would you fly halfway across country just to meet someone for coffee?

[wildhorses]

WTF??? There is more to the story but I was just curious...does he have more money than sense?

[Shine]

1. Depends. Is that someone YOU, by chance??

;)

In any case, it sounds wildly romantic and yes, a little bit nuts. Maybe he has other reasons for flying out....

What's the story?? Now my curiosity is piqued....

Do tell.

:hi:

[Radio_Lady]

3. I don't drink much coffee. The promise of intimacy would do it for me.

[GalleryGod]

65. What would Larry King say, R-L ???

He WAS,indeed, a "Hottie" back in the day !?:wow: :blush: :blush: :blush:

[Radio_Lady]

68. Well, here's a picture of Larry King on the last day at WIOD.

http://www.mugshots.com/Celebrity/Larry+King.htm

He had been arrested in Miami. I haven't seen him since 1971. Once, I tried to call him when he was on Westwood Radio. He didn't remember me.

I took over his show temporarily -- and several months later, I was offered a job in Boston and I accepted. I started on the air on WEEI AM Radio on May 15, 1972.

[wildhorses]

8. yes, it was ME and it happened last weekend...

I do not want to say too much in open forum. We had been on the phone for the past 6 weeks talking for hours at a time. This past week though has not been the same and I do not know what is going on in that MAN head of his??? weird huh....

[Shine]

9. Yeah, Hmmm...veddy interesting

online romance is the new thing in these modern times. My sis met her hubby that way. They've been married two years and have a kid now.

My advice, take it slow, but trust your instincts.

Good luck!
:pals:

[Scout1071]

2. If I weren't concerned with money? Absolutely.

Why not?

[Crazy Guggenheim]

Maybe not. I'd hook up a camera and have a "video conference" first..

[RevCheesehead]

4. In a heartbeat... for the right guy.

:loveya:

[Oeditpus Rex]

5. If I had the wherewithal to do it

you damned betcha. ;-)

[RevCheesehead]

64. Hold that thought...

*furiously consulting Travelocity fares*

This might take a while. Would you like some coffee? :donut:

[Cobalt Violet]

6. "just for coffee"???

I don't know. I might if I could.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

7. If the coffee were to last about a week, I sure as hell would!

And for the right guy, as well.......

:shrug:

[wildhorses]

10. of course I thought he is the right guy

but now he is acting weird...maybe I am just being hypersensitive...been divorced for 3 years now and this internet dating is different....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

11. Well then, I would proceed slowly......and cautiously.......

As the other posters have advised.

Talk to him, ask him what's going on.......

[wildhorses]

14. thanks for confirming my actions... we have been emailing

this past week...no time for the 3 hour phone conversations we had been having?!? Finally tonight I sent him an email telling him that if there was something wrong I wanted to know if I could make it right...he is NOT insanely wealthy maybe he regretting spending the money...if so then I do not mind to go dutch on some of the expenditures...but I am NOT a mindreader

[hickman1937]

12. If he's acting weird let it go.

Remember your worth. Let him come for you, or let it go. Maybe he was a chimera.

[wildhorses]

16. thank you for your kind words. Pease read post to Peg...

after this attempt...I had decided that I would let it go...lesson learned

[hickman1937]

25. Peg's in the house? Than just listen to her. n/t

[LeftyMom]

13. Farther than that for the night person

and I don't even drink coffee or have the money to spare.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

15. My dear LeftyMom!

Don't you mean the "right" person?

Interesting typo, though!

I used to be a proofreader for a local paper......no worries!

:hi:

[LeftyMom]

17. Paging Dr Freud

:blush: Yes, I meant the right person.

Come to think of it you know damned well what and who I meant! Stop giving me a hard time. :D

[CaliforniaPeggy]

18. Hey sweetie!

I know you love me! No worries, my dear.....

OK, OK, I'll shut up and go away.......:rofl:

[LeftyMom]

20. No need to do that.

:hug:

Did you see his thread here in the lounge earlier this evening? You should go find it, I promise it'll make you laugh.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

22. I know, I'm just kidding you......

I didn't see his thread...but I'll look for it!

I can always use a laugh!

:hug:

[wildhorses]

27. whose thread? I am confused...

