What is your biggest disappointment this holiday weekend?

[RevCheesehead]

I wish I would have had more personal time in my own home (rather than travelling), and I really wanted to get the Christmas tree up.

Oh, and institutional food sucks. Pressed turkey loaf. :puke:

[DainBramaged]

1. I didn't see my Daughter

and she didn't call either.:cry: She lives down the street, which makes it worse.

[Olney Blue]

8. I'm sorry to hear that.

:hug:

[RevCheesehead]

10. oh, that's cold.

How is she? Old enough to know better?
At any rate, I'm sorry.

[SofaKingLiberal]

2. Bush is still the President. n/t

[TimeChaser]

3. A cold sore

x(

[RevCheesehead]

12. I've never had a cold sore.

Are they painful? or just annoying?

[TimeChaser]

17. Both

and insanely contagious.

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

4. The Fact That 4 Day Weekends Feel Shorter Than 2 Day Weekends

WTF is up with that????

[RevCheesehead]

13. Well, one of those days is not your own.

And another day is for travelling (sometimes this is 2 days). And you need at least another day to rest.

I think we try to do too much.

[DanCa]

5. The flu plus the fight with my brother.

Is it wrong to ask someone who is sick not to show up at your house and spread germs? Actually the fight was also about his five and six year old running in and out of my room.

[RevCheesehead]

15. No, not wrong - that is the courteous thing to do.

There's another thread about that same subject in here:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=4359408&mesg_id=4359408

As to the kids:
they need to know a closed door means "NO." Surely, their parents have taught them that much, haven't they?

[DanCa]

21. No these kids have stolen money from me before.

My parents response is too ignore it but when your body is worn out by bad weather and your immune system is down its hard to let everything roll off your back.

[RevCheesehead]

26. I'd get a lock on that door, ASAP.

If people won't respect your boundaries, then at least respect your own, and protect what you have.

[DanCa]

31. would a mouse trap under my wallet teach em a lesson

By the way ties that bind is my second favorite boss song. :heart:
:hug:

[RevCheesehead]

34. they'd certainly think twice about trying it again!

I like the way you think. :evilgrin:

[devilgrrl]

6. My cat is terminally ill.

:-(

[RevCheesehead]

16. I am so sorry about that...

makes it hard to be happy, doesn't it? :hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

73. ...

:hug:

[ncrainbowgrrl]

77. so sorry to hear that, devilgrrl.

:hug:

[WCGreen]

7. Friends, relatives, scrumptious food... Mozart...

and a couple of special times with special freinds...

What more could a man ask for....

[RevCheesehead]

18. so, no disappointments?

That's OK - we need happy people, too. :)

[WCGreen]

25. Not one.... In fact.... One of the best Thanksgivings I ever had...

[RevCheesehead]

28. Good for you!

Start spreading that holiday joy, would ya? :7

[swag]

40. Wow. Good on ya, man.

Glad it was fab for you.

[WCGreen]

84. Yea it was good.....

[Wapsie B]

9. I can't really think of any offhand.

Normally holidays like this have built-in stress factors like traveling, crowded houses, family arguments of all kinds to name a few. But my holiday was aok by me.

[RevCheesehead]

20. That's always great to hear!

But surely, you'd like to whine just a little bit, don't you? :)

[Wapsie B]

53. I'm just not in a whiney mood.

Not now anyway. :)

I just feel good! :)

[Guy Fawkes]

11. Tomorrow

[lizziegrace]

14. My thoughts exactly... n/t

[Err]

23. I second that.

:(

[AirmensMom]

19. Not seeing my kids.

This was the first time we didn't see at least one of them for Thanksgiving. :cry:

[RevCheesehead]

22. Yeah, that's hard.

When that began to happen with my parents, they began to invite people from church to join them for dinner. And as my parents got older, people began inviting them.

Now that I'm back in my home state, I'm there when I can.

Hugs to you, airmom :hug:

[AirmensMom]

27. Thanks, Rev.

We had another couple over, but it wasn't the same.

Thanks for the hug. :hug:

[lizziegrace]

24. That must have been so hard.

:hug:

[AirmensMom]

29. Yep. I miss them.

The ones in the A/F moved to Idaho in January. The others live in TN. No one could afford to go anywhere this year. We're hoping to move to TN someday (soon, I hope).

:hug:

[LeftyMom]

30. My ex can't be trusted with my privacy

We *were* having an amicable breakup, but he decided to snoop and then sort of ambushed me with what he found out about my current relationship.

[RevCheesehead]

36. I hope you told him to MYOB.

If he's your ex, he has no claim on you.

