My uncle took his life last night

[Bombero1956]

I just spoke to the police who told me he laid down in front of a passenger train last night.

[Bunny]

1. Oh how awful. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[Mojambo]

2. Very, very sorry. n/t

[Bombero1956]

4. thank you

I feel badly for the poor train engineer who tried in vain to stop the train. I feel badly for the passengers also. That he had alcohol problems and was living in the streets leads me to think that his death was a forgone conclusion. I feel badly that he couldn't overcome his demons and get sober. I feel very bad for my Mom who has lost 2 siblings this year.

[Shine]

3. Oh, how terrible, Gargoyle.

:hug: I'm so sorry for your loss and for his deep pain that made him feel suicide was the only option. So sad...:cry:

Peace be with you. :hug:

[Ariana Celeste]

5. Oh, no... I'm so sorry...

:hug: :(

[Bombero1956]

9. thanks

It is inconceivable to me that someone could just lay there as a train approaches.

[City Lights]

6. What horrible news, Gargoyle. You have my deepest sympathy.

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

7. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[graywarrior]

8. That is terrible news.

Sorry to hear that.

[Sugar Smack]

10. Oh, that's horrible, Gargoyle!

I'm so sorry. What a rough thing to hear about for you. :hug:

[OzarkDem]

11. Oh, my! So sorry to hear it, what a tragedy

Suicide can be very difficult for those left behind. Hopefully no one in your family is blaming themselves, its not their fault.:hug:

[Bombero1956]

12. I understand

Unfortunately we now have to withhold that he committed suicide from her. He was living at her house until a few years ago but his drinking and violence made it necessary to have him leave. I just know she would blame herself if she knew.

[bigwillq]

13. How awful.

I am very sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[NewWaveChick1981]

14. I'm really sorry, Gargoyle...

:hug: That's tragic. :pals: My heart goes out to you and your family.

[BarenakedLady]

15. Oh my god.

I'm so very very sorry.

:hug:

[Redstone]

16. Oh, damn it. Just damn it. My condolences to you and your family.

Redstone

[Redstone]

17. May I make a suggestion? It may be hard for you to think of this right now, but

I think it might be a good thing for you and / or your family to reach out to the crew of that train.

This is going to haunt them forever, and it's not their fault.

Just a suggestion.

Redstone

[RetroLounge]

22. Good suggestion...

RL

[Ptah]

28. What a perfect thought, Redstone.

:thumbsup:

[rockymountaindem]

40. That's a good idea

It's nice of you to think about them, too. I'm sure they feel horrible about this too.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

18. My dear Gargoyle.......

How horrifying....

I am so sorry.......Wish there were something I could say to help....

Perhaps this might...he is now beyond pain, or loss...

My deepest condolences to you and your family..... :hug:

[mike_c]

19. damn, that is hard....

My sympathy and condolences to you and your family. :hug:

[lizziegrace]

20. Oh no...

I'm so sorry for you and your family.

:hug:

[NewJeffCT]

21. I'm very sorry for your loss

You & your family have my deepest sympathy.

[RetroLounge]

23. I'm so sorry...

I lost my uncle a couple of years ago to this disease.

:hug:

RL

[flamingyouth]

24. I am so sorry, Gargoyle.

What terrible news. Please know that we are here for you. My heart goes out to you during this time of shock and grief. :hug:

[Ptah]

25. wow, Gargoyle

:hug: :grouphug:

[Maddy McCall]

26. I'm so very sorry.

:hug:

[Lyric]

27. Anna Karenina. :(

That's the first thing I thought of, to be honest.

Very tragic. I hope he's free from whatever his personal demons were... :(

[wildhorses]

29. sorry for your loss and everyone involved

:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

30. Very sorry, Gargoyle

:hug:

[ikojo]

31. So sorry Gargoyle....

My brother took his life by pills five years ago. The pain lessens but it never leaves.

:hug:

[YankeyMCC]

32. That is terrible

my sympathies and condolences to your and all those who loved him.

[Downtown Hound]

33. How awful, I'm so sorry

I've been there, I know how hard it is. All the best to you right now.

[Bombero1956]

34. thank you all for the kind words

I'll be trying to contact the train crew and relate to them that they are not to blame.

[yellowdogintexas]

35. my dad was a suicide. Our family felt like we had been slammed

into a wall, for a long time.

And I am so sorry for you and your loved ones. I feel a special sense of grief for those who survive a death like this one.

Your family member must NOT assume they "could have done something to stop him"
It is no one's fault
I am of the conviction that once a person reaches the point that they think death is the only option and they no longer want to live, there is no sanity left in their mind or heart.

Suicide has been defined as a permanent solution to an often temporary problem.

Your family is in shock now, but do search about for a Survivors of Suicide group.
It will be helpful to all of you. You will need to do it when you are ready but I highly recommend it.

My mom and I joined one about 3 years after my dad died. It was very helpful for both of us.

Check w/ your local mental health association or call the local hotline and they may know.

[Bombero1956]

36. thanks for the advise

I'll look into it.

[fizzgig]

37. i am so sorry

i wish i had some words of wisdom but i do have this :hug:

[rockymountaindem]

38. My condolences n/t

[momophile]

39. I'm so sorry to hear this.

please take care of yourself and think about taking some of the good advice above.

[Cheney Killed Bambi]

41. I'm so sorry

that's just terrible. My heart goes out to you and your family.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

42. I'm very sorry -- what a terribly sad thing..

[SoyCat]

43. I'm so sorry--

Sometimes words just aren't enough.

:hug: