I hurt

[VelmaD]

I've had a really bad day. I don't want to go into too many details but I made the mistake (again) of telling someone how I feel and I got my heart broken in the process. I feel like I've been hit by a truck and I guess I was just hoping for a little Lounge-love.

[elshiva]

1. Sorry, VelmaD

:loveya: :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear VelmaD!

You need some Lounge love? C'mere, baby....let me hug you!

:grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug:

Feel better soonest!

BTW, GOPisEvil delivered your hug! Thought you'd like to know.....

[VelmaD]

8. I'm glad he delivered that hug

He's a good boy. :) I may have to make him brownies. If I'm gonna be miserable and crave chocolate...I'm taking him down with me. :evilgrin:

[Lex]

3. I'm sorry VelmaD.

:hug:

I do think that sometimes it's better to get something out to someone even if it doesn't go as you planned.

[WindRavenX]

4. ahh damn

:hug:

It sucks. I know :(

[Wapsie B]

I'm sorry VelmaD.

It really sucks when the other person doesn't feel the same way you do. I've been there.

[HEyHEY]

5. See! That love shit is nothing but trouble

Now, you need to bottle all your hurt up and release it in vicious ways sporadically throughout the years. Cheap, meaningless sex and binge drinking is the way to go, and let no one tell you different.

[VelmaD]

9. Hookers and blow...

gonna be my new hobbies.

Thanks for the laugh. :)

[HEyHEY]

11. "hookers and blow" - Is that Burl Ives?

Or is that "Silver and gold"?

[VelmaD]

13. Oooooh....sounds like my new favorite...

holiday carol. Writing the lyrics may be my new project to take my mind off it all.

[LaraMN]

6. Ouch. One of those "hide in a closet, curled up in the fetal position"

kind of days, huh? Oh dear. :-( :pals:

[VelmaD]

12. Yup...with a pint of...

Ben and Jerry's Phish Food ice cream.

[LaraMN]

15. Oh! If you have cookie dough or health bar crunch,

I'll sit in there with you!:9

[VelmaD]

18. Sorry...I'm out of ice cream now, but...

I've got hot chocolate with lots of marshmallows.

[RetroLounge]

53. Ben and Jerry's Phish Food ice cream

Best comfort food I've found yet!

Sorry you are hurting. Hope it dissipates soon...

:hug:

RL

[VelmaD]

57. That stuff is like crack...

I'm completely addicted. I admit it. :)

[AtomicKitten]

7. well, there you go again.

Don't feel bad. If we don't put ourselves out there, we're no longer alive.

Just consider this person an epic twat and be glad that you had the good sense not to get involved with someone with such poor judgment.

[VelmaD]

10. It's not really that bad...

he's someone I'm really good friends with. We have lots of fun together. When we manage to be in the same zip code the sex is fantastic. And he loves me...just "not in that intense, passionate way". It's close enough to the real thing to really hurt that it isn't enough.

[AtomicKitten]

14. perhaps you may want to back it up a bit.

Sounds like this is the kind of situation where you keep hitting your head up against a wall (and not horizontal in the good way :).) Protect your heart. Do what's best for you.

Free advice from a veteran.

[VelmaD]

16. Always good advice...

now if I can just figure out what's best for me (besides lots of chocolate ice cream :-) ) I'll be good to go.

[AtomicKitten]

20. ice cream is yummy.

Treat yourself to something fabulous. A pedicure, pricey wine, an intoxicating bubble bath. Spoil yourself and remind yourself nobody does it better.

Best of luck.

[NMMNG]

17. I'm sorry VelmaD

Would a hug help any? :grouphug:

[VelmaD]

19. Hugs ALWAYS help

Thanks. :hug:

[lady raven]

21. I'm so sorry, Velma

I've been there too and it makes you want to bottle up your feelings forever, doesn't it? The good news is that there is always someone better (and better for you) out there, even though you probably could never imagine it now.

