Calling all great, nice, and emotionally stable women - WHERE DO YOU HIDE?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

This guy is looking for you!



insert shamless copycat thread comment here

But really, where the hell do y'all hide?!

On edit: Matcom has reminded me that "disease-free" is also a requirement for playing. Thanks!

[underpants]

1. Library theres goot women there.......

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

3. Yeah, but that whole "not a wealthy Prince" thing doesn't work in my favor

Got better ideas?

[underpants]

12. Honestly?

:hide: looks around


Volunteer in the next campaign. There are always tons of hotties at Dem campaigns....trust me-taking my wife to HQ was like taking sand to the beach.

Of course as DU might illustrate that doesn't mean that they will be sound rational or resonable. :eyes:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

27. I volunteered in the last one.

It rather sucked, actually. No one really talked socially and everyone was just given their little duties like mute miners. Then again, that might also be part of why that certain somebody lost...

[WCGreen]

30. Yes... you are right...

The Loosing part...

Hangout at the local college and say things like, I really think Tragically Hip is an Ironic name for the band, don't you think... Cause they are neither tragic, nor hop....

Take a long slow drag off a clove cigarette, let the smoke curl up and get in your eye so you have to wince, just a little, and turn and walk away, extracting your worn copy of On the Road from your back pockett and saunter away...

You'll get tons of chicks...

Or answer the ads in the back of your local alternative weekly... Stable women always take out ads in the back of local weeklies...

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

.....

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

I think I'll find more stable women in AA than I will using your method! :D

[WCGreen]

33. I had some of my wildest dates from AA women...

A long as you have coffee, cigarettes and donuts.... You're in like Flynn, man....

[RetroLounge]

64. Oh, how true...

:rofl:

RL

[matcom]

2. massage parlors

and Sizzler

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

5. Hmm... I should've added "disease-free" in my request...

[Syncronaut Seven]

70. Hahaha....

I've seen how you respond to challenges first hand.

Emotionally stable, that's rich! :rofl:

Here's a link, see if you recognize anyone you know

http://www.bullyonline.org/

Maybe a nice Catholic girl who knows her place? Don't know what to tell you bub. I find most women positively delightful.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

71. No, you've seen how I respond to assholes first hand.

You are probably the furthest thing from a challenge I've ever encountered! And see how easily you disappear when placed on "ignore"!

[Syncronaut Seven]

74. I rest my case.

:rofl: Closet misogynists, gotta love 'em

[MissMillie]

4. hello

:hi:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

8. Hello to you too!!

:hi: :-)

[LisaLynne]

6. I'm not hiding!

It's just that nobody's looking. :(

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

7. I'm looking.

Just not in Indiana. :-)

[LisaLynne]

11. Well, see -- that's my problem.

Red state. ;)

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

29. Well, heck, I don't care about red state so much as I do...

the 9 hour commute it would take to have coffee with you. :P

[Beer Snob-50]

9. hooters???

most are college educated, intelligent!

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

10. Maybe you didn't see my picture.

I'll hit the lottery before I score someone that could even be hired by Hooters. :-)

Not to mention, they're only nice to you because they want tips. :-)

[Beer Snob-50]

13. vash you are such the pessimist!!

hooters girls love you for who you are. sort of like strippers! they don't care about your money.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

28. .....

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

[LaraMN]

14. "Emotionally stable?" Geez!

You're just too damn picky!

http://www.ibiza-voice.com/news/photo/[e-mail]

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

19. Sadly, I'm starting to think I am if that's a requirement.

:crazy:

[lizziegrace]

15. Emotionally stable

is relative. We're all a little quirky, especially as we get older. We're out here. We can be found volunteering at concerts, shelters, soup kitchens, political events, campaigning for good candidates and in the grocery store at odd hours because we're so damn busy. We're teachers, cashiers, computer geeks and accountants. We're looking too.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

20. There's a difference between quirky and emotionally stable.

But for the hell of it, I'll define emotionally stable as being capable of living a happy life without some sort of severe psychological impediment.

