I was just reaaaaallly childish, but it felt good.

[ChoralScholar]

I've had all I can take of my neighbors... five days straight now... they've been over mid morning until midnight.

Background, if you don't remember:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=4921942&mesg_id=4921942

Not to mention, while I was studying, I sent my wife to the store to pick up a couple things. I'm sure I can handle my son and the neighbor's kids for a half-hour or so. Four hours later I finally call my wife, who says shes just 'out piddling around.' Needless to say, that pissed me off. She knew I had to study today, and did not care.

So, now she's finally home, both neighbors are here, monopolizing my laptop, and watching the dukes of hazzard at full volume while the kids run wild, and I snapped.

I went into my office, and pulled up the loudest, most obnoxious 80's rock on Rhapsody, and cranked it up full blast, knowing full well it would send the house into chaos, because they couldn't hear themselves think. I didn't care. I shut and locked my office door with AC/DC cranked.

A half-hour later, guess what? I turned it off, and the house was empty. Silent. Peace and quiet for the ChoralScholar. Finally I can study. I feel like I should say a prayer, or sing the Gloria Patri or something.

I know my wife got stuck in the middle of this, but she's the one who lets them come over. Let her go over to their house, which is apparently what she did.

Did I go overboard?


ON EDIT: Grammar and spelling.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

1. I don't know,

but it sounds like you and Mrs Choral Scholar need to have a talk...
:)

[ChoralScholar]

3. You are correct... All talks have failed, however.

All I hear is 'I know, I know..' and 'I'm sorry.... I'm sorry'

Nothing ever changes though. I don't understand why SHE doesn't want time to herself.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

22. Interesting...

I have the same difficulty with Mr GoG. He's also a musician, yet he'll write music and play with the TV blaring. There simply is no such thing as a distraction for him.

I'm the complete opposite. I find it difficult to read a book when there's a lot of activity around me; and in order to practice, I have to go upstairs and close the door...even then it's sometimes a challenge to stay focussed.

Different types of studiers....

[MissB]

2. You probably made your point.

There was likely another way to handle it, but never mind that.

Get to studying.

[ChoralScholar]

5. Thanks....

I know I could have handled it differently. Even someone as patient and even-tempered as me gets to be a jack-ass every once in a while.

[Katherine Brengle]

4. I probably would have done the same--

if they had all still been alive at this point, lol.

I agree that you need to talk to your wife though--she needs to fully understand the position you are in and how she fits into the situation.

[ChoralScholar]

6. Yeah...

she's a student too, but she doesn't work. I teach full time, so I HAVE to use Spring Break and weekends to stay ahead. I just can't do that much during the week.

When she's trying to study, I do my best to make sure she doesn't get distracted. I'm just asking for the same.

[kitkatrose]

7. I have two inconsiderate neighbors;

you did just fine. I do the same thing when I get pissed off at them since they seem to have no concept of 'thin walls.' :eyes: As was already mentioned, you should talk to your wife. Since you say you have and nothing changes, I'm in favor of an eye for an eye. Give her a (small) dose of what she gives to you, when she has to study. But before you do that I must disclaim that I am single and probably not the best to give you advice on your marriage. :)

[ChoralScholar]

8. No... I'm going to keep doing the right thing and let her study.

Being inconsiderate to her is not going to help matters. She's not who I'm after, it's the neighbors.

[kitkatrose]

13. That's probably best for relationship harmony.

But if she keeps letting the neighbors over, then at the very least, she aiding them in their crimes.

[ismnotwasm]

9. Well that's one way

Telling them would be best though. Sounds like your wife is a nice person, who wants to help people, but that doesn't work if you're giving up your own life.

[ChoralScholar]

11. I think, sometimes,

she'd rather make me mad than them, because I AM so patient.

Patient to a fault, almost.

[Bunny]

10. These people are at your house for TWELVE HOUR STRETCHES?????

Holy shit - put a stop to this crap now. Are you feeding them while they're doing this? Honest to god, they are beyond inappropriate. You and your wife need to have a real discussion about this, real fast.

[ChoralScholar]

12. They don't mooch, as such,

they always bring food, and offer to cook, and clean. It's just that they're OVER HERE!!!

and I know what it is. They can't afford cable, or Internet, and don't have a working computer. That's why they're over here. They need to moderate a bit, though.

[Bunny]

15. Yeah, it must seem like paradise to them. It's nice that your wife

is so kind to them, but they *are* out of line. Don't feel guilty about setting some boundaries.

[sbj405]

14. No. TELL THEM TO LEAVE.

Get control of the situation. "I'm sorry, I need to study, maybe we'll see you tomorrow" show them the door.

[ChoralScholar]

16. Good advice. Thanks.

[RoyGBiv]

17. Overboard? Nah ...

Overboard would be walking into the room where they are with a full trash can, flinging into the middle of the floor, and saying, "And here's you're parting gift. Get the fuck out!" which (ahem) I did once when I had neighbors who came over every day to visit my roommate, drank and ate everything in the house, most of which I was paying for at the time since the roomy was unemployed, then left my trashcan overflowing rather than bothering to change the bag.

People who don't take hints and have no concept of politeness need to be told, often forcefully, that they are intruders.

[ChoralScholar]

18. That made me laugh. Maybe I should try that! EOM

[CanuckAmok]

19. If it was me in your position, I wouldn't have gone with ACDC.

I can't stand ACDC, and it would have been just as torturous for me as for the neighbours.

For easy room-clearing, I recommend Motorhead, Swans, Non, Cradle of Filth, or John Zorn's Naked City. Deep Purple in Rock is also quite effective, but I lump Deep Purple with ACDC.

[ChoralScholar]

20. Maybe some Disturbed?

'liberate your mind, you motherfuckers, you're so narrow-minded, so narrow-minded!!!!'

Probably a little much.

I did do a search for songs entiled "Go Home", but I didn't recognize any of them.

[ChoralScholar]

21. Thank all of you for your support

I now need to write some annotated bibliography, or my whole childish exercise will be for naught.

Thanks again!!!!

[RevCheesehead]

23. Nah....

Jesus said to come as a little child. So you done good. :hi: