What makes you love someone?

[Robb]

Big open-ended question for Saturday... :shrug:

[JohnKleeb]

1. Stop it with love threads

:argh:
damnit damnit damnit damnit damnit fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck
:(
First tell me what is love? sigh

[supernova]

2. Awww... poor baby

:hug: for JohnKleeb

I'm sure you'll find out soon enough. If not high school, there's always college. }(

[JohnKleeb]

3. aww thanks

damned love threads :(. I need to change my personality, I am way too shy.

[never cry wolf]

29. Young John

Check your PM in like 5 minutes.

[HEyHEY]

22. college ain't so much about love as

It is about wild sloppy animal sex

[everythingsxen]

9. What is love?

I can only partially answer this question..

Because love itself is so many things to so many people.

In the end though, the purest form of love is self-sacrifice. When you love someone so much that you would do anything for them; go hungry so they might eat, be sick so they might be healthy, die that they might live.

That's a bit extreme I know.

The actual "What is love?" is a little tougher. To me it is thinking about the person you love fondly, the simple act of thinking about them making your day be better. A little painful too, as you ache to be with them. Love is hope. Love is longing. Love is something wondrous.

:shrug:

That's the answer you get from a hopeless romantic though. :P

[supernova]

4. Big Questions on Saturday

Ouch, Robb! You're making my brain hurt.... haven't had coffee yet.


What makes me love someone? Sense of humor, sense of he can "take it" (the vageries of life), respect for me by respecting my ideas and opinions, always considerate and helpful to everyone, passionate about his purpose in life and about his ideals, that's all I can think of this morning.

[PVnRT]

5. Stupidity, and a desire to be hurt

I can't think of any other reason, as that's all that happens.

[Whitacre D_WI]

8. Oh, and don't forget the biggie: GUILT.

"Love's always having to say you're sorry"
--Nick Cave

[everythingsxen]

6. I have no idea...

Why love happens, is a mystery to me.

Some say it is a chemical reaction, induced by a genetic imperative to ensure the survival of "your" DNA.

That's a little too scientific for me. I'm a hopeless romantic, so I think it has more to do with kismet. The hows and whys.. bah; why bother with all that? That it is or can be is enough for me.

If you meant love in a non-romantic way; i.e. family, friends...

Then it also might be a genetic thing. For example though, my aunt is related to me genetically.. however, she is kind of a cold and distant person. It's just her way I guess. Yet I still "love" her. Whereas a lot of my friends are warm people and I "love" them too. Almost (if not more) as much as I love my aunt.

It's also shared experiences, comraderie, common interests and something less intangible. Some people you just "know" even before you meet them. Right away you can tell you are going to get along with them. :shrug:

My $0.02 for the moment.

[KG]

7. every good relationship need a solid foundation

for me, it starts with a night of hot, mind blowing sex and builds from there. :evilgrin:

[Padraig18]

10. For me...

... he respects me, even when he doesn't agree with me, he's kind and compassionate and considerate, he has a MOST attractive brain that he's not afraid to use, his wicked sense of irony and his almost-constant quiet good humor, slow to anger and quick to forgive, he's absolutely gorgeous and drives me to heights of lust I'd only imagined before, ummm... I think you get the picture. :)

[deminflorida]

11. Having someone who is Beautiful, Intelligent, and Understanding...

My wife was born in Poland, and having had to stand in the snow when she was a little girl just to wait for oranges for Christmas, she understands what it's like to lose your job and how many people have suffered under the economy of the last three years. We also lived in Italy together for a while (our daughter was born there) and having lived in Europe she's also aware that America is not the best place to live in the world, although the American people are probably the best to live around (her words not mine). Being from different cultures, (I grew up in the south in Alabama)...always makes for interesting conversation. There's one thing we both agree on, If you want to live like a Republican, you'd better vote Democratic.

[deminflorida]

12. P.S.

She's also not very happy about soldiers from her country dying and being injured in Iraq right now. Not very happy at all.

[radwriter0555]

13. First: They have to love ME. No unrequited love baby, that's a WASTE

of time.