[CBHagman]

77. Besides, we DUers see things in shades of gray.

At least I thought that was what Democrats did. :shrug:

[BiggJawn]

82. I think what Vash meant is...

He'd like somebody who's not still carrying a lot of anger around because of what some little boy did to them.

And they seem to delight in finding "nice guys" to take it out on.

Quirky is OK. When it starts to get into borderline sociopathy, well, that's a horse of a diferent colour, now, isn't it...

[Madrone]

16. Where I hide -

I go to work, and I go home. So - I'm probably hiding at home with a book, watching tv, messing with computer equipment, listening to music, etc -

More important is WHY I hide:

Because any unstable, needy, passive aggressive control freak within a 500 mile radius is sure to find me and fall MADLY in love.

:scared:

[GOPisEvil]

21. I think that's where a lot of good guys hide, too.

That's where I am most of the time.

[Dangerously Amused]

120. Holy crap! You AND the other good guys hide at Madrone's house?!?

Well no bloody frickin WONDER the rest of us ladies can never find you!!!

Hey Madrone! Quit hoarding the good guys, would'ya?

Geez!

[GOPisEvil]

134. LOL!!!!

Oooops! You can tell I'm not an English major, eh? :D

[Dangerously Amused]

140. I was just a little jealous for a second there, is all.

;)

[GOPisEvil]

141. Awww...

:hug:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

22. LOL

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

[Madrone]

92. Yeah - it's funny from where YOU'RE sitting!

;)

Not so funny from over here!

Dealing with this now, in fact. Asked out by a nice but quiet guy - we're very different but I liked a lot of things about him. Dated for awhile - then starts:

Why don't you want to come over tonight? ARE YOU SEEING SOMEONE ELSE?
I LOVE you!
FUCK you!
Come here!
Go away!



I mean, WTF? This guy says he wants to marry me and have my babies - but half the time he acts like he doesn't like me or want me around - but HE'S the one that makes all the phone calls and asks me to come over, etc. Then he's accusing me of sleeping with someone else, says he wants to be with me always - he's never loved anyone like he loves me, etc. Then I get "fuck you's" and attitude that are completely unwarranted by anything I have done - etc. Umm - alright. Yeah right, buddy. Marriage and babies? I can hardly contain my desire to jump right into that situation! :eyes:

Happens ALL THE TIME. Much safer staying holed up in the house w/ the dog and kitties! I finally stuck a toe in the water after years of a self-inflicted dry spell and SEE what happens?

:scared:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

93. It's not any safer, believe me.

You know what they say - nothing ventured, nothing gained. Dating's the same way. This is coming from a guy who gave a year and half's worth of love, complete patience, and support to a manic hypochondriac with years of therapy ahead of her (and that really is the nicest way it could possibly be said) only to have her cheat on me only a month removed from her deciding that she wanted to go shop for wedding dresses (and marriage was entirely her idea in the first place). Being that we were living together, I've had to share an apartment with her since July, when I learned of said infidelity (I finally leave that hell on December 15).

But not all the other women out there are going to be like her, so back out there I go. To quote Shawshank Redeption, "It's either get busy living, or get busy dying", and I'm taking option #1.

[Madrone]

96. Understood and agreed.

I genuinely LIKE being alone, however - so it's not so much an issue that I'm hiding (afraid to make the venture) as it is a complete lack of "need" for a relationship.

When you're totally content by yourself (and don't feel lonely) there's not much that pushes you to go out in search of a relationship. Know what I mean?

Whoa - sorry about your current situation. How horrible.

[Ladyhawk]

51. Where do you live, again?

Okay, it would have been funny if you were a guy. :shrug:

[supernova]

17. I'm right here, dammit!

:hi:

But I think I'm considerably older than you. :P

[GOPisEvil]

23. You've been hiding!

I haven't seen one of your posts in a long time! :hi:

[supernova]

34. Hey GOPisEvil!

:pals: Good to see you again!

