What's the most heartbreaking thing you've ever said to someone?

[Redstone]

Mine was probably some years back at my 25th high school reunion, to a woman who was coming on strong (and I mean REAL strong) to me:

"25 years ago, I would have sold my soul for you, but you never knew that; you wouldn't even talk to me then. It's not 25 years ago anymore."

I was NOT being mean. Just had to put the cards on the table. But I still remember the look on her face, and having some regret for having said that.

Dunno why I just remembered that. Must be tired, as I have been lately.

Redstone

[BigMcLargehuge]

1. Sorry little man, no money for a Hotwheels car this week...

Said while grocery shopping in October to my son. He's 4.

[ChoralScholar]

4. how sad.... :(

hope he took it okay.

[BigMcLargehuge]

6. He took it about as well as a 4 YO can

But he became proactive, and started saving the coins he found, and collected for feeding the dogs at my inlaws house. Now he carries a wallet with about 10 quarters in it, just in case.

[Redstone]

9. Well, goddamn. Yours trumps mine.

Can I send you a couple bucks to get the kid a few Hot Wheels?

I'm serious.

Redstone

[BigMcLargehuge]

12. Our finances have improved since then

as Mrs. McLargehuge took some part time work. Thank you for the offer though.


:hug:

(we need a handshake smilie)

[Redstone]

16. I thought there was one. OK, a manly handshake to you, then.

But no hugs, shoulder-pats, or elbow-cradling, please. I'm from New England, and we Yankees don't do that stuff.

Redstone

[BigMcLargehuge]

17. Same here (it is a New England thing isn't it)

:)

[Redstone]

Sure is. And New England Yankees are the only white people

I've ever seen who don't look each other in the eye when talking. Lots of Indians (including that half of my family) have that habit, but not too many white folks.

Yankees have almost the equivalent of the Navajo reticence; in the Dinetah it's considered rude to go up and knock on someone's door; you're supposed to get out of your car and lean against it in the driveway until they notice you and come out.

Real New England Yankee men with business to transact will similarly ignore each other for a few minutes before commencing to talk. It's fascinating to watch.

Redstone

[Callalily]

55. Here ya go!

[Beausoir]

50. But...that little lad has YOU for a dad. He's rich!

You seem like a wonderful guy.

Your story made me tear-up. I have a couple little rugrats (10, 7, 4, 4, and 2) myself and I know what it's like when they want something so badly!

Your little man will come out WAY ahead just from having a loving father. Hugs.

[WilliamPitt]

2. "No, I won't marry you."

That was fun.

:nuke: :nuke: :nuke: :nuke: :nuke: :nuke:

[BigMcLargehuge]

5. I'm sorry my dear, but Will Pitt stole your car and crashed it into GD....

That one was tough.

[Redstone]

13. Fun doesn't count. Or does it? If it does, I have to confess to having

said that one too. After telling her that I wouldn't consider it unless she asked me formally.

She deserved it. As I'm sure yours did too.

Redstone

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

3. During A Fight, I said "The Smartest Thing To Ever Come Out Of Your Mouth

was my d**k!"


We never spoke again......

[BigMcLargehuge]

8. Jeebus!!!!!

That must've been a hell of a fight!

[Redstone]

24. I said HEARTBREAKING, not HILARIOUS!

That's goddamned funny. I know it shouldn't be, but it is.

Redstone

[JVS]

28. BURN!

[Scout1071]

7. I can't be around you anymore.

And years later, it's clear. I meant it.

[ccjlld]

10. Having to tell my Grandfather

that my Grandmother was gone everyday between her death and her funeral. She was 93, he was 91 and they had been married for 65 years. At the time he had no short term memory and having to watch him go through the grief everytime we told him was the most heartbreaking thing I've ever been through.

[qnr]

20. I can't even imagine how difficult that would be n/t

[ccjlld]

22. It was terrible.

It was two years ago and I still get emotional when I think about it. Sometimes I really am thankful that his memory isn't there because I think if he realized she was gone, we would have lost him shortly after she passed. He is on a downward spiral now due to swallowing problems and I don't think we will have him much longer. I comfort myself with the idea that he will be reunited with Grandma.

