|
I'm not sure what I need from you folks tonight, but this has become more apparent to me, so I need to do something with it. I've been getting really moody around the holidays for the past few years and I'm not sure what to do about it, because I just don't like it any more.
Christmas was always a big deal in my house growing up. The tree, lights, presents, the meal, family together, etc. it was so Norman Rockwell-ish it's frightening. And it was also the one time of year we acted like a loving family, even though mom and dad barely spoke to each other most of the time, or my brother tried to find any excuse to get out of the house, or whatever. When it was good, it was so damn good. And my dad, God how he loved this time of year. He would watch the Thanksgiving Day parade to see Santa Claus. It was so sweet! And dad had a good paying job then, so there were presents all over! If either my brother or I brought a girlfriend home on Christmas they had a pile too and were treated just like one of the family. Like I said, when we were good, we were so damn good.
Then dad lost his job. Then he and mom divorced, and I had to navigate who to spend time with. And it felt like mom opened up more after the divorce, but dad seemed to slowly shut down. And Christmas became more of a struggle, or a chore to deal with. Then, three years ago, my sainted father lost his brief fight with cancer and passed away. I can truly point to that moment as being the final blow to my Christmas spirit. Since then, I have rarely felt like decorating, or doing any family things that I had little enthusiasm for before then already. And we are pretty poor right now, so presents are almost non-existent. That may be something to do with it, but I just miss having some Christmas joy. I know dad would want me to keep up celebrating this time of year but I find myself at a loss to do so.
I don't know what I need from you all, like I said. Maybe just saying it out loud is enough, but I want to feel different around now. I know things can't go back to that time of old for so many important reasons. That's ok with me, but what's not ok is not knowing what to do with what I am feeling now. So please share your thoughts with me, or special traditions you have, or anything at all really. It may help. Thanks.
|