in your head, but chaos and noise can disrupt how well you can access it again. It's not much of a time commitment to take three or four minutes every few hours to sit down somewhere comfortable, turn off the lights, breathe deeply, and just exhale all the stress and noise. You'll figure out how to allot your available time for studying, and you can make the commitment to spend as much time as possible studying. But make sure you're settled and peaceful inside -- that's what keeps you sane, and that's what will let you reach those pieces of knowledge you're not sure you know right now. They're in there.
As for those people who think they're superior to you every day? I've got those too, but I know now that they feel as superior as they want, but they can't make me feel inferior. You can rise as high as you want.
Good luck on exams. Good luck working on your mom.
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