My two major heartbreaks in the past gave way to my meeting and marrying my soul mate. Hang in there.

[EFerrari]

22. This is how we get to Carnegie flaming Hall.

But, we do get there. And so does our ice cream. lol

:hug:

[chknltl]

23. Can I possibly hug THE Sith Lord?

Well I suppose... I have killed Emperor Palpatine enough times but that Vader fellow..... Dagobah and that ship above Tantive IV are the places he likes to hunt me at... he has been far too successful as of late too...grr..grr..grr...
Ok I suppose...just don't let anyone in the Rebel Alliance know that I did this: :hug:

BTW is it me or does the younger Senator Palpatine look a lot like Senator Lieberman??? ...Do you think he could be..a..???!!!??

chknltl: short of stature wide of vision and a Storm Trooper's worst nightmare with an X-Box Remote.

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

24. Here you go

[Evergreen Emerald]

26. Damn ChavezSpeaks!

You are awesome.

[supernova]

28. Agreed. That's gorgeous!

Great work CST, :thumbsup:

[VelmaD]

32. That is beautiful

Thank you :hug:

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

48. Here, Velma.

I was just trying to give you some love as you had asked for. I actually did draw this one.

[sundog]

33. best one so far man

i'm amazed :hi:

[RandomKoolzip]

37. Wow! I knew you were talented, but I had no idea you could time-travel!

Your pre-art school work for 60's psychedelic band Love really "fluffs" up the "pre-birth" section of your portfolio.

But like the others have said, "This is your best one yet." :evilgrin:

[StopTheMorans]

42. .

:spray:

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

44. I have a mixed reaction to this.

I don't know how to react.

[Beware the Beast Man]

45. A Triumph!

Even within the nutsack, you were an artistic genius!!!

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

47. I personally prefer this one

[Beware the Beast Man]

49. Didn't you work as an intern for Hipgnosis as a toddler?

I heard you came up with the concept for the "Animals" cover.

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

50. Nope - it was More

[ronnykmarshall]

54. Wow!

I din't know yous could paint?

[bertha katzenengel]

25. Velma...

i do so wish i could give you more than this

:hug:

[supernova]

27. I'm so sorry VelmaD

:hug: :hug: :hug:

If there's anything I can do, let me know.

[VelmaD]

35. I will definitely let you know...

if I need you to administer a shovel beating to the gentleman in question. :evilgrin:

And thanks. :hug:

[redqueen]

29. Awww Velma...

:pals:

[texas1928]

30. Oh sweetie, come here and let Tex make Darth feel better.

:hug:

[VelmaD]

36. Hey Tex...

What...no heavy breathing...I'm wounded. *fake pout* :hug:

[texas1928]

39. DARTH

(HEAVY BREATHING)

[VelmaD]

41. Much much better

:)

[texas1928]

46. Well I am glad that helped.

:)

[lildreamer316]

31. Actually Velma dear..

(again with the unsolicited advice) per AtomicKitten's comment above; backing it off a bit might actually give you the result you are looking for. If you are all that close then it is possible that he is taking this situation for granted....if it is not so available next time it may "wake him up" emotionally. That whole "milk for free" adage applies here ( I know you didn't want to get married but you know what I mean.) No games; tell him that you are backing off a bit to get your head straight--be honest--that IS the truth. However; keep the friendship open and level. I am willing to bet there is just as great a chance that he may change his mind than not.....But if he IS just doing this to get the milk for free; or because he has serious commitment issues; then it is best that you know now and begin to allow your heart to be open to someone who is ready for the love you so obviously are willing to share. Be proud of that; and don't close yourself off to possibilites too much;ok?
Sorry if this was too much. I hope you feel better. Feel free to tell me to stick it....

[VelmaD]

34. Thanks for the advice...

my plan at the moment is to try to hang on to being friends...but I'm not holding out any hope that he's going to change his mind. I can't live like that. I've spent a lot of my life waiting for people to make up their mind whether they wanted me or not...and I'm tired of hurting like that.

