I just found out I'm going to be alone for my birthday.

[kiraboo]

:cry: I have never before been alone on my birthday. Expect me to be joining y'all here for compulsory congratulations.

[miss_american_pie]

1. Awww

:hug:

When is your birthday?

[kiraboo]

5. July 8.

An auspicious day. Not!

[zonkers]

2. I think thats cool.

[kiraboo]

12. Until I read your post, I didn't think of it that way.

It could be, couldn't it? What'll I do? What'll I do?

[zonkers]

30. Heres what i would do.... Wake up, have an awesome espresso

and a light breakfast. The, take a hike in the woods/at the beach. Head home, take a long hot bath with the newspaper. Call up a friend you've lost touch with. Go out again. Hit some record stores. Maybe get a pedicure/foot massage. Buy a cool pair of sneakers (thats me). See that movie no one else wants to see. Go home, watch some TV. Order out a pizza. Have a scotch. Crash early.

[kiraboo]

40. I like it all, except for the sneakers.

But some sandals with heels, I'll buy. Excellent suggestions!

[WCGreen]

34. Ding Dong and ice cream drum sticks......

And we will all sing HB to you all day longgggggg.......

[kiraboo]

41. I'm counting on it WCGreen.

Hope you're feeling better :hug:

[WCGreen]

61. Better every day....

Thank you for thinking about me...

I do hope things work out for the better....

[joneschick]

3. can you plan a super-duper spa day? maybe with a friend?

new traditions can be fun to make up.:hug:

[kiraboo]

6. That's not a bad idea,

provided one of my relatives sends me a check to cover the cost!

[Deja Q]

4. I can empathise.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

I never had one where I wasn't alone.

Don't fret on it. Enjoy it the best you can. (that's hard for me to say because I don't know if I'll make 35 and I always get depressed on my "special day.")

But we are here in spirit. :hug:

[kiraboo]

8. When I was a kid I always had only family birthday parties.

I used to feel soooo sorry for myself. But now I'm used to it. The being alone thing might be interesting.

Why are you talking about not making it to 35? Do I have to come down there and smack you?

[Deja Q]

13. Right now it's only hypoglycemia...

I'm not out to do anything deliberate, hell no.

But my fear is full blown diabetes will develop and I'll require meds.

I'm also constantly worried about my job going bye-bye, for 5 very valid reasons. No money and insurance = no meds.

I'm doing what I can to compensate during the interim, but it's so far not working, the added exercise and I do it plenty each day.

But I will keep trying. And hope I can reverse the trend.

(oh, diabetes is on both sides of my family... I always knew it'd be a matter of time anyway.)

[kiraboo]

18. From what I hear there are some new meds on the horizon.

No injections required. :hug: That was something I always worried about, having to inject insulin. From what I hear one does get very used to it. But I know, it's the whole idea of being on maintenance medication to stay alive. Makes one feel unsafe, somehow.

[Deja Q]

62. Awesome news!

From what I've heard, doing the blood check freaks more people out; the injection is painless. :wow:

Still, of all the diseases requiring poppin' pills to stay alive, I'd probably enjoy diabetes the most. :D

I don't mind meds... just the price of them as our politician-hopefuls who keep begging for our votes remind us on... ah, the culture of life. :D

[Kajsa]

26. HypnoToad, that is a very tough thing.

I hope things turn your way.
You sure are working your butt off, doing
the right things.

I'll send good vibes your way!

:hug:

afterthought-
Damn it!! Our country needs universal healthcare for all.
We have needed it for a long, long time!!!

No one should go through the shit you're going through!

[Deja Q]

60. Right now they're ALL blaming it on anxiety... somewhat unfair...

but I have been under a lot of stress lately, from many aspects in my life... I cannot deny that. But there's much more to it than that.

But I'm waiting for the full collapse and ER treatment. There's nothing else I can do; I will be overruled in an nanosecond without a lot of proof to show there's something behind the anxiety and I now know there is... and I'm very sensitive to "medications".