I was out of town for the holiday. Went to Western NC with my sis to see a family who are old best friends of ours. Our mothers were best friends. My sis and their oldest were best friends.

Ate a lot, and shopped till I dropped. We went to a factory outlet that sells designer stuff for not quite thrift store prices. :-)

How was your holiday?

[GOPisEvil]

73. It was ok.

I had Thanksgiving dinner with some friends, since my folks were out of town.

Mmmmmm...factory outlets. There's one about 45 minutes from here. I can do serious damage there. :D

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

26. Hey, what's a few decades between lovers?

:-)

I'm 25, for what that's worth. But hey, it works for Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. :shrug:

[supernova]

38. You're sweet

:hug:

I'm sure there are girls who would love to go out with you. :D You seem like a great guy.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

41. Thanks darlin!

:hug:

I'm sure of it too. I'd just like to find the right one, ya know?

[Samurai_Writer]

18. Hey there Vash

Here's one... but I think you're a little young for me! You look like my son (he's 24).

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

24. I'm 25.

Good call on the age thing! I've never had someone come nearly that close! Usually I get 30-35.

[MissMillie]

35. wow... you're young

I hate to break the news to ya, but if you really want emotionally stable, you gotta look for an older woman! lol

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

39. I have been!

Unfortunately, most of them have the stigma that younger guys aren't mature enough, which most definitely does not apply to me.

[MissMillie]

40. The reason they think that is

that even men their own age don't seem mature enough! lol

[WCGreen]

49. Dude... Older women don't want you for your maturity....

Think of why older men want younger women... Wink Wink Wink...

Cause you look good in a tank top....

[Err]

25. I've been wondering the same thing too.

:shrug:

[Ladyhawk]

31. Define "emotionally stable."

:P

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

32. Definition

I'll define emotionally stable as being capable of living a happy life without some sort of severe psychological impediment. This includes not freaking out because someone is actually nice to you.

[Ladyhawk]

43. I see...hmmm, I'll get back to you on that one.

:P

[Shine]

36. I'm right here!! But sorry, dude. I'm married.

:)

Seriously Vash, I'd recommend finding some great non-profit organization in your community that resonates with your values and then volunteering with it. You can meet all sorts of very cool people that way.

Worked for me!

:hi:
Shine

PS. Don't worry, a cutie like you should have NO problem hookin' up.
:thumbsup: You've got youth on your side, buddy.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

44. Aww, you're sweet!

:hug:

You know, I've recently tried all of that stuff. I tried volunteering, church (Universalist Unitarian), political groups... and it still seems like the people my age are hiding. All I've come across are older (40+) folks, whom are nice enough and all, but not quite what I'm looking for at this point in my life. :-)

[Shine]

50. Don't give up. Keep putting your intention out there and TRUST

it will all unfold perfectly for you.

You are right where you need to be.

Blessings,
Shine

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

52. Haven't lost hope at all.

I'm doing the whole online dating thing and I've been out on a few dates. Nothing that really whets my appetite though. I'm more about finding the right girl than just dating, so I am being patient.

[Shine]

59. Glad to hear it, Vash.

I wish you well.

My sis met her hubby online, btw. They're coming up on their two year anniversary next month. The online thing is very popular these days.

Oh-so-21st century! :)

[Omphaloskepsis]

95. My method...

The only time I find what I am looking for is when I stop looking. This applies to the ladies and my house keys. I have never had much luck picking-up girls. When I give up is when they flock. Perhaps my desperation while looking is a turn-off, but, not giving a fuck is a turn on..

And if you want to look go to the library.

[tigereye]

117. wow no one your age at the UUs?

that's a surprise.

How about your local food co-op? there always seem to be lots of cool women that age at the one here.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

124. I was pretty shocked too.

Seriously, there might've only been a handful of people even under 40 there.

[tigereye]

132. ha ha ha

we 40- somethings now rule the world. Bwa ha ha ha ha. ;)

How about grad classes? The DMV? Now I'm just being silly. Good luck.

