Calling all GREAT GUYS - Where do you hide?

[yvr girl]

I'm particularly interested in the 'hiding' places of men in their 30s and 40s.

Where should a woman like this

go to meet a great guy?

[ScreamingMeemie]

1. Well...one of them is hiding in my house right now.

;) Sadly, he's taken, but I found him through old memories. Seriously, we dated in high school and broke up....and ran into each other a few years later. Married 9 years and looking forward to 90. Think back to your school years. Anyone you might be interested in looking up again? Mine was merely fate...and a party. :hi:

[yvr girl]

3. The only guys I liked in high school are married

I'm more of a go forward kind of person anyway.

[ScreamingMeemie]

5. yvr...truly, the best decision I made in my life was going back. I'm not

sorry I did. I too, thought like you, but sometimes your "forward" can be found in your past. Thanks.

That said, MrG is the awesomest, most perfect, handsomest man on earth::

[yvr girl]

8. I know it worked out for you

I've only been to my hometown once since I left home and that was 13 years ago. My parents no longer live there, so there's no reason for me to go there.

[yvr girl]

75. I've always said you are married to a total hottie

I'm glad you're so happy. We should all be so lucky.

[ScreamingMeemie]

83. Funny thing is, for years I thought I would rot away, a single mom with

no one after my daughter grew up (she was two at the time). Everyday, I remind myself how lucky I am...even on those days that start out with me wanting to claw his eyes out.


Good luck yvr girl...I await the day you find your perfect (or as close as it can come) match, and I will toast your happiness. :hug:

[LaurenG]

134. Beautiful Picture!

I remember reading a post you wrote that said you made your dress. You are one talented lady. May you have many more wonderful years.:hi: :thumbsup:

[texas1928]

2. Well I am taken too.

Sorry.

[yvr girl]

4. Where did you hide before you were married?

[texas1928]

6. Work, school, bars.

Look at work and school. Bars are not the best place.

[yvr girl]

9. I had a bad experience being involved with someone at work

A little leary of that path now. I'm not in school. Oh, well...

[Deja Q]

7. You have an enchanting smile.

I'm surprised you have not found anybody yet.

[yvr girl]

13. Thanks

I can't flirt in person. I think I might come across as stand-offish.

[Deja Q]

33. Anytime! BTW:

I'm actually a sausage-snorkler (gay), so if you want somebody to practice with, just ask! O8)

[yvr girl]

34. I have no problem flirting online

It's only in person that I get shy. I'm sort of risk adverse.

[Orangepeel]

10. how about political functions?

you'll be more likely to find someone with a compatible world view than at, say, a bar, where the mix is random.

In my experience, there are always more single women than single men at such events, but I met my husband through politics.

[maveric]

11. San Diego CA. I just bought a new Mustang GT.

I'll show you the town.

[yvr girl]

14. I like San Diego

Sounds fun.


















So what time are you picking me up?

[maveric]

19. Figure what? 1000 miles? I'll be there in an hour.

We'll do lobster tacos in La Jolla.

[yvr girl]

24. My, aren't you the speedy one.

They have lobster tacos?

[maveric]

35. Yes they do!

And I'm only speedy when I drive. :rofl:

[yvr girl]

40. Sounds yummy

And speed is not always a good thing.

[CanuckAmok]

98. Pssssst... It's pronounced "La Hoya", just so you know.

Just trying to help

[yvr girl]

100. No help required

I'm familiar with the name.

[CanuckAmok]

102. Kind of like "Ahoy!"

Like you might say on a boat.

[Jack_Dawson]

28. How bout dem Chargers, Maveric?

Still at Windansea?

[RetroLounge]

12. Well, if I ever become available, I'll let you know...

RL

[yvr girl]

16. That won't happen

You are hopelessly in love with your wife.

[RetroLounge]

37. Yeah, well, stranger things have happenned...

RL

[yvr girl]

41. I'll add you to my list of Great Married Guys

who should be monitored in case they become single list.

