Mad as hell, ready to scream..depressed...cheer me up kids

[mduffy31]

I just got a letter today from a lawyer representing my wife. Now we have been separated for 2 1/2 months now, and she has had them send me a letter informing me that I have 30 days to secure new financing for our car, or she is going to take it. Now it is in her name yes, but I made the down payment and every subsequent payment. Now that isn't the part that is bothering me, what is bothering me is that she doesn't return any phone calls or emails. I have been trying to secure new financing, but I can't because she won't call me back. I am very ready to put a hand thru the wall or collapse in a ball and cry, not sure yet.

[reyd reid reed]

1. Count to ten

Take a deep breath and compose two letters. One to your wife, screaming and ranting and telling her off (don't send it). Then, once it's out of your system, compose a rational, sane, professional letter telling the attorney that you have already begun the process.

Oh...wait...do you have a lawyer? If you do, you should probably go through him/her.

[MissB]

2. Here.

http://www.dudehisattva.com/wizard_of_oil.htm

Other than that, I do hope you have a good lawyer. :( :hug:

[mduffy31]

3. I don't want to get a divorce

I really don't. I love her very much and I don't want to divorce. But there is nothing I can do about it. I thought that we were making some inroads the last time we talked, but then this comes out from nowhere.

[WobbliesUnite]

6. Get rid!

[GoddessOfGuinness]

26. Oh my god; that is hilarious!!!

Thanks for the link! :rofl:

[MissB]

27. I've hesitated to post a new thread with that link.

I figure it is probably old news. But if you want to do so, feel free. :D

[GoddessOfGuinness]

28. I leave the honor to you...

I just emailed it to my friends!

[WobbliesUnite]

4. #1--Give her the car (or whatever) and get her OUT of your life

Forever.

#2--Do NOT get married again, EVER. The odds are stacked against you.

#3--Find a nice gal who has her own money and doesn't want to get married.

#4--Live happily ever after.

In case you miss one of the steps or fail to follow them completely go back to step 1 and repeat

[hfojvt]

5. I think you should bury the hatchet

make her some chocolate chip cookies
only use ex-lax instead of chocolate chip
I read about that trick on the internets.

[LaraMN]

7. Umm....they have more squeaky cheese curds at Whole Foods.

:shrug:

Sorry. Best I can do. :hug:

[mduffy31]

11. Thank you doll

They aren't the cajun ones are they, can't handle those.

[LaraMN]

16. I got cheddar and mozzarella.

They were completely devoured in about 24 hours. My daughter will even eat the cajun ones.

[mduffy31]

25. I went there today

And they are all gone!!! Unless they have been moved from the cheese section, all that were left was the cajun ones.

[LaraMN]

29. I went there today, too! I had to run to UMD, so I stopped off.

:rofl:

I KNOW! They were gone already! I had to get some cajun ones to console my four year old, whom I'd promised some to. She told me they were "delightful." :P

[wizdum]

8. Who is in possession of the vehicle? Her or you???

If she has it, you will have to sue her to prevent her from gaining what is in effect community property. If you have the car, you will still have to sue, but you can garage the car somewhere out of her reach until the matter is resolved. I would prayer alot if I were you if you still love her and want to get back together. My ex husband flew to New York and took my car from outside my father's apartment, whom I was visiting, then called us and woke us up at the crack of dawn to tell me he wanted a divorce. It was a nightmare. People suck sometimes.

[mduffy31]

10. I have put the club on the car

so if she wants it she will have to cut off the steering wheel. I have the car in my possession.

[SeattleGirl]

9. Send her a letter via her attorney.

If you recall the dates you tried to reach her, note those. Don't be nasty. I am suggesting going through the attorney, though, because a) you might actually get through to her, and b) the attorney will be aware of what's going on.

[RebelOne]

13. Just call her attorney. That would be the best way.

[Skittles]

12. I have to ask

why did you marry this woman? Surely there were clues to her character before.

[rucky]

14. Give her the car.

it's a hunk of tin. not worth crying over.

[Mutley]

15. I don't know what sort of advice to give you but

:hug: I hope that helps.

[skygazer]

17. Contact her through a lawyer

If there is a reason you do need to contact her, do it through your lawyer. If you don't have a lawyer, get one. If you can't get one, respond to HER lawyer and explain that you're trying to do this but need contact with her (I assume for the paperwork).

If the car is in her name, you need to take care of this ASAP. You may feel she's being unreasonable but if I had a car in my name that I'd not made any payments on, my worry would be that the other party would stop making those payments, thereby screwing up my credit. You may have no intention of doing this but you're separated - it's not unheard of for people to do this. She's probably trying to cover her ass. As to why she won't respond, I don't know and won't speculate. Contact her through a lawyer.

And I'm not taking her side - just trying to make sense of things. There's no sense in either punching walls or collapsing (though I understand the desire to do either). The main thing is to take care of all the crap that needs to be taken care of. Which is always hard when you're working through emotional shit as well.

I wish you well. :hug:

[huskerlaw]

18. Have your attorney call her attorney

If you don't have one, get one. This is obviously going to get messy and you'll get screwed 10 ways to Sunday if you try to represent yourself.

[MissMillie]

19. you may need to have your lawyer contact her

or you could contact her lawyer.

[TallahasseeGrannie]

20. I'm betting her attorney

told her not to talk to you.

Talk to your lawyer. Sad but the only way to communicate once this stuff goes to court.

[redqueen]

21. Oh for goodness' sake...

I just don't understand why people act like that...

:hug:

Have you tried contacting her lawyer?

[LoZoccolo]

22. Send her certified mail.

Then you'd have a record that she is not taking it if she doesn't take it.

[LoZoccolo]

23. Actually, yeah, call your attorney first. n/t

[Debi]

24. If both of you have attorneys

and the marriage can't be saved there is no reason to be calling each other.

At this point it is nothing more than splitting up property and bills.

Go get yourself another car and give the car back to her. Make a note of how much you paid on the car in her name and give it to your attorney.

Then move on.

Don't mess with it any more.