And the way the feeling progresses, I anticipate within 4 weeks, but what do I know? Something is funky, and not in a good way, and I can't begin to estimate what will happen or when. It just feels icky.

http://www.med-help.net/Hypoglycemia.html - says it all. From the sweating to the nausea to the clammy skin. The lot. Anxiety can be a contributor, yes... but given not just my family history but the consistency that transcends acute episodes of anxiety... anxiety is not the root cause. It makes it worse at times. I haven't been anxious most of the evening, yet the hunger and clamminess hasn't gone. Tingling extemities (esp. feet) too...

...But I now have the tools to keep a constant log of times and readings and that's the proof I need. I've always wanted to play doctor... Maybe I can show that to the doc and get this anxiety nonsense thrown out. Before it gets worse. Saturday was trying as I was driving back from somewhere and got to the buffet restaurant just in time; I was already keeling over while driving... I recall the delurium as filling up the first place... I also recall feeling the 'shock' sensation after I started eating; it's not a comfortable experience, I can assure you. Eventually it all settled down. But yuck...

[Skittles]

36. I got you beat, babe

I never had a birthday party - when I was 27 my house-mate found this out and arranged for a surprise party for me.....then my dad shot himself three days before my birthday and died six days later. And THAT was the only birthday party I ever had. :o

[rug]

59. Good grief!

You need a housecall from newyawka99.

[jobycom]

63. Oh, Jeeze.

Was going to make a wisecrack about Will and Grace, but... Wow. Sympathies.

[Guava Jelly]

7. Nobody should be alone on thier 20th birthday

Wish I was close enough to take you out for a drink.
Happy Early birthday :)

[kiraboo]

10. Oh sir, but you're too kind!

I'm not sure I want to be twenty again. But maybe thirty? :D

[Guava Jelly]

17. Thirty It is then It's your birthday .

Have a couple Martinis or whatever your poison is.
Just be safe so we can see you post here the next day.

[kiraboo]

19. Nary a day goes by without my posting.

So if you don't, you know I'm either dead, or lying in the arms of a godlike man.

[Guava Jelly]

20. I am rooting for a god like man...Well at least for you

I'll take the goddess like Woman :)

[kiraboo]

22. Thanks. If I come by the right woman, I'll be sure to send her

your way. We can all use a little pick-me-up sometimes...!

[chaska]

31. Did I hear my name?

I spell it differently though. It's Godlyke. Farquar Q. Godlyke is my real name.

...Okay, it's Quincy. But don't tell anybody.

Boo, you should have said something sooner. Given another week I coulda been there. California is a fer piece from Maine.

(If you only knew how close I am to not kidding)

[kiraboo]

38. Well, gee, then I wish I was going to be in Oregon

where the rest of my family lives!

Remember, if you ever want to escape from the heat, and fashion, and good shopping, you are always welcome in Bangor!

[chaska]

50. Wow, Boo. Talk about a rock and a hard place....

Now granted, my experience of Bangor is the bus station at the end and/or beginning of a few backpacking trips, but that's a pretty dark and dingy place in my experience. Kind of depressed me. And Oregon, in the winter at least, same thing. I lived in Seattle for a few years. I can't deal with the pacific NW anymore. I've never lived in the NE though. I've always wanted to. I may just come a knockin'.

...Stranger things have happened.

...I suppose.

...hey, anything's possible.

...Right?

You try to cheer yourself up. It's a rough time, I know.

Hugs.

[kiraboo]

52. I will chas - er - Godlyke. Laughing.

[chaska]

56. Please, call me Farquar...

All my friends do. Many a young woman has screamed "FARQUAR" (or purred it) in the throes of ecstacy. You may purr it ... for now. :evilgrin:

[ceile]

9. Well, if you were in Austin you would not be alone.

I'd be takin' your ass out for a beer! :beer: :toast:

[kiraboo]

11. Can I come along too? My ass doesn't like beer.

I swear to god I'm thinking about moving to Texas.

