Are many married men hesitant to go to a masseuse?

[Nikia]

I gave my husband a gift certificate for a massage a couple Christmases ago. He never redeemed it. He said that it would be weird to get a massage by another woman.
One of our friends did a temporary construction job. Part of his pay was a massage gift certificate. He didn't redeem it either. He said that his wife would be upset if he got one. He has done other things to upset his wife though without her knowing about it at the time.
Are a lot of married men hesitent to get a professional massage. Do they think that it is a form of cheating. Are they afraid that the business is actually a front for prostitution and that the masseause might offer something more than a massage, which they are afraid might be hard to resist if the woman gets naked after relaxing him?
DU wives, would you be upset if your husband got a professional massage?
DU husbands, would you be hesitant to get a professional massage?

[ThomCat]

1. Any man, woman or child that hesitates to get a massage

should get over it, find a really good professional massage therapist and get on the damned table.

Ahhhhhhh..... :)

[rug]

2. If I must

[Lars39]

3. They're blaming the wife, but it's really their own reactions

they're afraid of. Either poor body image makes them feel insecure,or they're afraid they'll get aroused.

[mongo]

12. Afraid of getting aroused

gets my vote.

[Radio_Lady]

22. DING-DING-DING! Mongo, you're the winner!

My husband won't go and won't tell me why.

He also won't get a pedicure! (He does like manicures, however.)

Too bad for him!

I love massages and manicures and pedicures!

In peace,

Radio_Lady

[LostinVA]

33. Yup

[BigMcLargehuge]

4. I've never had a happy ending from a professional massage

I felt relaxed afterwords and all, but it didn't feel like it was worth the expense.

























:hide:

[realisticphish]

5. i just don't like massages

or back rubs, anything like that. :shrug:

[uppityperson]

6. You can keep your clothes on even.

Sounds like this guy already had issues. I massage lots of married men, professionally. Yes, I have massaged people with their clothes on as there are lots of types and ways of massage and the object is to relax muscles, not have to prove anything.

[AngryAmish]

7. There is nothing like a professional massage

It is worth every penny.

However I am cheap and don't spring for one too often. (My ex-gf was a massage therapist. We would trade favors.)

I would hurt my neck or back in the past and want a real massage. I wouldn't go for fear of getting busted by vice.

[seemunkee]

8. I'd go

My wife doesn't like strangers touching her so she wouldn't but would have no problems with me going.

[mtnsnake]

9. Tell your husband to go! Make sure she puts a heavy blanket on top of him

the first time for when she flips him over to work on his arms and legs. LOL!

Massages are great, especially if you can plan itlate on Friday after a hard week's work.

There's something else that I like getting just as much as a massage and that's reflexology to my feet. I think I might even like that better. If he won't do the massage, get him a session of reflexology with someone who specializes in that.

[mtowngman]

10. I go to a professional reputable salon every 6 or 8 weeks for a massage

I think it's great. My wife encourages me to go but says she won't let anyone touch her. Besides me of course.

[GalleryGod]

11. We get them low-cost from my wife's Wellness Plan at work.

$85.00 massage with only a $10.00 co-pay. I get one once-a-month


Of course, she's a Hospital Adminisrator...

[Divameow77]

13. I love that picture

please explain...

[GalleryGod]

15. Well,the picture is from a New Yorker photoshoot...the Wellness

Program...is part of a preventive medicine (very European) Clinic, whereby employees and spouses can get massages (5 different types) from Certified Massage Therapists at the Wellness Cottage.

I like the Reflexology Deep Tissue. Hurts a bit....but oh,the release.

[Vektor]

21. OMG. I love your picture!

My favorite show, and my favorite, fabulous, fashionista!

IMHO, she has the best figure EVER. Others might prefer a fleshier woman, but to me, she's AWESOME.

That picture is just all sorts of cool. May I steal?

[GalleryGod]

26. Yes you may!

Big & Carrie may be my favorite couple...


In real LIFE at Joe Allen

[Vektor]

28. I love 'em too.

At first he started out an asshole, but then he really came around. :-)

Explain that second picture!

[GalleryGod]

30. We went to see "Wicked" last year..and stopped at our favorite eatery

Joe Allen on West 46th...Chris and some of the Law & Order gang were celebrating a birthday...

