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I've gotten into many a dust-up on line since the late 1980s. There is really only one way to deal with it -- that all such "fights" are between disembodied "agents" on-line. The content is to be taken seriously, but not the hostile intent of the person. But I "live in my head" when it comes to such matters, anyway.
My attitude was that arguing on-line was like boxing. You might be the closest of friends outside of the ring, but inside the ring, it's a battle for complete dominance. Muhammad Ali, for instance, seemed to take that approach; Joe Frasier did not, and his spites festered inside of him for years.
Then there are the people who have to be right so badly, it absorbs their entire life.
I had a friend who was the target of a right-wing stalker for years. I mean years. They were two mid-level brawlers on the Skeptical circuit; the righty followed, taunted, ragged on, and dogged this friend of mine from about 1989 until, oh, 2000, and may still be at it.
If I took everything that was said to me on-line to heart, I'd be long dead. As the internet becomes more of a common utility, I've restrained myself a lot more. Fighting seems to be an acquired skill, one that requires a certain kind of understanding, and most people don't understand -- as if they ever did.
Many of the problems in GD seem to be from a lack of appreciation of how fighting, when it's done well, works. Many of them just want to destroy the other guy. This is the way the Freeper element works in society. It just wants to destroy.
There's really no ideal way to deal with aggression. It's necessary (for instance, it will be needed to defeat George Bush) but it's messy. Contemplating the insights of the great martial artists help, but ultimately, it's just The Hero and The Adversary on the battleground.
The relationship between the two usually has more bearing on the outcome than the fight itself. Which does not bode well for America.
--bkl
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