I will be ok. :)

[plcdude]

38. Hey girl

hang in there and you never know what this season and new year will bring into your life.

[VelmaD]

40. Hey you...

it's been a while. I hope things are well with you. I will be fine. :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

43. I am so sorry! *hugs and chocolate*

[WCGreen]

51. I hate to say this... But, it is better to have love and lost

than never loved at all...

All the heartache that goes with love is worth that feeling you get inside when you connect with a person so completely....

Even if it is just fleeting....

You know your alive....

[ElsewheresDaughter]

52. here's a wolfkiss for you, love

[VelmaD]

55. Awwwwwww...

so pretty. :)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

56. sorry honey!

:hug:

[In_The_Wind]

58. Oh VelmaD!

I'm sorry you're hurting.
Be kind to yourself, sweetie.
You've both lost something special.
Have some more chocolate until the pain subsides again. :loveya:

[VelmaD]

60. I'm living on chocolate at the moment...

Phish Food ice cream, hot cocoa, and dark chocolate Hershey's Kisses.

[Taverner]

59. Awwww hug

:hug:

[VelmaD]

61. Thanks...

I need 'em right now. :(

[Serial Mom]

62. So sorry you got your heart broken!

But you never feel the greatness unless you expose yourself to the pain.

:hug:

[VelmaD]

63. I know...and I try to believe that...

it's just that I'm in my mid-30s and all I've ever had is the pain part...I've never had someone be in love with me so the greatness for me is still entirely theoretical. But I keep hoping despite all evidence. :)

[Serial Mom]

64. Some day, somebody will give that love back to you!

I truly believe that!

I know that doesn't make the pain less right now, but you do have friends who do care in the meantime - rely on them to get you through!

[Aristus]

65. I'm always here for a little love, Vel.

I'm sorry you got hurt. That sucks so bad.

Here's a hug or two: :hug::hug:

Feel better soon, sweetie!

[VelmaD]

68. Thanks sweetie...

it's really good to hear from you. Missed ya. :hug:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

66. I know exactly how you feel VelmaD.

You did'nt make a mistake at all . Its just that we love in a world full of people who are afraid to show " feelings " and " emotions " . I am going through the same thing myself . You will find someone who feel the same thing and it will be worth it .

[Metta]

67. Something you can easily do.

I've done this before and I'm more peaceful aferwards. It actually takes longer to read than to do.

Sit comfortably. See yourself in the middle of a perfectly formed, comfortably large circle. Give yourself whatever time for it to come into view. As you gently concentrate on its perimeter and the space inside it, you'll relax and let go of what you've been holding. You can increase this and anything else you (want to) manifest by asking that it increase and by continuing your focus on it and normally breathing in and out. After you've done this for, say, a couple of passes, see the circle filling with gentle, golden flame, moving through you and all around you. If the image changes, just go with it. Relax and breathe that in and out for awhile. Any movement you get is a sign that you're processing what you're holding. Duration brings benefits as does frequency. A minute or so is all you need to do at any one time to get great benefits unless, of course, you want to do more. After awhile, you can do this anywhere.

You can diffuse conflict with others by bringing up your circle, spending a minute in it and gently holding it, see them with the same. When you put down your circle first, their reactions won't affect you nearly as much as if you don't. You can lessen conflict with family members by visualizing doing this exercise with them. For the biggest bang, go back to the grandparents on each side, or what you remember of them. See them in pairs facing each other in their own circles of gentle flames. Then, do this for each of your grandparents and each of your parents eventually getting down to whomever and you. This is the long way around but is the most thorough and one that will repay repeated efforts.

Since I don't know you, forgive me if you've already come to these insights. The person you had issues with today may not be the focus of the problem, nor may you. What happened today represents how you (two) manage conflict. The above exercise can help you find your way through this.

[roguevalley]

69. I am sorry, honey. HUGS!!!!!

[newyawker99]

70. ....