[wildhorses]

21. you do not have to leave my thread...I am honored that you

hijacked it for a correction...one comment though...wouldn't the right man be left? just sayin'

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. I would think that the right man would indeed be left......

left-leaning, anyway!

[wildhorses]

26. exactly and this man is BTW

he has political ambitions and has run for mayor of his fair city 4 years ago...myself I am rather private and do not care for the limelight of politics...perhaps knowing this he has decided that I am not for him after all...then why not just come out and say it???

[hickman1937]

19. Never had the money to even consider this.

I'm sure trust fund babies do it all the time.

[wildhorses]

24. I do not think he is a trust fund baby.....eeewwww

but maybe he has not been completely honest with me...this was TOTALLY his idea and he made all the arrangements himself...so he really has no one to blame but himself...his action or lack thereof this past week has me confused and hurt...he finally mentioned being short of funds in an email he sent yesterday. I tried to call him as soon as I read it. No answer. So, I sent him an email saying that perhaps we could go dutch on some of the expenditures. I reiterated what a nice time I had and hoped that he did too. I said that I wanted to make things right. I am waiting a reply....

[hickman1937]

28. Wild, I wish the best for you in this.

Just remember be careful. This doesn't sound healthy.

[wildhorses]

29. thank you for your concern. I am safe now, he is halfway across

the continent. I don't think he is dangerous just a little rash maybe. Although it does sound a tad bi-polar...

[bertha katzenengel]

30. You know what? If I had the money -- at this moment, I would.

I swear to god I would. I need a friend more than I hate to fly.

[wildhorses]

34. oh dear...I think you need a hug

:hug: :pals: :hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

36. thank you, wild

:hug:

[wildhorses]

53. you are welcome and if you ever need an ear just PM me

I will be glad to listen and help in any way that I can :hug:

[hickman1937]

35. Bertha, are you OK?

You don't know me, I don't know you except from your post, which I enjoy, but was this a shout for something? Sorry if this is intrusive.

[bertha katzenengel]

39. No, hickman, but it's mostly

hormones, I think. Doesn't mean it's not misery - but it does mean it'll pass in a couple of days. Thank you. :hug:

[hickman1937]

42. Be well my friend.

You're not alone.:hug: Only a click and an ask away.

[ForrestGump]

31. I don't drink coffee. But I have before traveled exactly halfway across

this country for the promise of things potentially less tangible.

I'm a romantic...put in a lot of miles for what turned out to be disappointment or heartbreak, but I'd do it all over again if I had the chance.

[wildhorses]

33. it was a VERY romantic gesture and very much appreciated but

WTF!??! now he is there and I am here and I am confused...

[Robeson]

32. If I had that much money, I wouldn't be living in this country....

...I'd be drinking my morning coffee, reading a paper, while sitting in a cafe in Barcelona, or Paris, or Amsterdam, or Rome, or......

[wildhorses]

38. I like the way you think

could I sit with you?

[Robeson]

41. It's pretty obvious........

...Great minds think alike....;-)

[Redstone]

37. I've DRIVEN that far to do that.

Redstone

[wildhorses]

40. and may I hear the REST of the story?

how did it turn out? did you regret it?

[Redstone]

43. No matter how it turned out (and there's been more than

once), no, I did not regret it, or them as the case may be.

Things once done are things remembered, for better or for learning if they didn't turn out to be for better.

I learned from a few of them, if only to learn not to repeat them, but there are no regrets. No shoulda, no coulda, no woulda.

Redstone

[wildhorses]

44. so then...did you cool it afterwards....or am I just being

hypersensitive?

[Redstone]

45. Things worked out the way they did. Several for the parting,

one for the staying, all for the way it was meant to be.

Redstone

[wildhorses]

46. yes, I understand the philosophical end of all this and

perhaps I should just let it be...curious is all...

[Redstone]

48. Not a problem for you to ask; the truth is that I have had

any number of extraordinarily long-distance affairs, and all were damn good while they lasted, though most ended poorly. But the one single one, and the most risky of them all, ended up the best, that being the woman to whom I've been married for these fifteen years now, and still going strong.

I guess my message to you is that sometimes you have to put it all on one roll of the dice...I've done that, and had more or less success in the long run, but have never regretted taking the chance...life is an adventure, or should be.

