Warning, angry rant.

[Rainbowreflect]

I am so pissed at a "friend" of mine. I asked her early this week if she had plans tonight. She tells me no. So I ask for her help with a project. Suddenly she may need to go out of town. Then, no she can't afford to go out of town. Maybe she will help. Then, no she has "stuff" to get done. Oh wait maybe. Then, no got to clean my house. Aaaaarrrrrrgggggg. Why the hell can't she just be honest and say she does not want to help me. She has been pulling this crap too much lately. If she needs my help or wants to bitch about thing to me fine, if I need something forget it. I think this friendship may need to end, but we have been friend for over 25 years, so it's hard.
Thanks for letting me blow off steam.
Happy weekend to everyone.

[Fixated]

1. ...

Do what I do when my friends are annoying. Kill her.

[qandnotq]

2. maybe you should just talk to her

before thinking about ending a 25 year friendship. of course, maybe you have, but you don't say.

apologies in advance for the typical male problem-solving response when sympathetic ear is all you require. it's in my chromosomes.

[Skittles]

3. get a clue rainbow

she ain't no f***ing "FRIEND". Dump her sorry ass.

[TEXASYANKEE]

4. Keep her around.

She'll make you appreciate your real friends.

[rucky]

5. Maybe it's not about YOU...

Sounds like she's got some problems of her own she's dealing with...Maybe she could use your help. :nopity:

[Rainbowreflect]

7. She does have problems of her own and I have been

trying to help. But I feel most of her problems are of her own making and she does not want to look at that.
She is a major drama queen, which can be fun, but can also be exhausting.
I enjoy her company alot, but if she can't/won't be the center of attention she will usually opt out.

[Giverney]

6. what 'friend'

There are many people out there like that, that I've met in my life. IN fact, the older I get the more I meet. They want you to help them in many aspects of their lives, but if you need help from them, they dissapear.

In French there's a word 'copain' or 'copine' (male and female) which is something between an acquantiance and a friend, someone you dont really trust like you would a friend.

Unfortuantely there's no word in the US english language like that, one that descirbes people like this.

anyhow, to make a long story short, i'd just tell her. Sit her down, try not to be too aggrivated (or she'll just get mad also) and calmly point out that you seem to think you do more for her, but when you need help, she's not there.

if she argues badly, forget it.

Maybe she'll just apologize and stop doing it.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

8. I have a policy

I request my friends treat me the way they want to be treated. If they do what your friend does, I let them know that it doesn't work for me to not be honest. They can tell me no at any time but don't string me along and if they repeatedly do it, then I don't make plans with them. I leave it open for the future but I don't allow myself to be treated poorly, lied to or slimed. I let them know I consider that hurtful and ask them to consider how they would feel if I did it to them.

Communicate.