[Trigger Hippie]

37. In my apartment.

But I don't count, cause I'm outta my mind. ;)









:hide:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

46. Well, are you the warm and fuzzy kind of insane?

Or are you the homicidal maniac kind of insane? :-)

[Trigger Hippie]

61. Mostly fuzzy....

Especially when I don't shave my legs. :silly:

But really, I'm not evil or anything. :)

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

66. And you're from Massachusetts, so you can't be all that bad!

Saturday in Boston made me miss the place, much as I love DC. :cry:

[Trigger Hippie]

67. Yeah, I'm a transplant.

Originally from Louisiana. I wanted to move somewhere liberal. So far, so good. :)

[LeftyMom]

42. I'm hiding here,

but alas... I :loveya: another DUer.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

45. Oh, it's like THAT huh?

;-)

[LeftyMom]

48. Sorry

:hug:

[Lavender Brown]

47. in New York?

:7

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

53. City or state?

Because I don't wanna go into the city even if Helen of Troy was putting up billboards saying how much she wants my body. :D

[Lavender Brown]

62. ...

:evilfrown:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

65. aww, I'm only kidding.

:hug: I'm not a huge fan of NYC, but I don't hate it that much at all.

[JPZenger]

54. Find Out Where the Women's Mags Say to Meet Men

A wise man once said: Read last month's issues of popular women's magazines. Find out where they say women should go to meet men. Then go there.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

58. Best. Idea. EVER!

That man is fucking brilliant.

[BiggJawn]

84. Can't get away to the Riviera this year, though...

Oh, remember when they said to go to the LAUNDROMAT to meet people? :D
What a JOKE THAT was! :7

And look for the woman dining alone, reading a book?

I swear, somebody was really laughing all the way to the bank after writing those gems.

[tenshi816]

55. Is that you in the photo?

If so, you're a cutie.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

57. Yes it is me and thank you!

:-)

[newportdadde]

56. Us married guys snatched em all up in college.

Seriously though I have to admit if I was single I would have no idea were to meet someone like my wife. Book club maybe? Certainly not a bar.

My wife was a teacher for elementary school age kids, there seems to be some nice ladies there mid to late 20s often single, maybe go to PTA meetings and just don't mention the no kids in the school thing and look for rings lol.

Maybe church club :scared:? or maybe even online dating? :shrug:

Probably the best would be through some mutual friend. I met my wife through my best friend and suitemate in college she was his sister. So I fell ass backwards into meeting a great lady, I got lucky.

[Ellen Forradalom]

60. Great? Check.

Nice? Check.
Emotionally stable? You're outta luck here mister.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

63. Two out of three ain't bad.

How about disease free? :D

[Ellen Forradalom]

87. That I got going for me.

Unless you include the mental variety.

[kitkatrose]

68. I'm here, but I'm off the market as of October 2005.

Sorry. I don't even have many friends to recommend, cuz they all have problems or are taken.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

69. Well, some help you are.

:evilgrin:

[ScreamingMeemie]

72. Mostly in my husband's arms...

:hi: Good luck Vash! MissMillie is adorable and funny btw. :thumbsup:

[hfojvt]

75. better show 'em the money too

Although the tie may be a hint at that, and even more so if that is an iPod.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

76. It is an iPod indeed.

Though I can't say I'm rich. Give me a decade and I will be, but not so much right now.

[Mutley]

78. There is such a thing as emotionally stable?

Where can one find it?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

79. That's what I'm wanting to know!

[Mutley]

80. See, you're not helping.

:D

[XemaSab]

81. Wassup!

I dunno how much I meet your criteria, but I can't find a lad in this hick town either! :(

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

85. What part of CA are you in?

Not that I can help you locate anyone out there, but I'm curious. :-)

[XemaSab]

89. Redding

WAY up north... :P

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

90. Is that area the no-man's land that it seems like?

[XemaSab]

91. I'm not sure quite what you mean

There are people up here, but there's a lot of freepers and fundies.

