Do you want to see me getting very upset?

[MissHoneychurch]

Then let me walk into my ex bf who still owes me a bunch of money (I broke up with him in 2002). That is what happened Friday evening:
Over the weekend I visited a friend of mine (A) in the same town as my ex lives. My friend and I went to a club Friday night. Upon arriving, A told me she thinks she saw my ex. True enough, he was sitting outside the club with a woman, talking. It took me a while debating if I want to face that idiot and confront him about my money or not. Well, I went over and asked him where my money is. In front of that other woman. I didn't care. Of course he gave me bullshit reasons why he doesn't pay me back. He doesn't have my account information (I gave it to him 2 years ago). I have his phone number I could always call him (What makes him think I still have his number and why am I supposed to ran after MY money????). Oh and the best, he ain't paying for my vacation!! (we went together to Monroe, LA to visit HIS family he hasn't seen in 10 years as he didn't had the money for the flight and I paid for the whole trip and more). Excuse me???? I told him I paid for HIS f*cking family. :wtf: There were some more heated arguments but of course he won't pay me back. I gave him my account information again nevertheless. Even though I would bet it landed in the next trash can.

After that confrontation I needed a vodka coke to calm down. I really had a knot in my stomach I was so upset.

I really detest this idiot. Yes I know it was a f*cking mistake to give him the money but at least he could be man enough to pay it back. Maybe if I would stay calm and talk to him in a quiet voice it would bring more (which I doubt). But when I see that idiot (which isn't happening maybe once in a year the most) I can't stay calm. I just can't.

:rant:

[billyskank]

1. What an asshole

:hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

3. I must have been out of my mind

when I was together with this idiot. There is no other explanation why I put up with him

Thanks for the hug :hug:

[JVS]

2. Something about the tone of the story tells me that this is not really...

completely about the money. Why not forget about the money/past and not let anger ruin the present?

[MissHoneychurch]

6. It is mainly of the money

believe me if you would know the amount you wouldn't stay calm either. Anyway, he also tried to push me down mentally when we were together. And I believe that is one reason why I can't stay calm in his presence. He made me feel bad and small so that he could feel like a man. I pretty much forgot about the money, I know I will never see a dime of it. But whenever I walk into him I need to say something. I want him to know that I haven't forgotten about it.

[jobycom]

31. Is killing ex-boyfriends illegal in your state?

If so, sorry to hear it. I've got an ex-brother-in-law like that. He feels magnanomous when every other Christmas he gives his two daughters a little cash for a present.

:hug:

Of course, this was supposed to be under the OP. Sorry for the confusion. I either need to sleep or eat, cause I sure can't type this morning.

[MissHoneychurch]

33. Unfortunately yes

otherwise there would be a bunch of corpes laying around. And not only the ones of my exes.

[Oeditpus Rex]

4. Vodka and Coke?

:puke:





:hug: :loveya:

[Floogeldy]

8. Whew!

Yuk!

[MissHoneychurch]

9. I needed something strong

and I felt better after it. What can I say?




:hug:

[Oeditpus Rex]

16. Yeah, but...

vodka and Coke?? :shrug:

Vodka and Seven, vodka and tonic, vodka and OJ, vodka and grapefruit juice... okay.

Bourbon and Coke, rum and Coke... okay.

But why make yourself barf, even when you're mad? :shrug:

[MissHoneychurch]

17. I didn't barf ... LOL

and I thought a Pina Colada is not strong enough to calm down.

[Oeditpus Rex]

21. Not unless you sit in it

:rofl:

[MissHoneychurch]

23. I am a woman

I have different taste buds :rofl:

[Oeditpus Rex]

24. You don't mean...

...



...



...



...down there??

[MissHoneychurch]

25. I have taste buds down there?????

that would be new to me :rofl:

[Oeditpus Rex]

28. I'd imagine it would change your entire life

:rofl:

[Blue-Jay]

5. How much is it worth to you to be through with him forever?

Sure, an honorable person would pay you back, but maybe you should just write it off. Sounds like that course would be better for your piece of mind to just tell yourself: "It cost me $xx.xx to be rid of this douchebag and it WAS FUCKING WORTH IT!"

Just a thought.

[MissHoneychurch]

13. It is too much money to say it was worth it

I got rid of him the minute I made myself clear that I am losing myself if I stay in that relationship.

Deep inside me I KNOW that I will never see that money again. And I would be more than happy to never see that idiot again. But at the same time whenever I have the bad luck to walk into him (good thing I live 2 hours away from where he lives) I have to confront him. I don't want him to think he gets off the hook ever.