[ceile]

14. lol

COme on down if you can stand the heat! Actually, it's been 60s in the a.m.....very nice.

[Deja Q]

15. But would you consider a vacation to Minnesota?

Lots of good people up here in Minnesota. And you wouldn't believe how few of us sound like those stereotypes in "Fargo" either! :D

[kiraboo]

21. I was going to ask if you had the accent!

I like it, actually. Kinda like you're biting your own tongue. Yes, when I win the lottery this evening I am taking miss_american_pie to a tropical island. chaska will housesit. Then we'll all swing by your place and take you out to PARTY! (with careful consideration given to your blood sugar situation, of course).

[GOPisEvil]

33. Damn straight, the Austin DUers took me out for my birthday!

:beer::beer::beer::beer:

[jobycom]

37. I didn't.

Wanted to, but...

[GOPisEvil]

39. Well, you weren't alone in missing the festivities.

Even Lloyd Doggett showed up. Really. :)

[jobycom]

66. Had a more important guest than Doggett at my house that night.

My dad. Not sure how many more times I'll get that opportunity. I thought of you, though, briefly, when he started getting on my nerves and I thought maybe I should have been drinking margaritas wit youse guys instead! :) But no, it was worth it. Happy late birthday!

Was Doggett really there?

[kiraboo]

42. That is so excellent. Have you visited the Maine forum?

Neither has anybody else. :( I don't think I'll be heading out with any Mainers.

[GOPisEvil]

43. The Texas forum is the most active.

There are some Mainers on the board. A few at least. :pals:

But hey, if you ever head down to True Blue Austin, we'd treat you to a good time. :)

[kiraboo]

45. I have a cousin in Dallas... she works in radio but I don't

know any more than that. Maybe some day!

[GOPisEvil]

48. Dallas isn't too far away.

Lots of good DU folks up that way, too.

[bigwillq]

16. That stinks

:hug:

[kiraboo]

23. It has been suggested that, far from stinking,

it might be a time to stop and smell the roses. Hmmmm. Perhaps.

[bigwillq]

24. Could be a good idea!

:)

[Ptah]

25. ..

[kiraboo]

44. Awww. Thank you Ptah!

I love roses. I really do. Thanks for thinking of me. :)

[Kajsa]

27. Get ahold of a good friend.

Do something fun that you want to do.

Going out for a nice lunch could do the trick.

I just had mine last Friday.

Very few people here noticed my birthday thread.

To those of you who did- Thank You!!
It means more than you know.:D

[kiraboo]

47. Well, I do appreciate your noticing mine in advance.

I'm sorry I missed yours! Happy belated, and many happy returns :hi:

[Xipe Totec]

28. Spanish proverb:

"Mas vale sola, que mal acompañada"

- Better off alone than in bad company.

We'll be here, if you need us.

[kiraboo]

49. And you all are the very best of company.

No doubt of it. Thanks, Xipe Totec.

[Xipe Totec]

68. ..

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

29. My dear kiraboo!

You won't be alone as long as you have us!

We've got your back, baby!

I just know you will have a wonderful birthday!

:toast: :bounce: :bounce: :toast:

[kiraboo]

51. CalPeg, I've already had it.

I'm not even going to mention it on the date, because I've had my party right here this evening. Thanks dear one!

[jpgray]

32. I think my first was well attended

Though some were paid to be there, I think.

[kiraboo]

53. I wish I had the funds!

Really, that'd be a hoot. A party with paid guests. I'd have to interview them first of course. Don't want any riff raff!

[RetroLounge]

35. You are NEVER alone, you have us...

and if you were closer, I'd show up wearing a party hat...

:hi:

RL

[kiraboo]

54. Retro, I will just have to picture that

...in me mind's eye...he he he...