Redstone

[wildhorses]

50. thanks for sharing and my life has been one adventure after

another...learning experiences every one...glad to hear that you finally found one worth settling down with...I kind of thought that was what this man was doing now that he finally got my attention he seems to have cooled...oh well...

[Redstone]

54. Hey, it's not just you; we've all had that happen.

And it's always frustrating and sometimes infuriating...they show some interest, you show some interest back, then they all of a sudden stop showing interest, and you don't know why...I've been there, m'dear, as have most others.

The only advice I can offer you is to try (I know it's not easy) to take it in stride. Disappointment is not a pleasant thing to deal with.

But it will get better. You can trust me on that. It will.

Redstone

[Wapsie B]

47. Yes if I felt she was the right woman I'd do it

and not think twice about it. There's something very romantic about taking that journey to see another in the hope that it will lead to a passionate relationship.

[wildhorses]

52. and therein lies the problem, it was all that I could have hoped

for....now WTF??? Perhaps I am just being oversensitive....

[Wapsie B]

55. Maybe he's got issues with passive-aggressiveness

It does sound strange. Maybe something came up on his end.

[wildhorses]

56. perhaps...it is the lack of communication that I find

curious and hurtful...oh well, life goes on

[Wapsie B]

57. Yes, this not talking to you at all

would make me wonder what's going on. And much more of it should come with a good explanation on his part if and when he does contact you again.

[wildhorses]

58. well, he communicated via email this week...

but I miss the long phone conversations...that is why I am confused. He is communicating just not as openly as before...

[Wapsie B]

60. Yes that would be confusing.

[cwydro]

49. sure why not??

but are sure you just had "coffee"??? But hey, I say you go girl...No regrets.

[wildhorses]

51. hey you!!!! good to see you

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
I will send you an email with details....and BTW don't give up on you know who

[Heidi]

59. Yep.

Most of my friends and family live halfway across the world, so yeah, I'd do it. :thumbsup:

[wildhorses]

61. thanks, Heidi you are the best

:hug:

[Heidi]

63. Right backatcha, gf.

:hug:

[In_The_Wind]

62. If I had the time and money ~ yes, I would.

But I've been known to drive 500 miles to have supper with a wonderful man who tells me that he loves me dearly.

[crispini]

66. You always wanna watch when the weird flag goes up.

I gather the scenario is this: He flies halfway across the country for coffee with you. Now he is acting weird, more remote.

Now-- assuming that coffee, and ONLY coffee, took place, I'm sad to say that my first thought is that he is a player, interested in getting sex from you, and since that did not occur, he's not interested in pursuing any further.

Call me a cynic, but I've read too many stories about people who used the internet as a way to find lovers in other cities, when they were already married or committed elsewhere, and were not honest about it.

[wildhorses]

70. you better believe I am watching this weird flag fly...

it is sure enough flapping in this cool breeze of reality

[Jed Dilligan]

67. Sounds like he has a lot of money and not much time.

Time counts for more, in the long run.

[wildhorses]

71. I too, value money over time and if the spending of the money is

what has removed his time then that is why I am feeling cheated.

[Jed Dilligan]

72. Not sure if I understand

do you really mean you value money over time?

I don't think so, if not, you should definitely suspect that his elaborate, expensive, non-time-consuming romantic gesture might be on some level a tradeoff for less constant attentiveness.

[supernova]

69. Maybe not for coffee, but I have done a weekend

I think it's fine that if you get along online or though emails and phone calls, that a visit appropriate.

THere's only so much you can tell about chemistry and body language through "cool" media. To hear the sound of their voice, their laughter, the way they look at you.

So yeah. I might not want them to spend the whole time with me, if they don't want to, just meet for lunch or something, but I can take the opportunity to visit the place too.

[xmas74]

73. I can't get off my ass to drive a half hour to meet someone

for coffee. My answer would probably be no.

[wildhorses]

74. ROFLMAO

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

[liontamer]

75. maybe

i'm a romantic and have a ton of frequent flier miles. i wouldn't do it for a stranger, but I would for someone i cared about.

[JackDragna]

76. Translation: Desperate loser.

If this person is after you, run away now. Don't walk.