*sigh* Another fargin Christmas alone....

[NightTrain]

Sometimes, I really hate being both a lifelong bachelor and an only child who has already lost both parents.... :cry:

[leftofthedial]

1. you've got DU buddy

and great music

spin some tunes, or just talk about them

you'll have lots of company

Happy holidays!

:toast:

[Red State Rebel]

2. If you were in St. Louis you could join us for Prime Rib Roast!

[mouse7]

23. I cannot believe you offered him Prime Rib TODAY.

Like the poor guy doesn't have enough problems without getting Mad Cow on top of it.

[Red State Rebel]

25. Hehehe! No Mad Cows in Missouri!

[everythingsxen]

3. Cheer up chummer..

ya got the Lounge.....

and Christmas sucks anyway. Its a commercialized sham. If it were really about caring and sharing it would go on all year.

As it is, it's just a big scam to buy gifts. Bah Humbug!

:shrug:

Best I can do for ya..

[SoCalDem]

4. Awww.. Merry Christmas, anyway..

If friends invite you, please go.. Years ago when our friends divorced, we "adopted" them individually.. They were both onlies and had no living parents.. We had jerry over on Xmas Eve and Mary on Xmas day.. and the next year we switched..

You might need to create a new family..a family of friends.. There are lots of people just like you, who do not have relatives near.. You could start a whole new tradition.. :)

Hang in there, :)

[The Undertaker]

5. come here to Mn....

and have some mad cow diseased......I mean beef au juis(sp?????)sandwiches. There's plenty for all!

[ChiefHappyButt]

6. Play some bring it down GROOVY music

and says thanks that we're all still around.

Good things are there even without the xmas spirit. It's all around you. Enjoy life!

[JVS]

7. Where are those fargin bastige friends of yours?

[eileen from OH]

8. You ain't alone. . .

you've got us. I'm hugging a tree (Christmas, no less) just for you.

eileen from OH

[Lars39]

9. Hi Night Train!

Have some nog! :toast: You've got a good heart, and are much appreciated. :hug:

[acmavm]

10. No, you are not alone. We're here. My son is gone until sometime

tomorrow so I'll be here in the house by myself, but I'm not alone. There is a whole world at your fingertips.

By the way, thank you very much for your great music threads the past year. I love them.

Are you going to church tonight? That's one way to be around people, and to celebrate the true meaning of Christmas. Just a suggestion.

[Tandalayo_Scheisskopf]

11. Ditto, d00d.

Except I have a brother who is, I reckon, at the bottom of a bottle of something especially liquid and effective right now. Both parents gone, too.

Just keep telling yourself that these things will pass, and keep a steely eye fixed on the blessings you have.

You do have some, you know...

[NJCher]

12. Awww, nighttrain

As the others say, you're not alone; we're all here!

I know several people who are spending Christmas alone--by choice!

I can't stay away from a computer no matter who is at my house so you can be sure I'll be here all evening long. :party:


Cher

[jonnyblitz]

13. I am alone for Xmas by choice and I don't mind at all!

I usually ride out the holiday season by myself if I can get away with it. I am not a Christian and don't care for this time of year at all and sort of just bide my time until Jan 2 when I breathe easy again and things get back to routine.

[Old and In the Way]

14. Well, if you're in the neighborhood, drop in!

I have some delicious Shipyard Winter Ale and a couple logs on the fire.

All the best NightTrain!

[Lydia Leftcoast]

15. I lived away from my family for 18 years and

although I almost always made it back to Mpls for Christmas, I was never with the rellies for Thanksgiving.

Yet I never spent a Thanksgiving alone.

Why not? I hooked up with other "orphans" (whether their families were dead, rejecting, or just far away), and we created potluck Thanksgiving dinners with wonderful food and lots of wine.

For your own sake, resolve that you will do this next year. You may think that you don't know any other "orphans," but I bet you do.

(If you really don't know anyone, maybe a good New Year's resolution would be to get involved in something outside of work that will bring you into contact with more people.)

For this evening, attend the 11PM or midnight service at a large Catholic or Episcopal church and let the glorious music wash over you.

[enough]

16. Here's to you, NightTrain

I'm raising a shot of good vodka to my long-gone Polish grandmother (the only time of year I drink vodka) and am including you in the toast. Who knows what it is to be alone: an only child when the parents are gone. Mine are still here, but gone in mind, so I'm beginning to understand.

But life goes on and the world is OK (at least for a few minutes after the vodka -- the only time my grandmother ever smiled.)

Remember, Christmas is short.

[Triana]

17. I'm sorry...

...but, it might be better than spending it with someone who is passionless but present. A passionless presence can be more hollow than none at all. Believe me, you're better off alone than at least that, anyway...

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

18. Just about in the same place here, NightTrain...

I'm just going to try and keep myself busy with non-Chrastmas things.

Hang tough. Only one more week of the "Holiday" season.