:hug: :loveya:

[VelmaD]

73. Wow...you just made me smile...

without having to say anything. :)

[newyawker99]

79. Then it worked.

I hope you feel better soon. :hug:

[SOteric]

71. Jinkies, Velma!

:loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug:

*sending virtual Pagliaccis and Gelato*

[VelmaD]

72. Mmm...gelato...

The gelato I had in Seattle was amazing...chocolate and creme caramel...*drooooooool*

Thanks for the hugs, sweetie. I feel like hell now but I will be fine. :hug:

Jinkies *snort*...thanks for the little giggle. :loveya:

[Briarius]

74. I hurt myself today, to see if I still feel...

sorry, first thing that popped into my head. hugs to you dude! :hug:

[VelmaD]

83. It's cool...

that actually got a giggle. :)

[scarlet_owl]

75. Here's a hug.

:hug:

[KitchenWitch]

76. Sorry to hear you are sad!

:hug:

I am sure you will feel better soon.

[Puglover]

77. Velma

I know it's not much but you made me (and some co workers) laugh very hard with your very astute observation about straight porn today....thanks for your sweet and very funny addition to my thread.




:grouphug:

[VelmaD]

81. I'm glad I made people laugh...

I like to make people laugh. :) :hug: And lord knows straight porn is funny.

[Puglover]

84. Well Velma

you didn't make one poor slub laugh in my thread...lol, but I LOVED it.

[VelmaD]

85. Yeah, I saw where that newbie...

kinda went off. I thought about letting go of some of my pent up rage on him...but decided it wasn't worth it...I decided to be a grownup this time and actually yell at the person I'm mad at instead of an innocent bystander. :)

[Puglover]

86. good choice dear...

he's made more posts since then.....

lord..

[VelmaD]

87. Did I miss anything particularly...

exciting while I was actually *gasp* doing my job this afternoon?

[Puglover]

88. I was doing my job too..

but it was very slow so I was doin the Lounge....

[VelmaD]

89. I saw where the newbie...

got tombstoned. Somehow I don't think it was a huge loss to DU. *snort*

[SeattleGirl]

78. I'm sorry VelmaD

I hope all the Lounge-love you've been getting is helping. Here's a little more.

:loveya: :hug: :loveya: :hug:

[VelmaD]

82. It is...

knowing that people care means a lot to me. :grouphug:

[BlueIris]

80. I'm sorry. That always sucks. We love you, though.

:-)

[Thtwudbeme]

90. THERE you are!!!

Dear, I don't know what kind of rat bastard you ran into...and I don't need details to know that he is beneath you.

Do what you need to heal...then realize what a special person you are and let Mr. Really Right Forever come meet you---it WILL happen.

I met my last Stupid Shit when I was 36.

Stephanie

[VelmaD]

93. It isn't that bad...

and he isn't a "rat bastard"...though I appreciate you having my back. He's just a guy who does love me...just not that way. I'm coping with the end of hope but I'll get over it. :hug:

[Thtwudbeme]

95. Oh, well....OK....So I pulled a Skittles! I was going to beat him up!

Kick his ass!

I STILL might!

Well...seriously...that just stinks....You will get over it; you are a gorgeous young lady with a personality to boot. You will be fine...but, it does suck, and I am so very sorry.

:grouphug:

[VelmaD]

96. Heeee...I think it's very sweet...

that you'd kick his ass for me. :) And there are worse people to emulate than Skittles. (I had to say that or she'd KICK MY ASS!!!!!)

[nytemare]

91. Warm thoughts headed your way!

:hug: :hi:

[Guava Jelly]

92. So sorry for you on that

Nothing hurts more then a broken heart.
I think maybe you should stop looking for love in others and start looking for it in yourself.
Then love will come naturally.

I was lonely for years until i quit looking..then viola there she was

[VelmaD]

94. I wasn't really looking...

when I found this guy. I'm pretty much never looking. People just kind of fall into my life when I'm not paying attention. :)