[RetroLounge]

48. Sounds good.

:hi:

RL

[RevCheesehead]

18. Hey!!!

:evilfrown: what about me?

[RetroLounge]

38. You just want me for my body...

:rofl:

RL

[RevCheesehead]

46. * sniff *

you're rejecting me... :cry:

You'll never know how happy I could have made you. :cry:

[RetroLounge]

49. I never said I was rejecting you.

I was just being clear on the ground rules :D

RL

[RevCheesehead]

50. oh, OK... that's different.

But I also want some of that poet in you. :loveya:

[RetroLounge]

55. Nah, the last time I tried that poetry shit

someone fell in love and all hell broke loose around here.

I'm getting tired of being the sensitive nice guy. I swear I am gonna turn into an asshole, if I ever figure out how to do it.

RL

[yvr girl]

60. Hey you two

No flirting in my thread, unless I'm included.

[RevCheesehead]

78. nothing personal...

we flirt in every thread! :loveya:

:yoiks:

[yvr girl]

79. lol

carry on then

[RevCheesehead]

73. I think you've got a good start, if that's any assurance.

BTW, I have to start hating you this week:
a fine tradition

[RetroLounge]

143. Well, I can never hate you...

even when I get to watch the Pukers lose to the Bears...

RL

[RevCheesehead]

145. You do realize, don't you...

that that song was written when da Bears were at the top of the division? When Ditka and Butkis were kicking our asses all the time... hence, the word "still."

I thought you'd like to know that. :loveya:

[Amaya]

15. They aren't here!

i'm kidding... well, sorta. :D
:hide:

[yvr girl]

17. I'm sure there are some great guys on DU

Many of them are married though. :cry:

[Wetzelbill]

96. :: ahem ::

I don't really need to say anything else. :)

[Maestro]

20. Very cute!

I'm not sure you'd be interested but I am taken. Depending on the day you speak to my wife I might not be that good of a catch. But anyhow, back in the day I hung out with friends and met girls through them. I never was into the dating scene. I met my wife through another friend who had actually asked her out on a date with a bunch of others including me. He didn't hit it off with her and I didn't hit it off with my date but we clicked.

[yvr girl]

21. You're cute yourself

(Well, not cute exactly, but handsome.)

I'm sure your wife thinks you're a good catch.

It just gets harder to meet people when you're in your late 30s. Most of the people I know are married with kids.

[Maestro]

22. I'm 37.

If the worst happened, I am not sure what I'd do. I'd probably start dating some of the young new teachers in my school district. Oh I am bad!

[yvr girl]

25. I'm 38

See, you all want the young things. I don't think I look that old, but I'm not 24.

[Maestro]

43. Oh no, I didn't mean that, really.

In fact, my immediate boss is 51 and she is very good looking!

[Wetzelbill]

97. you're 38?

You look fantastic. I would've guessed much younger. :)

[yvr girl]

99. That picture is almost exactly 3 years old

I'll be 39 in a couple of months.

Thanks! :loveya:

[Wetzelbill]

103. Just stating the obvious

:)

[flvegan]

23. My house.

But I'm not hiding.

I'm 34, so I guess I fit in.

[yvr girl]

26. I'm never going to find men if they're at home

(even if they're not hiding) I'm not about to canvass the neighbourhood.

[Jack_Dawson]

27. Right here in San Diego...

What's up, QT?

:hi:

[yvr girl]

29. San Diego is looking promising

But don't you have a girlfriend?

[Jack_Dawson]

30. Not at the moment...

She's maaaaaaaaaaad at me. Over nothing I might add. But then again, that's redundant.

[yvr girl]

31. But alas, I could never be the girl you slept with when you and the GF

'were on a break'

[WCGreen]

32. Get out and mingle with peole...

Join some clubs... Volunteer at a Charity.... Go to lectures at the Library and such...