[Cleita]

19. I don't know if you drink, but if you can drink a beer, or even a coke

go to the local neighborhood tavern. Usually, these are a gathering places for people, who find themselves alone on the holidays. Often the tavern puts up a little dinner for the customers. Sometimes my husband and I found ourselves out on the road and in a town where we didn't know anyone over the holidays. We would look for a local that was open and often made a bunch of new friends in the same boat.

[flamingyouth]

20. C'mon over our house

We'll treat you right. :grouphug:

[NightTrain]

37. I don't suppose you live within an hour of Hartford, CT?

Just asking.... :hi:

[buddhamama]

21. you're not alone

you have US! i know it can suck, try not to let it get to you. once the holidays are over, things will be as they should be again.

:hug:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

22. Sorry Night Train!

I'm 3000 miles away or I'd help ya out. You are a great guy and a helluva great DJ.

[NightTrain]

35. Speaking of my being a DJ...

...I'll be doing a Christmas Day fill-in at my college radio station from 3-5 p.m. Eastern Time. I'm thinking about doing a special on the first decade of R&B music (1942-1952).

You can hear the show live on the Web via the station's homepage, http://www.whus.org

[Generic Other]

24. I'd invite ya over for Washington State beef roast

but I'm afraid to take the thing out of the refridgerator.

Cheer up, Night Train. Ya don't wanna get maudlin over the fruitcake.

It could be worse. Much worse. You could be Bush. Now there's a thought.

[Paragon]

26. Dude, get away from me with the mistletoe, already.

Just kidding, pal.

Love actually, is all around. ;) Look harder, you'll see.

[Piperay]

27. A BIG

hug :hug:for you and another BIGGER hug :grouphug:. I'm pretty much alone too, just my father and brother. This year is harder because we had relatives that we visited but they have turned their backs on us and so the three of us are just going to get some fast food and watch TV. I'll be glad when Friday comes.

[45th Med]

28. I'm alone too.

I'm dating someone who has kids so, no special attention tonight.

Maybe this weekend......

[Liberal Christian]

29. Single at Christmas

I'm a lifelong single as well. For the last many years, I've had to work on Christmas Eve, so I've gone to church, then made a big effort to get to family (brothers, sisters, mom) on Christmas Day.
I would finally see family around dinnertime.

This year is a little different. I'll still see family, but it will be on the 26th as the 13 of us head to Belize to snorkel for 10 days or so.

We get rather Norman Rockwell-ish when we all get together, but there are times it doesn't work out. Like the year I drove off the road into a cornfield on Christmas Day and spent 4 days in the hospital and many more months recovering from the broken vetebra.

I've been alone on Thanksgiving most years. I often accept invites from others. I do like the idea of adopting others and doing a big potluck.

I think that, for me, as I try to focus on what the holiday means and less on holiday hype, it's easier to be single because I figure God loves me whether I'm single or not. And to me, that's what Christmas is all about, anyway.

Peace, love, joy everyone ... wherever you find it.

[ornotna]

30. Here for ya'

Both my parents are gone, so I know what that's like.
Cheer up DU buddy, You'll be ok (I hope) :grouphug:
BTW, Thanks for all your music posts, You've turned me on to some artists that I've never heard before. :toast:

[KoKo]

31. Hey Night Train! Good to see you......You are Not Alone!

:-)'s to you!

[KoKo]

32. No one is "alone" on DU, when folks take time to answer. That

means alot. Think about it. I do when I feel really "out of it."

Party DU for those here who have folks to complain to! It's good!

[TankLV]

33. Cheer up buddy!

How 'bout enjoying the time off, quiet, time to watch movies all nite, pig-out, be a pig, be selfish - eat everything, drink everything, pamper yourself.

I did that a few times - made it like a day-off work - playing hookie - you get the picture.

Just enjoyed doing nothing for a few days.

Then I got a Golden Retriever a few years later. Then another one to be his buddy about a couple years after that. And somehow I didn't care if it was just us 3!

Opps! I almost forget -

MERRY CHRISTMAS/HAPPY HANAUKAH/HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!!!

Peace and quite can be nice, too!

I was on a seminar once where we had to spend 3 days ALONE with NO DISTRACTIONS - in silence - to the point of if you had to build a campfire, you could do it only to stay warm or dry, but not to gaze into it like a TV. Only had myself and my thoughts. Of course, it didn't help the first nite when it rained and I jumped into my sleeping bag and slid a few hundred yards down the muddy hill in complete darkness - no moon - crashing thru the brush and trees! I really needed the peace and quite the following 2 days!

[HEyHEY]

34. See if a hooker can give you a christmas cuddle

just kiddin

[Individualist]

36. Lousy, isn't it?

Both my parents are gone (both died in December although years apart), I live alone, and the holiday is a real downer for me. I'm not an only child but sometimes wish I were. My brother has always distanced himself from me (At age 64 he still hasn't grown out of his Tommy Smothers complex - "mom always liked you best"). He and his wife do invite me for Christmas dinner and gift exchange (probably because they feel obligated to do so). I never feel welcome in their home, so as soon as possible without seeming rude, I come back home. One thing that helps me is to look forward to the New Year's holiday. In the meantime, here's a big cyberhug for you!