[bettyellen]

35. i had to explain the same thing to my Mom quite a few times too.

and it was pretty awful. then later, she started to believe my Dad had left her and moved in with someone else near the Botanical Garden. As silly and out of character as this was, my Mom believed it, and was not upset at all, so I just let it slide. She just wanted to make sure I still saw Dad and wasn't angry at him, because my Dad and I had always been close. At this point, he was dead for a good ten years, I didn't have the heart to tell her it was a delusion. My brother would always correct her, and I thought it was kinda cruel and pointless.

[Redstone]

25. I think you win the prize.

You've earned my respect, being able to do that.

Redstone

[Beausoir]

51. God yes. My god. How painful for you.

And I am quitting reading this thread.

I can't take the heartbreak.

[JVS]

38. That's rough. My Grandma also had no short term memory...

for the last 3 years of her life, and although she usually remembered from longterm memory that her husband was not around, sometimes she asked where he was or where her aunt was. Fortunately, when we answered her she didn't seem upset but rather said "oh yeah, that's right" or something like that. After her last stroke, when she asked about him I said "He's busy in Detroit, we can call him sometime" She would be satisfied and forget about it.

[Auntie Bush]

41. I went through that same thing with my Mom.

They were married for 70 years and she kept asking where he was. So sad! :cry:

[Rabrrrrrr]

11. I'm sorry, Mr. Delay, but I can no longer wear the Eton uniform any more

The look on his huge, brown, sad sexually deviant eyes was heartbreaking, and we ended up not filling his passion that night. In fact, I left when breakfast, and we ended up never seeing each other again.

[BigMcLargehuge]

14. Mr. Delay, You've huffed all the Pyrethrin, and the roaches are revolting!

AHHHHHH!!!!!!!! (crunch crunch crunch)

[xmas74]

15. "He hung up."

And then quickly changed it to "The weather must be bad there. I bet his phone died."
Nothing like telling a three year old that her father doesn't want to ever speak to her-even when she asked for him on the phone and he heard her voice.

[Redstone]

27. Yours beats mine as well. I had to do some of that same kind of "covering"

with my older son's mother when he was young, and it was NOT fun.

It does get easier as they get older, though; my son "disinvited" his mother from his high-school graduation. I was proud of him.

Redstone

[xmas74]

31. A friend's husband has been teaching her how to hit

a softball. He swears that on her eighteenth birthday he is going to give her a baseball bat, her father's address on a piece of paper and a ride to his house. Says he deserves to has his ass beat by his daughter who he never wanted because she was a girl.

[Redstone]

34. I concur. It's well deserved.

Wish I could be there to see such justice being meted out.

Redstone

[xmas74]

37. She's going to be a tall girl.

Pediatrician stated that she could be 6'. He'll still have five inches on her but she'll have Mommy's red hair and Mommy's temper to beat him down with.
I'll be waiting for her to come home and cry it off, like she does now(two years after the phone call).

[Redstone]

43. Revenge, they say, is a dish best eaten cold.

Two or four years is about enough to cool it down, so if it happens, it will be JUSTICE, not revenge, and you and your daughter should remember that.

Good for both of you.

Redstone

[XemaSab]

44. Eh, when I was born they said I would be 6'

And I'm still waiting for those last 5 inches! :grr:

[xmas74]

54. She's the tallest in her class

and comes from tall stock(her mother not included-I'm 5'2). She might not hit 6' but she will be tall. You can tell from her growth patterns.

[jmm]

57. I was suppose to be at least 5'10"

At 26 I'm still waiting for a growth spurt :eyes:.

[Blue-Jay]

18. Dude, we're out of beer, and I'm too drunk to go for more"

That's a good edit.

[LeftyMom]

19. "I started bleeding again this morning."

He started drinking real heavily after we lost the baby and the relationship was dead too. I realized that that morning when I was throwing my guts up and was more repulsed by the thought of him trying to comfort me than by the blood and vomit and death.

[Redstone]

30. So you had a double-edged heartbreak, didn't you?

Those are the really tough ones. I'm very glad that you're happier these days.

Redstone

[LeftyMom]

32. It was a long time ago.

I really don't even think about it much, it's like that whole mess happened to somebody else. The frightening thing is that it got even worse before the end. :(

These days life is good, though. :bounce:

[politicat]

21. Your daddy and I can't live together and he won't let me see you anymore.

Said to my (former) step-daughter after her father abused me and I had to leave.