[LeftyMom]

47. I most certainly did!

No matter what he dug up, at the end of the day he's got no prospects and my new boyfriend's fucking hot. :evilgrin:

[RevCheesehead]

48. and (from what I've seen),

he's crazy about you, too. That's wonderful!

[LeftyMom]

51. We're not hiding it well, are we?

:blush:

[RevCheesehead]

57. That's OK, LM...

I think that many here are getting some kind of vicarious thrill just by watching. ;)

I'm so glad you're happy. :hug:

[LeftyMom]

58. thanks, that means a lot to me.

:hug:

[fudge stripe cookays]

32. That I still REALLY hate my mom.

I wish I had never told her she could come up for a visit. It was a mistake.

reprehensor and i could have had such a relaxing weekend if not for that.

fsc

[RevCheesehead]

38. I'm sorry, FSC...

I had a good friend who had major mom issues, too. She told me that most people figured there was something wrong with her, because she simply no longer trusted her mom to do anything good. People just don't know how hateful some mothers can be to their own kids.

:hug: You're back among friends.

[fudge stripe cookays]

56. Thanks, Reverend.

I kept telling myself I could forgive her and try to forget my teenage years.

But now that I have a chronic illness, and the years that were supposed to be my best ones were WASTED on her and her bullshit, I find myself getting angrier and angrier.

And I get SOOOO sick of hearing the same stories OVER and OVER. She thinks she's so much smarter than everyone else, and keeps telling us the same shit, like she's such a historian, even though she knows she's told me before. I'm sick of hearing about the Plantaganets, and Billie Ruth and her stupid pills, and the same repetitive crap.

And then when I can't handle it anymore, and snap "We KNOW!" she gets all offended. "Well I didn't know!"

"Yes you DID! You only tell the same fucking story every time I see you! I'm 39 years old! That means I've heard the same damned story at least 39 times!"

reprehensor tried playing peacemaker for a long time, but even he was getting pissed off this weekend. Especially when her dog peed all over the floor. Twice.

If I tell her I don't want to do this anymore, and that I never want to see her ever again, she'll probably threaten to kill me again. I may be taking out a restraining order sometime in the near future. Who knows?

fsc

[supernova]

33. That it's over

I visited some very old family friends in Western NC and had the best. time. ever. :D

But now I'm home. *Sigh* Post holiday letdown.

[RevCheesehead]

39. Where in NC?

I served in the Western NC conference for several years. BEAUTIFUL country!!

[supernova]

43. Little town called Shelby

In the SW corner of the State, near Gardner Webb

[RevCheesehead]

45. Yeah, Shelby's great.

I have a good friend from seminary who grew up near there. She loved it.

[supernova]

49. I can't believe you've heard of it

:D LOL! Small world.

[RevCheesehead]

54. My mentor and good friend is a pastor in Shelby

At least, the last time I heard, he was. Wonderful man. He and his family are very happy there.

[Reverend_Smitty]

35. having to come back to school

I am so damn tired of school right now...I can't wait til Christmas and I can visit my mom

[RevCheesehead]

42. funny how that works...

once you're out of school, you spend time remembering all the good stuff, and forget the exhaustion of it all.

I've already told friends that if I ever get the yen to go back for a PhD, they should shoot me. But I still think about it from time to time.

Good luck with the rest of the semester. :hi:

[Reverend_Smitty]

52. thanks

yeah I just hit that end of the semester burn out...I have a bunch of things to do...including grad school applications...and not a lot of time to do it

[tjdee]

37. That Shah Rukh is STILL in NYC and I have not tried to see him ONCE.

What kind of fan am I anyway?!
:cry:

Also, that I *still* don't have a boyfriend. I've fixed the damn leak (for now), gotten the car fixed, made Thanksgiving dinner... and I *still* aren't gettin' any stinkin' kisses up in this piece. I miss it a little.

But then I remember that having a boyfriend would probably irritate me or devastate me, eventually. So that's alright.

But Shahrukh! He is SO adorable and so probably not close to me ever again! :cry:

[RevCheesehead]

46. well, at least you don't have to worry about the toilet seat.

(my nephew kept forgetting...)

There are probably potential BF's around that you haven't realized yet. Keep your eyes and heart open - I'm sure he'll show up! :hug:

[FuzzySlippers]

41. No leftovers.

:cry:

[RevCheesehead]

50. next year, bigger turkey.

or fewer guests. :9

[FuzzySlippers]

55. That wasn't the problem.

I had dinner with my mother at her nursing home, where they gave miniscule portions, which was OK, because the food pretty much sucked. But I love those turkey-stuffing-cranberry-mashed potatoes-gravy leftovers. I could eat that stuff twice a day for weeks.

[RevCheesehead]

59. I hear ya.

Mom & Dad live in a Senior residence apartment. The dinner this year was rather disappointing... and that's a shame, because there were several guests visiting their families.

