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It was very moving.
I was a little nervous - half the crowd was not "family" and the theatre serves alcohol so there was some twittering and giggling at the beginning that kind of put me on edge. I knew that there would be some racy scenes, and I was worried that they would not be done well or tastefully or perhaps too faithfully, but they were done just right in the context of the story. The second "scene" was not necessarily "sex" so much as this marvelous tenderness between two humans.
And once all that is out of the way, you have the whole rest of the film to see that "same sex" love isn't nearly just about sex, and sometimes you don't really get to choose who you fall in love with even when it's impossible.
Heath Ledger acted a part that any one of us who have rural relatives know was absolutely true and believable. I was blown away here, recognizing cousins and uncles, pieces of myself, and mannerisms of a time when displays of emotion other than anger were considered a sign of weakness in men, and seeing the power of those emotions here in much more subtle conveyances.
It was an exercise in humanity, in what it means to deal with what WE deal with even today. Nobody believes that cowboys or soldiers or firemen or emergency room doctors or judges or lawyers or CEO's or janitors can be gay and not be effeminate or weak or fit some other pre-conceived notion of anti-masculinity. It was a love story about two humans in love, at a time and a place in their lives that wouldn't let them live that life together, about bad timing and missed opportunities, how when enough of that happens it can be too late and all that's left is memories and regret and loneliness.
And you fall in love with them a little bit too - I found myself really really hoping that it would turn out differently, that it wouldn't turn out so damn real and believable, that there are always happy endings for people who are true to their hearts, because we know that's not always true.
It was a great movie, see it if you can.
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