[Random_Australian]

7. Somebody needs a hug!

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
                                                  :loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya:
                              :loveya::pals::pals::pals::pals::hug::hug::hug::hug::pals::pals::pals::pals::loveya:
          :loveya::loveya::loveya::pals::pals::pals::hug::hug::hug:YOU ARE HERE:hug::hug::hug::pals::pals::pals::loveya::loveya::loveya:
                             :loveya::pals::pals::pals::pals::hug::hug::hug::hug::pals::pals::pals::pals::loveya:
                                                  :loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya::loveya:
:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

:hug::loveya::pals:

[MissHoneychurch]

14. Aww thank you R_A

that helps a lot

:hug:

[Random_Australian]

29. A happy Lounge needs happy Loungers!

What a wonderful, heartfelt compliment!

       :loveya::loveya:       :loveya::loveya:
:loveya:              :loveya:              :loveya:
  :loveya:                              :loveya:
       :loveya:                     :loveya:
             :loveya:          :loveya:
                  :loveya::loveya:
                     :loveya:

Hugs anytime!

[Floogeldy]

10. What "account information?"

That sounds scary to me.

[MissHoneychurch]

11. My account number

and number and name of the bank. Oh and my name again in case he forgot THAT as well.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

12. My dear MissHoneychurch.....

I am so sorry that you went through all that....

Here's to much better days without that jerk in your life!

:hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

15. Thank you

I am sure more than glad I got rid of him.

[Robeson]

18. MissHoneychurch, my friend, .....

...please don't waste your time with creeps like that. You know, as well as I do, you'll never see that money, and it will only raise your blood pressure thinking about it. The guy is history. Consider him a lesson learned, and bury him with the past...:hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

19. I know

but I would feel bad also if I wouldn't confront him when I have the bad luck of seeing him. As he isn't even man enough to come to me.

[Robeson]

20. I know. He'll never come to you, because he owes you money....

...which he has no intention of paying. Consider yourself better off without him...:thumbsup:

[MissHoneychurch]

22. Oh I am better off without him for sure

the minute I kicked him out of my life I never felt better. I felt like myself again.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

26. I'm sorry.

:hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

27. Thanks

the relationship is over since 4 years. Fortunately.

:hug:

[AirmensMom]

30. Aw, I'm sorry MissHC.

:hug: You're well rid of him. :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

35. Thanks Miss Airmens

I could hit myself for starting a relationship in the first place with this idiot. I must have been out of my mind.

[AirmensMom]

36. Sometimes we are out of our minds.

:shrug: That's life. Just be glad you're out of it. That might be worth the money he owes you.

[MissHoneychurch]

37. The amount hurts big times

but still, he also hurt me mentally by always making me bad so that he could feel as man. And he was jealous of pictures :wtf: All in all he is a fucked-up insecure person that needs to make other feel low so that he feels good. May he rod in hell.

[AirmensMom]

38. You should let him see you with M.

:rofl: Be all happy when he sees you and make him go NUTS. Accidentally, of course ... you surely wouldn't want to seek him out while you're having a hot date with your honey!

[MissHoneychurch]

39. I don't think he cares

all he cares about is not seeing me and me reminding him that he still owes me so much money.

Actually when I was together with A. (my last ex, an asshole was well - other story) we walked into this idiot. A. even talked to him. But that didn't helped either. I couldn't stay calm back then either.

[AirmensMom]

40. Well, then, maybe it's best to just avoid him.

I know the money hurts ... but imagine if you were still with him! :scared: He's obviously not going to pay it back. :(

[MissHoneychurch]

41. No he won't

I am sure whenever I will see him again (I hope that never happens again) and I will ask him for the money I will get the same bullshit excuses.

[AirmensMom]

42. You're right about that.

I'm sorry he's such a jerk. :hug:

I have to get myself going. I hope you have a good day and I hope to see you in the morning. :loveya: :hug: :hi:

[MissHoneychurch]

43. See you tomorrow

:hi: :loveya:

[ikojo]

32. It it's a lot of money take him to small claim's

court, get a judgment, when he doesn't pay they will garnish his wages.

[MissHoneychurch]

34. Not possible

I don't have proof that I only lend it to him. Big mistake on my side. I was so stupid to trust this guy.

[rug]

44. Next time you see him with a woman

ask him when he's paying you back for the STD tests.

[swimboy]

45. The next time you see him with a date

don't ask about the money. You tell him that swimboy just got his test results back from the free clinic and said he needs to get in touch with him right away!!! :evilgrin:



I don't know how it works over there, but I would never, ever, ever give someone my account information. Over here, people use that to clean out the account and then more money is gone.

I'm sorry. I wish you would run into your money from time to time and never see him again, but I am afraid it is the other way around.