Why don't you prepare some of that great stuff just for yourself? I'm thinking of making a cranberry jello salad (to die for), just so I can enjoy it myself.

If that's too much work, then post a "Send me your leftovers" thread here in the lounge. :)

[FuzzySlippers]

66. I thought of cooking a turkey breast and stuffing this weekend,

but the problem is, I'm bone-idle.

Having people Fed-Ex me their leftovers seems like a great solution though. Thanks for suggesting it!:bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

[LynzM]

44. Seeing how sad my husband was...

When his family did not call for Thanksgiving, or our daughter's birthday today, and he had to call them :cry: Sometimes seeing others hurting is worse, because I have no power to fix it, you know?

[RevCheesehead]

62. I think that often is the worst kind of pain...

watching those you love suffer by the actions/inactions of others. Give him a virtual hug from me: :hug:

[LynzM]

64. I agree, Rev

It's really hard to watch those you love hurt. Your hug was delivered! :) :hug:

[auntAgonist]

60. Thanksgiving is hard for me ..

My mother's birthday is November 26th and she's passed on. We have no family nearby so it's just me and my husband. We had a nice dinner and visited my MIL in the nursing home which is about an hour from here.

Back to work tomorrow.

aA

[RevCheesehead]

63. Holidays always remind us of those who are no longer here.

I'm sure she was with you in spirit.

:hug:

[XemaSab]

61. Getting burglarized

:(

[RevCheesehead]

65. how awful!

And how utterly cruel. I hope you had insurance coverage, and that the things taken can be replaced (and weren't of sentimental value).

[XemaSab]

67. All they got was my new laptop

which I didn't have anything personal on, so it was okay sentimentally, but totally frustrating financially. :(

[borlis]

68. I realized that I am getting roped into having Christmas Eve.....

AGAIN......for my hubby's family.....AGAIN!!! This will be 3 years in a row. My SIL is the only one ever willing to take turns with me on this event, and she is unable to host it this year because she is in med school and her current rotation doesn't end until the 23rd. I really do like to entertain, but it is also nice to go out some years and not have to worry about the expense, cleanup, etc. It is really starting to irritate me that they just expect me to have it. My other SIL who is single actually told me once to my face that I should just always have it because my house is the biggest!!! :mad:

[RevCheesehead]

69. Sounds like it's time to delegate duties.

"you bring the pie, sis brings the salads, etc.., and we all chip in to pay for the main entree."

Speak up now...before it's too late.

[borlis]

70. That's what my hubby said.

He actually said our house would be the "banquet hall" for all the scrooges. He told me to let all of them bring everything and we will keep all the leftovers!! One year I would like to be ballsy enough to not have it on purpose and see if they got together at all without us.

[RevCheesehead]

71. Considering the cost of fuel, that sounds like a fair deal.

OR -
Turn the heat off in the house when they arrive. When they ask why it's so cold, tell them "we had to choose between heat or feeding the whole family." It'll get rid of them faster, too.

[borlis]

75. That was a good one.

You made me laugh after a very angry day. Thanks. :hi:

[swag]

72. I was pretty disappointed that

Valet in a Spray did not vacuum the house.

Fucker.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

74. I have a couple of bad teeth...

...one on each side of my mouth. The dentist will look at them on Tuesday, which is my birthday, coincidentally. Makes feast enjoyment a challenge; but at least we had a good bottle of wine. ;-)

[ncrainbowgrrl]

78. Happy early birthday- it's my birthday too on Tuesday!

:hi:
:party:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

82. There are a bunch of us

with the same birthday, Ncrainbowgrrl...
I'm going to set up a party room for us on Tuesday, and we can all have brewskis (or your beverage of choice) here in the lounge.

Hope to see you there! :hi:

[KyndCulture]

76. Hate to be a downer but I'm pretty sure I had the worst holiday weekend

of anyone..

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=104&topic_id=5460442&mesg_id=5460442

[RevCheesehead]

79. Are you safe?

I sincerely hope that this situation is addressed, ASAP. Get yourself out of there - and don't be afraid to call local churches for help.

I am so very, very sorry. :hug:

[maveric]

80. That my girlfriend had to work and couldnt make TG dinner.

Although spending it with my sons was wonderful too.

[Mr. McD]

81. My wife had to work all four days

[Awsi Dooger]

83. Two of my family members decided to spend Thanksgiving

with friends instead of family. Even though they had committed to the family gathering earlier and waited until basically the last minute to announce the switch. We found out later the other plans had been in place for weeks but they were reluctant to admit it. It took them hours out of their way to visit the friends, much further than the family gathering. I'm taking it OK but my sister is livid and her comments were the most blunt and negative I've ever heard from her.