Or, you can always contact Harmony and get a creepy christian guy who probably looks like you, have you noticed on those commercials how much the couples look like each other...

Anyway, I meet people all the time... Just be yourself....

[yvr girl]

39. Working so much isn't helping my cause

I need to fashion some semblance of a personal life.

edit - because fingers and brain were not connected.

[WCGreen]

54. That happens to me all the time....

And usually, I don't catch it....

[hfojvt]

36. define "great"

Does bowling over 200 count?

Calvin: "I'm a genius, but I'm misunderstood."
Hobbes: "What's misunderstood about you?"
Calvin: "Nobody believes I'm a genius."

[yvr girl]

44. Not so sure about the bowling

Here's my list:

-smart
-funny
-compassionate
-responsible
-adventurous
-good at something

[hfojvt]

62. when you say "good" at something

are you speaking as a coin collector?

Am I good at bowling?
Am I a good trumpet player? A good piano player? A good writer? or researcher?
Compared to some, not so good compared to others.

Otherwise I might be 80th percentile in those factors, except on adventurous. There I am probably 30th percentile - maybe. But I did goto NY, Switzerland, and start my own business, so I might be underestimating.

[yvr girl]

64. I was unsure of what to put for that item, let me explain

I was tempted to put 'successful' but I don't want to suggest that I'm after a guy with money. Same thing with 'driven.'

I considered 'skilled' but I thought that would elicit a bunch of smart-alec comments.

It's my experience that many guys derive satisfaction from excelling at their career. Women want that too, but it's not as central to their overall well-being. I want a guy who has found his niche in life.

[hfojvt]

71. in that case

I'm out.
Unless being doormat to the world counts as my niche.
I would derive more satisfaction from excelling at my relationship. In the working class, a career is a curse, and in spite of my education, or perhaps because of it, I am unable to escape the working class. "If there is a lower class, I am in it ..."

[Oeditpus Rex]

42. I consider myself about average

But I give to-die-for foot massages. :7

[yvr girl]

45. I consider myself average too

And I LOVE massages of any sort.

[Oeditpus Rex]

51. I started at the bottom

and can work up. Or, if you like, the other way around. :7

(Oh, hush. I meant back and shoulders.)

And you don't seem anything so mundane as "average."

[yvr girl]

58. Or both!

Thanks for the kind words, but I am neither hideous or beautiful - I'm average.

[Oeditpus Rex]

61. Uh... that is *you* in that photo, no?

:shrug:

[yvr girl]

63. It's me

My hair is completely different, but I look about the same.

[Oeditpus Rex]

65. Then you're neither hideous

nor average. :7

[yvr girl]

67. I'm not EVEN average

:cry:


















Thanks, you're sweet.

[SOteric]

47. They hide at:

sporting events, classes in things like computing and photography, the back yard barbeques of your best married girlfriend (who just happened to invite her really handsome brother-in-law, or hubby's best bud from school).

Seriously, do what you love and open yourself up to a wide variety of people. Even the married and gay fellas have friends, brothers and coworkers who might be Mr. Right.

[yvr girl]

53. My friends are hopeless

It's a tight, very interconnected group of people. I've met their circles...but I guess there's always hope.

[MrScorpio]

52. Sorry, babe

I'm taken

[Ivan Sputnik]

56. Surprisingly, church

Not all churches are right-wing fundamentalist. I used to go to a left-leaning one and several couples met there and got married. Volunteer organizations might be another place.

[NewJeffCT]

59. I'm an atheist, and I'd agree on church, too

I'd never have done it in my single days... but, i remember back when I was in college, I'd always be one of the rare students up reasonably early on a Sunday morning and I'd see all kinds of attractive young people going into or coming out of the campus churches (and, this was a fairly large state university, not some small religious school)

[MarsThe Cat]

57. my wife and i met 17 years ago- thru a personal ad in the reader.

i placed it, she answered it.
and now we're best friends and married going on 15 years.

[ContraBass Black]

66. So far as I know, we don't hide at all.

We just seem to be invisible.