I'd have done anything for that kid except stay where she could see me being a punching bag. That was the last thing she needed... and since I was just a step, I have no rights to her at all.

[Redstone]

49. politicat, I am genuinely sorry to hear that you had to go through that.

I cannot IMAGINE how hard that must have been on you.

Redstone

[politicat]

53. He did it to hurt me. He ended up hurting his daughter more.

Thanks for the sympathy. It's been a while so it hurts less.

[lizziegrace]

23. I'm sorry (my daughter's name)

I don't have any money to get you anything for Christmas this year. I'm so sorry.

[Redstone]

33. I came close to that once. But I found thirty bucks I had squirelled away,

which got him a few things. Not much, compared with the $1500.00 (of my money) that his mother spent on him that Christmas, but it was the best I could do. And it was good enough.

Redstone

[lizziegrace]

39. Thanks Redstone

Now I have to tell her that her cellphone will probably be disconnected because I can't pay the bill for our phones. I had always promised her that she could ALWAYS reach me no matter what and that phone was the way. Now we need to find another way I guess. She's had huge abandonment issues since her father and I divorced and prior to that, he was always late picking her up from daycare, preschool and school. She was terrified being the last one left in the room day after day...

[Redstone]

45. Send me a PM about this; I'm very weary tonight but may have some

advice for you tommorow or the next day, if you want it.

Redstone

[sakabatou]

26. "If I had the power to see souls, you'd wouldn't have one."

Short radio play I did once.

[Ptah]

29. Your mother and I can no longer live in the same house.

:cry:

[Redstone]

36. Many of us have had to say that. Doesn't make it any easier that it's

fairly common, does it?

Possibly the most common speech of heartbreak in American. And the worst of it is, that it's the KIDS who are having their hearts broken.

Damn sad, it is.

Redstone

[Ptah]

42. Don't forget,

we parents have profound heart break, also.

I am saddened to learn of the break in your family.

Hold the kids close.




:pals:

[Redstone]

48. My kids, fortunately have come through it very well,

Only one of them was involved in the divorce, and he has been living with Mrs R and me since he was five, so we've been able to shield him from his mother's madness.

The Little Guy only knows about divorce in the abstract, because Mrs R and I are pretty much going to be together forever. And I don't say that blithely; there was only one real danger to our marriage for a few years and that's been dealt with. We're kinda stuck with each other now, not that that's a bad thing at all.

Good luck to you and your difficult family issues. You know I hope the best for you.

Redstone

[Pithlet]

40. I still can't think about it without cringing.

This was so long ago,but I still think about this moment, and whenever anyone asks something like this it's the first thing I think of. Back in tenth grade, in art class, I made a very cruel remark to a classmate who had been mainstreamed into our class. I don't know what got into me. I'll never forget that look on his face, and I remember regretting it instantly after I said it.

[KitchenWitch]

46. Mine

I bumped into a few guys I went to high school with, one of whom was pretty nasty to me back then. When he asked me if I recognized him, I told him no.

[JVS]

47. When I was in pre-school there was another kid whose...

mother had died when he was a baby and his father had quickly remarried. He had not been informed that his step-mother was not his real mother. Somehow I had heard some grown-ups talking and relayed this information to him. I was 3 or 4 and I don't remember why I decided to tell him, perhaps out of malice, perhaps because 3 or 4 year olds can't keep secrets, or maybe because small kids have a very literal interpretation of truth and lies. Evidently the parents came clean when he asked about it at home and his Grandparents were pleased that the truth had come out. Maybe it is better to know as a small kid then to find out at 15 or 18

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

52. When I had to tell my sister on the phone that our mom had terminal cancer

We cried, cried and cried some more.

[Ellen Forradalom]

56. "(My (brother|father)) died this morning."

Somehow I always wind up being the one making the phone calls.

[Lilith Velkor]

58. "Oh, I didn't know you were straight."

I said that to a man who was hanging around, but pointedly not coming on to me. He never spoke to me again.

[Coventina]

59. I screamed "I hate you" at my mother

As she put my terminally ill cat in the trunk of the car on a 100+ degree day to dump him at the county pound.

Our relationship never recovered from that. I was 13 at the time.
I'm 37 now, and she's been dead for 2 years.