Interesting post I'd read on a different forum...

[Deja Q]

From a forum discussing TV shows...

Who cares about whether the sexual mores of the time led to a deep-seated fear or not?

We don't know whether Toby had ever loved or not, but I'm forced to wonder whether he simply had never been able to take that love to its fullest, most intimate conclusion. Sex is, contrary to what most people today seem to think about it being just for gratification, one of the few activities in which two minds and two bodies can become one, for however brief a period of time. It's not just the physical pleasure that's important - it's the joining of body and soul. To die without experiencing that kind of connection . . . I can see how that would scare some people.

Put simply, dying as a virgin just plain sucks.


Do you expect to truly die a virgin, as postulated in the aforementioned post?

[Deja Q]

1. Kick!

:kick:

[BlueStorm]

2. I am too damn scared to get into any kind of relationship

All the drama man!! all the drama!!!

Blue

[TK421]

3. I've said this before and I'll say it again...sex is overrated

There is no floating on air sensation, no "enlightenment", none of that bullshit that humans wished they were capable of achieving...it's called an orgasm, and some people REALLY NEED to get the hell over it.

I've heard people talk about it like it's this life-altering experience....well, :spray: it isn't. The joining of body and soul? Oh give me a break :eyes:

[Deja Q]

4. Only those who get it claim it's overrated. Lemme guess:

You're really not celibate? :evilgrin:

[TK421]

5. No, my first time certainly did not live up to my expectations...

after listening to other people talk about it like it was something I just HAD to do....afterwards I was like "Was that IT"?

Maybe it's just me

[AmyDeLune]

7. Nope, not just you

I wasn't particularly impressed with my one and only partner and have been celibate for about 11 years now. I figured if I can't have at least good sex, much less great sex, I'd rather just stick to a decent fantasy life. ;)

[WindRavenX]

6. damn man

I'm sorry you feel that way.

Sex is not ovverrated--with the right people.

[TK421]

8. I've heard this argument before...but why would it matter who you are

with? I mean, isn't the almighty act itself just spectacular?:eyes: It shouldn't matter who you're doing it with, should it? That would make it all about emotion and thats it. I can show plenty of emotion myself, if I wanted to...and nobody else needs to be in the room with me

[WindRavenX]

9. it does matter who you're with. A lot.

I've had several monogomous relationships, and for me, the connection with the person improved the sex. A person's experience and willingness to listen, try new things, and be comfortable with his/herself (and boy, this is in my experience the #1 factor in having a great sex life)and their partner makes ALL the difference in the world.
I've also had several one night stands and "friends with benefits"-- they did nothing for me because I didn't like the person as I do with someone I love or have feelings for.
Many people can just have sex and have GREAT sex-- I'm not one of those people. I need a human connection to take the sex to the next level.

jm2c.

[LouisianaLiberal]

10. I think you're trying too hard to define it.

It can be a sublime experience if you are on the same wavelength as your partner, i.e. no other communication is necessary. You can't be "cerebral" about sex.

[TK421]

11. Can you read the other persons thoughts, too? Now that would really

be something....