[yvr girl]

69. So maybe I need to learn me some magic

*checks out book on casting un-invisible spells*

[Canadian Socialist]

68. Pssst! yvr girl... c'mere

I have a single 47-year-old brother (teacher, 1 child) who lives in the Okanagan. Interested? <heeee>

[yvr girl]

70. Why are you laughing

Are you trying to punk me?

But at least the Okanagan is closer than San Diego.

[Canadian Socialist]

72. Punk you? Not at all....

I'm just notorious in my circle of friends and family for my matchmaking. Was actually making fun of myself.:hi:

[Guava Jelly]

74. Depends on your def. of great

Is great a fantasy
or is great a good man who would care for you unconditionally??
Because alot of good men alot of great guys.
Arent studly rich or dare i say cool!!

[yvr girl]

76. see post 44

Do you think my list is unreasonable?

[Guava Jelly]

80. alot of your list is in the eye of the beholder

"-smart
-funny
-compassionate
-responsible
-adventurous
-good at something"
I think i am smart.
people tell me i am funny
I believe i am compassionate.
responsable ..I pay my bills on time and never even got a ticket in my 39 years of life
I believe everyone is as good at something.

I think you are looking for Chemistry

from guys and dolls

KY. (spoken) No, no, no! You are talking about love! You can't dope it like that. What
are you picking, a guy or a horse?
SARAH (spoken) I wouldn't expect a gambler to understand.
SKY (spoken) Would you like to hear how a gambler feels about the big heart throb?
SARAH (spoken) No!
SKY (spoken) Well, I'll tell you.

Mine will come as a surprise to me.
Mine I lead to chance and chemistry.

SARAH (spoken) Chemistry?
SKY (spoken) Yeah, chemistry.

Suddenly I'll know when my love comes along
I'll know then and there
I'll know at the sight of her face
How I care, how I care, how I care
And I'll stop. And I'll stare.

And I'll know long before we can speak
I'll know in my heart.
I'll know and I won't ever ask
Am I right, am I wise, am I smart.
And I'll stop. And I'll stare.
At that face. In the throng.
Yes, I'll know when my love comes along
I'll know

[PittPoliSci]

77. try somewhere that sells video games.

you might surprise yourself with how many older guys are there.

[JVS]

81. I tend to divide most of my time between 4 places

1. My apartment
2. My office (and some classrooms)
3. A friend's apartment (my my apartment is to small to hang out in)
4. St. John's Lutheran Church

Any of those places would be a good place to bump into me. Sometimes I like to drink and/or bowl.

[yvr girl]

105. I guess church is an option

Unknown mens' apartments are sort of out.

[JVS]

124. But that's where the magic happens!

:-)

Although I must admit that if I started finding strage women waiting for me at my apartment, I'd be unsettled.

[yvr girl]

125. lol

I'd be more than 'unsettled'

[MissMillie]

82. Holy cow... look at the responses you got

I posted pretty much the same thing just before you did, and, well,....

[Wetzelbill]

88. psh... you totally shot me down.... never even replied

and I busted out the Karaoke and cooking line too.

Dammit! :)

Oh wait.... I just checked... you did respond. :)

So much for me being intelligent. :)

[MissMillie]

89. Actually, I did reply

:)

[Wetzelbill]

92. I know I checked

So...

How about those Bears? :)

[Dangerously Amused]

118. Hey, ah...

Speaking of "no reply" there, big guy...

I offered to make you a kept man on your "I need a good woman" thread a few days back, and what did I get... No Reply.

That's right...

NO REPLY.

=ahem=

[GOPisEvil]

142. Wow...now that is NOT good.

I'd fix your web belt anytime. :evilgrin:


Well...any time Mr. Scorpio wasn't around. ;)

[Dangerously Amused]

147. Hey there Handsome!

Where you been? I haven't seen you around in awhile. Busy with school and holiday stuff?