[Vektor]

34. Oh, that's so cool! Was he nice?

I heard only one account that he was a lech, but that's one account, so it doesn't amount to much.

What did you think?

[GalleryGod]

36. Chris was terrific...he's a Yale Man, of course.

He does know the effect he has upon women,though...

I asked him what it was like" to roll aound in sheets with Sarah all those years"?

He said, with the patented, "Big" eyebrows- "Whatta you think"

[Oeditpus Rex]

14. It's apparently not just men

I once gave my ex a birthday gift certificate for a half-day at the spa — massage, manicure, pedicure, facial (oh, hush)...

She never redeemed it.

[Kat45]

16. They COULD get a message from a male message therapist.

But they'd probably think it was too gay! :crazy:

[Rabrrrrrr]

18. Your inside text is what I was going to say -

they'd probably think that was "too gay" to ask for a male.

[Science Of Myth]

38. I would rather have no massage at all

than a male masseusse

[Rabrrrrrr]

17. I go for massages.

I love 'em!

(though I'm not actually married, I am in a long-term relationship that's just like marriage, so far as I'm concerned, except without the fighting and ennui)

[Benfea]

19. A massage to me seems like such an intimate thing.

I'd rather have a short and bad massage from an S.O. than a long, thorough professional massage from a total stranger. *shrug*

[Vektor]

20. I think some are afraid THEY will get aroused.

And often, they do. It really cannot be helped sometimes. And, there IS a woman in my town who actually DOES perform "massage with release" - a coworker of mine found that out quite by surprise one day.

Massages ARE intimate. I, as a married woman, would not feel comfortable going to a male masseuse. I do have a female I go see (not the "release woman"!) but it took me a while to feel comfortable with it, and I always wear shorts under the drape. I have chronic back pain, so it really helps, but honestly, I still feel weird about it.

Most men I know who have gone to a female masseuse have admitted to getting aroused.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

23. I love massages!!

Always get them from masseuses, and I have never once been aroused (even from a few that were EXCEPTIONALLY attractive). Seriously, I don't understand why you would. You're not being touched sensually at all - you're getting giant knots pushed out of your back.

[Dora]

24. My husband and I share our masseuse.

She comes to our house. She's da bomb.

[alarcojon]

25. My wife and I go to the same masseusse

so it is not a problem for us. The masseusses we go to are professionals. I'm sure they are aware of the fact that many men experience an involuntary tumescence during massage, and they deal with it.

[NaturalHigh]

27. I don't really care for massages...

but if I did, it wouldn't bother me to go. My wife wouldn't care, and I wouldn't care if she went to a masseur.

[Beer Snob-50]

29. I have had a couple of massages

by one of my wife's co-workers who has her own massage business on the side. She does a fantastic job and would highly recommend it to anyone. BTW my wife has given this to me as Christmas and birthday presents.

[noonwitch]

31. Maybe they get a real massage mixed up with an Oriental Massage...

So they figure it's safer for them to just avoid the issue altogether.

[LostinVA]

32. Good grief -- get them to ask for a male masseuse

Oh wait, that would be "gay."

[cally]

35. My husband gets a massage frequently

Most the men in our office do, also. We give gift certificates for a massage for holiday presents. I think it's just a lack of familiarity and confusion about what it's like. It seems weird or sexual until you actually have one. I'm not bothered at all that he has massages. In no way am I as skilled as a professional masseuse when I give massages.

[Science Of Myth]

37. The ones that are fronts for prostitution

are likely to be pretty skittish about law enforcement everywhere these days so its pretty unrealistic to be expecting unsolicited "extras", especially if its your first visit

So I really doubt thats any man's hangup regarding massages

[Missy Vixen]

39. The only benefit to being in a car wreck: massage therapy

We were in a fairly serious car wreck 13 years ago. I went to a male massage therapist on recommendation from my PT doc. I never felt a moment's discomfort or worry with him.

DH and I see the same female massage therapist now. She's the greatest. She's a Democrat, so I spend most of my time on her table talking with her about politics!

Julie

[Nikia]

40. Thanks for the comments

And reserecting the thread. I'll tell these guys that they are missing out for no good reason.