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It's not enough that her cousin - Mayra, age 42 - is dying horribly of cancer, and very quickly. It's not enough that her daughter, 12 years old, lost her father two years ago. It's not enough that Mayra has suffered not only with the thought of leaving her daughter but of whom to leave her with.
But Mayra's sister, Carol, is a con artist (officially? doubt it), a thief who wants MONEY. She is extremely manipulative, for example: telling Mayra "you know I love that little girl like she was my own" -- BULLSHIT! She has stolen from her own children. Stolen from her mother. Has thousands upon thousands in debt.
Mayra has decided who's going to care for her daughter: another sister, Debbie. NOT Carol. Is that keeping Carol from pulling out all the stops? From showing up when Mayra's trying to work on her will, saying things like, "Now, Mayra, you KNOW we decided" fill in the manipulation blank. On and on and on.
Oh -- yeah. Carol's sister's dying. Fat fucking lot she cares. :mad:
Compound all of this: Mrs. V.'s deeply tender heart. Her fervent desire to be there to kick the living shit out of Carol. Her wishful desire to take the little girl in herself. Then add the fact that her mom calls every other day with updates of Carol's BS.
I love my mother-in-law but I wish she would stop calling Mrs. V. with updates. Not about Mayra but about the shit Carol tries daily. I don't want MIL to stop calling, or not to keep Mrs. V. updated. But god dammit...
It's bad enough that Mayra's dying. It's tearing Mrs. V. apart. It's affecting her daily -- it's affecting her health. But to hear about this satellite BS daily is making it so much worse.
And I don't know how to help her through it. I can't call her mom and say "stop it." I can't send her home to TN until the end, just so she can play family cop. She is the oldest and a lot of the cousins look to her for this role, I think. So it seems. Some of the cousins call her "Aunt" Mrs. V.
I don't want anyone down home to leave her alone. I love them deeply. But dammit... these update calls are hurting her.
Argh. Thanks for listening.
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