So hey, you wanna be my kept man? I mean Mr. Scorpio is hot and all, but I don't think his wife would be too keen on the idea. Little hottie yourself, on the other hand... well, I just can't believe you're still single...

[GOPisEvil]

148. Hi sexy! Yeah, I've been a bit busy.

But school's pretty much over for now.

Kept man huh? Well...I do need a job. :think:

[Wetzelbill]

155. I can only hang my head in shame

:(


I screwed up, badly...

[DanCa]

84. In the basement of my parents house like uncle fester.

Dang disability.

[Redstone]

85. We truly great ones hide behind our marriage licenses.

I'm truly sorry to have to break the truth to you like that, and promise that I'd never have done so if it didn't apply to me personally, if you catch my drift and I think you do, which ought to make you feel better about yourself, at least if you think anything good of me, if you know where I'm going with this and I'd be damned surprised if you didn't.

Being honest, and—hey, you know it'me, Redstone, so I'm not going to lie or pander to you, not matter how much I may like you—you just gotta keep looking for the right place to look.

You live in a fairly big city; surely there MUST be a guy (or seventeen) who would appreciate you for your sparlking presonality, party-hardiness, and (last but far from least) your flying ability.

And you ain't hardly rough of the eyes, either.

So have faith, m'dear; some day when you least expect it, you'll run into a younger (and less-injured) verson of your personal Redstone, and your life will be coplete.

I truly beleive this. You're too bright and pretty and smart and fun-loving of a woman to be by yourself much longer.,


Redstone

[yvr girl]

87. Most of you good ones got snatched up when I wasn't looking

I'm still not sure if I'm ready for the big "L" word. But I'm ready to venture forth.

Thanks for your kind words. Mrs. Redstone is a lucky woman.

[Oeditpus Rex]

91. You fly, too?

Man, I gotta figure a way to pass the Canadian citizenship test. :think:

[yvr girl]

101. I haven't in a long time

But yes, I am a qualified pilot.

[Oeditpus Rex]

106. Ah... *pilot*

Redstone said "flying ability," so I thought...







Never mind. :blush:

[Redstone]

94. And the converse is that most of the good WOMEN got snatched up

when I wasn't looking. (OK, truth in disclaimer, they were there before but I wasn't smart enough to recognize them. (So my fault, then)

But that's just men. Women are supposed to be less stupid. Be those, and be patient as well.

Soon, you'll find someone who will drop his current position like a hot rock in order to fly up to Vancouver just to be with you....

15 years before, it'd been me. These days? Somebody much youngeg. You'll know him when you see him

Think in terms of a Redstone without all the scars and bad attitude. You MUST have guys out there like that.

Redstone

[AngryAmish]

86. fullerton and western

[Dude_CalmDown]

90. In central NJ

But don't feel too left out because we always end up with the wrong girls that make us feel like shit. I'm just way too shy to get a good girl because (as I always find out when it's way too late) they're usually too shy to even give me a hint. Life can really suck sometimes.

[yvr girl]

109. At the very least

It presents challenges.

[Ouabache]

93. On their days off, during the day

used book stores.
having lunch by themselves in a cajun joint, or barbeque place.
the hardware store.
best buy looking at electonics, not necessarily buying.


Good Luck.

[yvr girl]

104. Not many cajun joints in this part of the world

How about sushi?

[CanuckAmok]

95. Victoria, I guess.

Why you ask?

[yvr girl]

107. Trying to break the code

I need to know the secret hiding spots of great guys.

[CanuckAmok]

108. I just told you!

Hello!!!

[yvr girl]

110. They can't ALL be in Victoria

There must be some on the mainland.

[CanuckAmok]

111. Sheesh, how many do you need?!

I'm great guy enough for ya, baby!

[yvr girl]

112. But there is a vast body of water between us

BTW, my hair is cut in a bob now, and it's dark.

[CanuckAmok]

113. I'd swim the Straight for a dark bob...

...but you knew that, didn't you?