The county's 70% red.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

94. I just don't imagine it to be very highly populated.

[GreenPartyVoter]

83. Sorry.. I am spoken for and maybe less stable than you would like, but

if ya wanna take a chance on finding a woman via the 'net.. I did scrounge up some liberal-friendly dating sites.

Lower righthand corner: http://www.geocities.com/greenpartyvoter/

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

86. Aww, you'd have been a hell of a catch!!

:hug:

Yeah, I'm trying a couple of dating sites, though not specifically liberal friendly.

[GreenPartyVoter]

88. *g* Thanks for the compliment. Good luck with those sites. If they don't

pan out or you keep getting hits from fundy freepers, try one of those I posted. (Note, I haven't tried them so can't really say how effective they are. My method of catching a mate is to be the really cute girl sitting just behind him in Sophomore English Lit. ;) (And that's high school, not college.))

[In_The_Wind]

97. I'm all of that & more. I'm not hiding. I'm near Woodstock, N.Y.

[u4ic]

98. Not hiding

but there doesn't appear to be a lot of single guys around my age...39...

You have to have a mental illness to fancy me, anyway. I have nothing against guys with mental illness, but they just seem to make a bee-line for me. :shrug:

The pics a couple of years old, my bangs are a bit shorter:



Good luck in your search!

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

99. Well, I have no mental illness and think you're beautiful.

Of course, I'm also 25 and live across the continent from you, so I don't know how much solace that is. :-)

[u4ic]

115. Thank you

:blush:

I don't think you'll have any problems meeting liberal women in the right arenas. Anything artsy is usually filled with left-leaning types...maybe community theatre? You don't have to act, there's plenty of help needed backstage.

You could also try the Unitarian or United church - no fundies in sight there, and a fascinating bunch of people. :hi:

[tjdee]

100. I was hiding so good I didn't even see this thread!

:silly:

I'm nice, and I'm great...but what does emotionally stable mean? That's subjective, I think.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

103. Here's my definition.

You are fully capable of living a happy, stable life without constantly trying to find problems. You can totally deal with a man treating you well without trying to figure out why they're being nice to you. Believe it or not, it's pretty hard to come by.

[KitchenWitch]

101. We hide anywhere away from where you are looking!

Just kidding!

:hi:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

104. ....

:cry::cry::cry::cry: Why are you hiding from me?! I'm so nice to you!!! :cry::cry::cry:

[KitchenWitch]

116. I was only teasing you honey!

:hug: :loveya: :blush:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

122. I know darlin.

:loveya: :hug: :-)

[RevCheesehead]

102. At church...

I'm the one up front, entertaining the masses. :)

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

106. Well, entertain them down here in DC damnit.

I bet we could have some great conversations about religion too! :-)

[tigereye]

118. hmm

when a relative lived in DC (for many years) he had a hard time meeting single women - I think many of them were more focused on their careers and not as interested in getting involved with someone.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

121. Ain't that the truth

[Misunderestimator]

105. Yeah, well, we're all gay...

and I'm sure I'll be flamed for that... but... :P

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

107. hehe, I guess that means I need a sex change.

Which leads to the obvious question: if I get a sex change and become a lesbian, do I still get my toaster? :shrug:

[Misunderestimator]

108. I do believe you would in that scenario!

:rofl: and welcome! :pals: :rofl:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

111. Thank you very much!

Can I get a 4-slice chrome toaster? I'll get larger breast implants if required to get that. :D

[Misunderestimator]

113. LOL

Or perhaps you would prefer this model a bit more retro:



And look at this beauty:



Or this one... quite bold and versatile:

[Deja Q]

109. Good news for you:

1. I am not a woman.
2. I am not emotionally stable.
3. I am nice.
4. What the frig, I'm still great.

You will find that the best things in life don't always fit the criteria.


