Is getting a nude lapdance cheating?

[MrScorpio]

Okay folks, lets settle this issue once and for all.

[CoNnOc]

1. NO

Take it from a horny teenager, lap dances arn't cheating!

[Deja Q]

2. Give me one and I'll let you know! (Just kidding!)

:evilgrin:

It's cheating, unless both people involved are single. In which case it's prelude to fornication. :crazy:

[HuckleB]

3. "Cheating" occurs if you lie about the lap dance.

The lie is what creates the cheater, not the act.

[Elidor]

31. So you would recommend coming home and saying:

"Hi, honey! I just had the most incredible lap-dance down at the Pink Pony! You really missed out!"

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

37. As long as she gets the, um. er, benefits of the experience

My wife would not mind.
But that is why I married her.

[LoZoccolo]

4. Is the eggroll thing something about jizzing?

Not that it would change my answer.

[MrScorpio]

6. Gee, you've got a dirty mind

WAY TO GO!!!!

[BlackVelvetElvis]

5. Here's how to tell if it's cheating...

What if your partner/wife/husband/whatever had gotten such a dance and they were aroused. How would YOU feel about it? Okay, betrayed, apathetic, jealous? Therin lies the answer.
I guess this is geared towards men.
Men, what if your wife/partner/etc. was involved in some sexy humping from a man?
Would you feel threatened if some studly beautiful man did the deed to yours? Hmmm?
Just curious.

[MrScorpio]

8. Okay, what if you guys did it as a couple?

A family that lapdances together, et al...

[BlackVelvetElvis]

Then no problem

Dance on!

[Rowdyboy]

7. I would say no, my partner would say yes, so

the answer is yes.

[Syn_Dem]

9. I think so

Maybe because Im just hyper-sensitive in these things :shrug:

[leftist_rebel1569]

12. Same here

or at least I would think so.

BTW, congrats on 420 posts :P (yes, I know...very useless milestone)

[Syn_Dem]

17. Whooo!!!

Been here for a year and my 420th post....I need to be in the lounge more often.

[BlueEyedSon]

10. Depends on who's nude. nt

[Blade]

11. Hell no...

You aren't having sex with her. Just don't lie about it when asked.

[MrScorpio]

15. Agreed

No sex. Just dancing.

[HuckleB]

16. When asked?

I don't see much difference in lying and not being up front about it. You shouldn't wait to be asked, in my humble opinion. That's a set up for disaster.

[Blade]

28. How about....

just don't tell her at all??? That way, no problems arise. :)

[HuckleB]

41. You haven't been in a relationship for very long, have you?

[MrScorpio]

13. "YES" by 4 to 1?

Wow, I didn't expect this.

Ok, maybe I been out of the country for too long.

My wife doesn't think so. (of course, she's Dutch)

If she got one, cool.

Our general rule in "Don't leave the club with more than you went in with"

But that's just us.

[BootinUp]

14. My Goodness!

A little puritan for my taste. Maybe the lady DU'ers have a different perspective though.

[BootinUp]

19. partial confirmation

The wife doesn't like it, but its NOT cheating. }(

[BlackVelvetElvis]

20. What if your wife got rubbed on

from the back by some very well hung sexy man. You'd probably feel threatened.
How do you think she might feel?

[MrScorpio]

22. Sorry not feeling you guy.

Especially since I know that I'm going home with her and he's not.

Jealousy sucks man.

[BlackVelvetElvis]

24. Jealousy does suck

If your partner doesn't care, no biggie
If your partner has a problem with it, then think about the consequences.

[Cleita]

18. Cheating on who? Your dog?

If it's your wife, of course it's cheating unless she's the one doing the lap dance.

[LoZoccolo]

21. Hey wait, didn't they end all the sex threads?

I'm not gonna hit the button though.

[MrScorpio]

23. The point is that no sex is involved

I trully think that this is a trust issue

[WillyT]

25. If He Thinks It's Funny, And She Thinks It's Funny, No Harm...

If he thinks it's funny, and she doesn't, he's an idiot...

If he thinks he has a chance, and she thinks it's funny, he's an idiot...

If he thinks he has a chance, and she thinks he has a chance, they're both idiots...

Presuming of course that what we're talkin about, is what I think we're talkin about, otherwise I'm an idiot.

:evilgrin:

[aquart]

26. It's not cheating, it's delusional.

You're fantasizing this girl wants you.

She doesn't.

[MrScorpio]

30. Of course, I know she doesn't want me.

I want to be entertained, not deluded

[joeybee12]

27. No, it's just a waste of money--hey, if you're gonna spend money, get

more for your buck.

I know that sounds crude, but quite frankly, I never saw the allure of all this. Then again, being gay might color my view. Then again, it might not, because I don't even want a guy to do this for me.

[Kathy in Cambridge]

29. A Lapdance is not cheating if it's OK if a much younger, better-built, and

sexier man rubs against me and kisses my neck. It's equal, right?

Well, my husband doesn't go for that so no lapdances for him!

Guys, Wouldn't you feel threatened if some young, beautiful man was humping your Significant Other?

[BlackVelvetElvis]

32. That's what I said

Hey guys...
It does happen. I've seen a women's night out. They can be as bad as men.
Or worse.

[Cleita]

36. That's why Chippendales never used to let men

in when they first began.

[Spirochete]

33. Cheating is relative..

if EITHER partner considers something cheating, then it is. That's my take on it. That's assuming no fanatically jealous people involved.

[populistmom]

34. I don't think it is

That doesn't mean I'd like it though. It seems like my husband and other males in my past weren't the kind of guys that went for that type of thing, so it's probably easy for me to say. If my husband went somewhere and got a lap dance on a rare occasion, it honestly wouldn't bother me. Maybe it would get him more relaxed. I even suggested we do something like that together once, but he didn't seem comfortable with it (not sure how much I was either, but sometimes one has to help things along in those long term deals). On the other hand, if it was on a regular basis, I'd have serious problems with it. For the most part though, I'm not really the jealous type and confident enough in myself to understand I'm the total package and do not need to feel threatened by any other women.

[MrScorpio]

35. I agree with you PopMom

I think Americans especially take this thing too seriously

[45th Med]

38. I'll help you out, bro....with my NO vote.

nt

[MrScorpio]

45. Thanks, Man

Another military guy should know.

[WindRavenX]

39. No

I expect my partner to tell me about it, of course, and I don't even care if he got off from the experience. Men are going to do these things, and as long as he doesn't have sex with her, I don't care.
I mean, women do the same thing...I just want to be open in communication in that *I* am still his #1 sex kitten and not some DD boob blonde flooz at a bar. That's all.
Other than that...as long as he doesn't do it too often, no harm done, IMHO.

[Zorra]

40. Ask your wife or girlfriend.

[MrScorpio]

47. My wife falls squarely into the "No" camp

It's only a dance.

[last_texas_dem]

42. Yes

Wow, I'm surprised this is even close!

Well, I dunno, I guess I should make an exception for the circumstance in which a partner actually give permission to the other partner to participate in such an action. In which case I would still say it's cheating in the sense that a person in a relationship is engaging in sexual activity with another person besides their significant other, but if the significant other has no problem with it that's certainly their right to accept it. Messed-up IMHO, but still their right.

[arewethereyet]

43. if you have to ask, you already know the answer

of course it is

[DS1]

44. only if you don't race home for some hot sweaty sex afterwards

:)

[MrScorpio]

48. Bingo!!

You know it

[VT70]

46. YES

Of course it's cheating. Kissing anyone but a close friend on the lips is cheating, and anything more than that is cheating too.