I need some action..

[purr]

NOT THAT KIND.. well.

The kind I'm talking about is I need to get out. I'm here 24/7 with the kids (not that I'm complaining) but I never get to go out to say the movies, dinner, or even shop. I'm really starting to become stir crazy here. Sure I DO go out, but its with 3 kids in tow. I would just like ONE night where I can go out and enjoy myself without worrying about what the kids are getting into.

On the other hand, if I do go out, I'd be calling every hour to see how they're doing. I'd be wondering if they're happy, if they miss me, if they're SAFE, etc.

Am I wrong?

[Thtwudbeme]

1. No, you aren't wrong, but isn't there a friend you trust to watch them?

The neighborhood teenagers used to watch us; my sister and I were just fine--and Mom got out of the house---

[purr]

2. The only girl around here is 13 and she's the only one that REALLY knows

my kids. Shes IMO too young to watch the kids by herself - mine are 4, 2, and 4 months. She cringes at poopy diapers :(

[oneighty]

5. Children are too young

for sitters.

Too soon they will be older and you might be free to get out and about but you will be wondering where the years went.

Old man 180 says.

180

[purr]

6. I know what you mean.. I look at my 4 yr old whos turning 5 next month

and cant believe I had him nearly 5 years ago. Thats why I never got a sitter for them - too young. I dont even work because I dont want to put them into daycare. I cried the day my 4 yr old went into preschool and didnt even say bye mom! :(

Once my 4 month old goes into kindergarden, I'm going to be going back to school to get my Pharmacy degree.

[oneighty]

8. You are a good Mommy

Your children will never forget.

180

[purr]

10. I hope so!

I always wonder if I'm raising them right, pointing them in the right direction, etc. Its always on my mind.

[Omphaloskepsis]

3. Ahhhh. so that is why..

my sister comes back a new woman after I watch her kids for a few hours. I usually watch them for about ten hours per week. They are 5 x 2 (twins) and a 11 year old. It's amazing what a few hours of alone time can do, even if it is buying groceries.

[purr]

4. Thats all I'd like... even if its to do my grocery shopping.

I love my kids to death.. I'd never just pawn them off, or leave them with someone I dont know/trust, or whatever. It just a little quality time by myself which I only get when they're in bed for the night.

[Callalily]

7. I there a college

close by? Many students volunteer their time. It's part of their community service work. Great to get one with a nursing, health care, child development, etc. major. Just my two cents worth. And no you're not wrong to want some time to yourself. And it's good for your kids too.

[purr]

9. See thats the thing.. I dont know if I could trust someone that I dont

know. My mom lives across the street, but she has my mentally handicapped brother and its hard for her to watch all 3 kids with my brother. My 4 year old is ok around my brother - he knows to watch and stay away (he tries to play with them and he doesnt know his strength), but my 2 year old doesnt understand to stay away. My 4 month old wouldnt have a chance.

I guess I'm so used to being here all the time with them that its a whole different world for me when I dont have them.

[Callalily]

12. I understand your reluctance,

but they come with impeccable references. Check it out anyway. Have a student over while you're home for a trial run. Something to think about anyway. Good luck!

[Dangerously Amused]

11. Find the time, and don't feel guilty.

A little routine alone time will allow you to recharge and refocus. You will then be an even better mommy for them. Not selfish, actually very thoughtful. A win-win situation.


Good luck.

[purr]

13. I'd be calling every hour tho. Its been a LOOONG 5 years since I've been

out. I used to work but I'd call all the time to see how they're doing. I was thinking of getting a 3rd shift job so I'm here during the day for them.

[Dangerously Amused]

14. A routine of "me" time may help

...to alleviate separation anxiety. Leave for say two hours on the same two weeknights. You'll get used to the idea that things are going to be okay the more often it happens that they are.

Do you have a cell phone? If not, some prepaid ones are very cheap or even free. Having one will allow you the freedom of knowing that whoever is watching them can call you the instant anything might go wrong.