[Rhiannon12866]

46. Oh, I'm sorry. Though I was alone for most of my birthday, as well.

And I spent New Year's Eve with three dogs and a sleeping friend who was recovering from major surgery... and DU. Actually, it was one of my most memorable New Year's, ever. There are a lot of kind folks here, and they're always available, day or night. You have friends here, and we'll all wish you the best birthday, ever...:grouphug:

Rhiannon:hi:

[kiraboo]

55. Rhiannon, I love your name.

And you're right. I was telling somebody just today how I've never met a finer bunch of people than those at DU. It never fails to amaze me how kind and thoughtful everybody is.

I think that normally being alone on my birthday wouldn't be a big deal. It's a hard time for me right now. But... New Years with three dogs? Attending a sickbed? You are a good friend! I'm sorry you spent part of your birthday alone too.

[Rhiannon12866]

75. Thank you so much for your kind words.

I like my name, too. And I like yours, as well. A lovely name and more unusual than mine.:-)

I am always impressed with the kindness and compassion that I see everyday on DU. Liberals are like that. :D If you need help, advice, sympathy, or just plain company, day or night, your friends on DU are always there. And some of the kindest relies that I've ever received, like on New Year's, were from people who I'd never crossed paths with before.:-)

And I understand how tough being alone on your birthday must be for you. I'm sure that I'm older than you are and this was the first time for me, and it was tough. I felt a little sorry for myself, but I knew that I made the right choice, not spending my day with what remains of my family, who doesn't wish me well during the rest of the year...:-(

And I actually really enjoyed this past New Year's Eve. I was with someone who really needed me and asked me to be there, even though he wasn't awake, LOL! And the company of dogs is vastly underrated, LOL! And I am only with two dogs, right now, so this past New Year's Eve is a good memory for me...

As for my birthday, my good friend, who turned me on to DU, showed up late with my favorite pizza, so I managed to sober up for that...:D And you know that your friends from DU, whether you've known them before, or not, will definitely be here with you, on your special day, including me.:D

Rhiannon:hug:

[hyphenate]

57. Been there

done that. What I suggest is you do what I do when I'm alone on my birthday--grab yourself a mental health day.

Decide beforehand where you would like to go that you've never been before, within a 2 hour radius from home. Depending on what you want, it could be filled with other people, or solitary, which is the way I usually like it. Put a lunch together, stick it in your backpack and go for the drive. When you get to your destination, take lots of pictures, make a picnic, relax and just contemplate and meditate. At the end of the day, go to a nice restaurant, and then drive home. Play only your favorite songs on the CD player or MP3 player, and when you get home, unwind, and go to bed early. The day will remain in memory long after it has passed.

[Benfea]

58. It's not all that bad.

Hugs to you anyway.

[Floogeldy]

64. I celebrate every day as if it is my birthday.

Sorry, I cannot relate to your desperation but I wish you all of the happiness in the world. :)

[JVS]

76. So that's why you're always hammered

;-)

[hfojvt]

65. it could be worse

you could be as old as I am
and childless

worse yet - I don't even drink

[jobycom]

67. 90,000 of your closest friends to party with

minus a few Freeper trolls, of course. Heck, they may even tip a glass (or a bottle of Oxycontin) to your health!

[Kire]

69. I was 12 at the last birthday party I ever had.

Almost 20 years ago.

Now everybody just phones it in.

[Seabiscuit]

70. Maybe you need to make some non-cyber friends.

[JackDragna]

71. It's not so bad.

I've been alone every birthday. It's not so bad. Solitude is the essence of human existence. You'll be okay.

[onenogoodnik]

72. You won't be alone in spirit! n/t

[kiraboo]

73. So true!

I've been all about self-pity lately. Time to quit whining. That's the plan!

[onenogoodnik]

74. I like your attitude Boo. You sound like a powerful woman.

I need to take some of that advise too.