[yvr girl]

114. I seem to recall your preference

Now I can invade you thoughts ;-)

[CanuckAmok]

115. you always do...

pics, please.

[yvr girl]

116. There aren't any

I just did it this week.







Oh, and as if.

[CanuckAmok]

117. yeah, what am I, nuts?

Next thing I'll expect you to call me in the middle of the night.

And that would be bats.

[yvr girl]

119. Completely bats

And I'm quite proper, so it would be out of the question.

[yurbud]

120. military base or LA

military is disproportionately male.

In LA, we have a weird demographic situation.

We have about the same mix of men and women as anywhere else, but in Hollywood in particular, it is more socially acceptable for old guys to go out with and marry much younger women. Consequently, women under 40 are at a premium.

For a woman over 40, the opposite is true. That's when producers kick the trophy wives to the curb and even shed stars and models, so your competition would be stiff.

Alaska is probably the best all around choice.

[yvr girl]

121. Military? I'm Canadian.

We have like 100 soldiers, and they have to share 35 guns.

I'm still under 40. Too cold in Alaska.

[yurbud]

127. pretend you are one of the guns

[yurbud]

122. RULE of THUMB: Men are in cities you want to move TO. Women stay

in cities you want to be FROM.

Don't know why, but every time I look at those lists with the ration of single men to women, the pattern is the same--more single men in power centers and places known for outdoor activities

[yvr girl]

123. Vancouver is a pretty cool city

I know they're here, I just need to find them.

[yurbud]

126. get interested in outdoor activities

[Starbucks Anarchist]

128. I hide in my apartment.

And I'm in my 20s. Oh, wait, you said "great guys." I thought you said "adequate."

[entanglement]

129. You mean guys like these?

They're usually found near caves :evilgrin:

[ET Awful]

130. Come back to Boston

:evilgrin:

[progmom]

131. after you stole her groove?

as if. ;)

[yvr girl]

133. Technically, I think he had a fling with my groove

She wasn't forced.

[progmom]

135. ah - ok

I'll stop being all protective then. :D

[ET Awful]

136. HEY, I didn't STEAL any groove. Her groove was hanging out on

the curb outside the bar, and I just offered it a ride home is all. It needed a place to stay, so I obliged.

I'm a kind person, I couldn't just let her groove be homeless. Hell, I even bought it a train ticket home, it's not my fault it decided to ride a party wagon across the southern half of the US before it headed home :).

[yvr girl]

132. I'd love to

someday...

[Burma Jones]

137. Behind my Wife

If you sing, join a community chorus. Join a Community Theatre. Yes, there are straight guys there.

[matcom]

138. Behind my computer watching you through the camera i planted in your

bathroom :D

:hide:

[yvr girl]

150. Why didn't you cook for me when you were here

ya bastid. x(

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

139. I'm 25, but I'm right here in DC.

:-)

[GOPisEvil]

140. We have a system of underground tunnels.

We great guys are rather sneaky sometimes. ;)

[gmoney]

141. The invitation to come to Ohio still stands. :)

The judgment regarding "great" I'll leave up to you... ;)

[LSK]

144. i hide at home, work, sisters or parents house mostly

But I do leave my AIM on most of the time incase someone wants to catch me at my hiding place. :hi:

[edbermac]

146. In the Beantown area...and get here quick!

Oooohh, you are CUTE! :loveya: ;)

[Bassic]

149. We hide in Canada

And marry canadian women just to tease you :P

Seriously, I'm sure you're bind to fing one sooner or later :)

[Richardo]

151. We all got married or turned gay...

Didn't we?

[yvr girl]

152. That's been my experience

*sigh*

[Horus45]

153. I'm surrounded by conservatives, in the middle of the desert!

;)

[Parrcrow]

154. There are loads of them right here

You already know them. And they like you alot!!!

[dpbrown]

156. From my wife

You'll find someone wonderful. I know people who met in the lounge!