But what would I know... :)

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

110. This is true, however...

Having just experienced severely emotionally unstable, I'd like to have someone that doesn't have regular panic attacks as a change of pace right about now. :-)

[salin]

112. I think I fit the requirements... but

I work all the time - getting a start-up off the ground. Point being that some who fit the criteria - found we were a tad too ambitious for the gents when we were younger... so starting working to the ambitions... and left with little time to build special relationships. Sad, eh?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

127. That's a lot of the problem.

I live in a professional city (DC) and I would like a professional woman. But they're too career driven at this point, which makes absolutely no sense to me. Hey, I'm career driven too, but I can multitask, ya know?

[Lydia Leftcoast]

114. I think you're too young for me

:shrug:

But there are plenty of terrific women hiding out at cultural events, volunteering for charities and political campaigns, hanging out in coffee shops, working out or swimming at the gym, anywhere but in sports bars.

[JohnnyCougar]

119. I can tell you where NOT to look!

Within a five mile radius of me!

:P

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

126. Ain't that the truth.

Too many artists in Chicago, and having vast experience in dealing with artists, most of them fail the "emotionally stable" part of it.

[JohnnyCougar]

138. LOL...maybe that's my problem!

I like artsy, creative girls.

Perhaps I should start dating a secretary.

[AirmensMom]

123. I'm here, Vash ...

I'm not hiding, but I'm married and old enough to be your mother. As a matter of fact, you're a year younger than my baby and the same age as one of my sons-in-law. Too bad. I hope you find the love of your life.

:hug:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

125. I'm sure I will soon enough.

But thank you! :-)

[AirmensMom]

128. It'll happen when you least expect it.

That's how it was with me and both of my daughters. :)

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

129. I hear that all the time.

But how do you actively *not* expect something that you want? :shrug:

I should also note I hear it mostly from women. And there's a reason for that - women aren't expected to ask out guys. If guys aren't looking, they aren't asking anyone out, and there's little chance someone's going to ask THEM out.

[AirmensMom]

130. Do the other things you like to do.

Someone with shared interests will show up and sparks will fly ... maybe not at first (we were good friends first), but at least you'll be doing something you like to do in the meantime. And, being content in what you're doing, you will attract the type of woman you are looking for.

I'll admit, I've been out of the dating scene for a long time (31 years), but that's what worked with my girls. Don't give up -- just don't try so hard. :)

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

131. I'm not trying SO hard really.

Just joined a few dating services. I've been on a bunch of first dates, but I just didn't really like any of them all that much. I'm waiting for a girl that hits me the right way before I date more seriously.

[AirmensMom]

133. Oh ... I don't have any experience with dating services.

I guess that's the modern thing. Back in the olden days, we just sort of hung out and took walks, stuff like that. My husband didn't hit me the right way when I met him -- I liked him, but I thought he wasn't my type. Obviously, I was wrong. He would have failed that first date miserably ... and I probably would have as well.

It seems like dates with girls you don't know would put you both into an artificial environment ... I could be wrong.

:shrug:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

135. Well, to be honest...

The "natural environment" doesn't seem to be sparking anything for anyone these days. No one I know my age has found anyone through natural means since college. Occasionally, someone will go on a date from work, but being that office romance doesn't work out, it doesn't. As I've said above with the whole volunteer groups/church type thing, people my age just don't seem to participate. Everyone's got their jobs, their friends, and don't have much time to do those types of things. At least not around here.

But the artificial environment really isn't all that bad. For one, you already know what someone's intentions are when you meet them. That eliminates all sorts of miscommunications and games immediately, so that much pressure is off.

[AirmensMom]

136. Wow ... you've done a lot of different things.

I wish you the best of luck. If my girls were still single, I might consider introducing you (yes, they're cute, nice, disease-free, the whole thing ... but married). :hug:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

137. Damn that whole marriage thing.

:-) Thank you very much for your kind words.

[gardenista]

139. I usually hide in plain sight.

You have to really want to see me in order to do so.