MUST be reciprocal! Otherwise it's just a crush, obsession or extreme mental imbalance.

It makes no sense to love someone that doesn't love you, and to MOURN when someone doesn't love you.

[Seldona]

14. For me it started with lust.

Then after awhile I couldnt picture my life without her in it.

I told her that, and we got married a year later.

Been married for 6 years, and together for 12.

[areschild]

15. There's an old saying that

You Like someone "because"...

You Love someone "in spite of"...

Guess there's no clear answer as to why you Love someone.

[sendero]

16. It is...

... biology and genetics. Which doesn't reduce its meaning or beauty at all :)

[NJCher]

17. What makes me love someone?

Kindness and gentility, I think. And a sense of humor. Who could survive this life without humor?

Whenever I see someone do a good thing a part of me melts. I am a sucker for a do-gooder.

Now oddly enough, my spouse is not a professional do-gooder but he does these oddball kind things, in addition to being the most civil person I have ever seen operate in daily life. He has truly been an example to me, which I desperately need as I tend to be more focused on getting things done and people kind of run a poor second.


Cher

[LanternWaste]

18. Add to the list of things that make you go, "Hmmm..."

I really think that if I could answer that question, I'd be on my way to being one of the world's wisest men. Maybe it's me, but it seems every time I fall for a girl, and I mean *really* fall, it's always for different reasons, and the reason's are always indefinable to me.

There are obvious things which can move the slider up or down, but never to a degree which makes her a "lock", if you know what I mean. Things like

Being a Lady (in the traditional sense of the word)
Having a mind and using it
Kindness & Empathy

Those are the three biggies that come to mind, but I've fallen for girls who possessed none of the above (or in such a small degree, you'd have to dig pretty deep to see them), so I guess they aren't absolutes. Maybe it isn't an absolute (but I really don't think it has *anything* to do with genetics or DNA as stated in a previous reply).

Good question, though. Add to the list of things that make you go, "Hmmm..."

[populistmom]

19. As far as "romantic love", a mutual feeling of....

Passion, hope, laughter, attraction, intellectual stimulation, shared values, shared goals, openness, and are simply able to "be yourself" without reservation and still love him while he loves you.

For the kind of love I have for my children, they have to do nothing to receive my love. They could decide to hate me and it would still be there. I was in love with each of them the first time I saw their little faces. That connection just "is" without explanation.

[tigereye]

20. as usual pm, a very good assessment!

Enjoy your pov. Good point that it is a different kind of love for your partner, than for your child. A feeling just comes over you that you would do almost anything to protect them, because your love is so powerful. A woman in my Lamaze class once said that you can tell how much your parents loved you by what you felt when you looked at your own child. I didn't really understand that until I became a parent.

[HEyHEY]

21. spite!

[buddhamama]

30. is that your answer for everything,HEyHEY ?

i'm beginning to have second thoughts about what you whispered to me today ;-)

[Mass_Liberal]

23. love is

agreement on the topic of Robb being a dingbat

[Robb]

28. Then, indeed,

...there is much love to be had here at DU. ;)

[WindRavenX]

24. To quote No Doubt..

"Love is Like A Punishment"
Honestly, I don't know if I've ever been in love with someone, but it is my experience that the closer you come to loving a person (the closer you get to know him or her), the more and more you put yourself up to being hurt. Love is making yourself as vulnerable as possible, vulnerable to being destroyed emotionally and spiritually. But the question is whether or not it is worth is...and I say, as someone becoming more vulnerable to someone, it is. You expose yourself, and it is a risk. Love is a risk.

[trof]

25. I like what Clinton said.

"It's not rocket science. If you like someone, they'll like you back."

[WindRavenX]

26. Completely disagree with that one

"If you like someone, they'll like you back."
Ask anyone if everyone they've liked has liked them back...IMHO, that part of the quote isnt true.
Except for the rocket science part. That's true, it isn't a science :)

[Rowdyboy]

27. If you're very very lucky, you'll fall in love

with your best friend. Its wonderful.