Did your parents stay married? How long?

[willing dwarf]

Do you suppose people are more likely to stay together if their parents did? I hear that you're less likely to get divorced if your parents stayed married. What do you think?

[JVS]

1. Yes.

[flowomo]

2. yep... married in 1948 -- just had 57th anniversary. Married at 18.

[Canadian Socialist]

3. My mum and dad just celebrated their anniversary

53 years!:woohoo:

[Left_Winger]

4. My parents were married until death did them part

My marriage lasted two years and five days. Then the divorce began which lasted a year and a half.

Go figure. :shrug:

[ceile]

5. Nope.

Got divorced when I was 18 months after 15(?) years. Glad they did. My father's an ass. But I hope that theory is not true because I'm getting married in a year.

[youthere]

6. Yes...My parents were married for 26 years when

my dad passed away. Then my mother remarried and was married for 22 years when my stepdad died.

[ZombieNixon]

7. Married in 1979, which makes 26 years so far...

[willing dwarf]

67. Which means you're a youngster yourself!

[Horus45]

8. Yes

My parents stayed married until my father's death 10 years ago.
When he died they had been married for 40 years.
My wife left me 3 years ago because of my disability.
Not that it effected our nonexistent sex life anyway.
We were together for only 4 years.
I'm glad to be rid of the bitch!

[Err]

9. They were married in 1981...still married.

:)

[greatauntoftriplets]

10. My parents had been married nearly 59 years when my father died.

n/t

[Fenris]

11. Still married after 32 years.

[evlbstrd]

12. Mine divorced after 18 years.

My own ended at 20. I beat them.

[NNadir]

13. Until death did them part.

My father remarried after my mother's death and stayed married to my marvelous step mother until he died.

He had two very successful marriages.

[LeftyMom]

14. My parents divorced when I was four

However, I'm perfectly willing to take the blame for my own relationship fuck-ups.

[Wapsie B]

15. About 25 years too long.

We celebrated their 50th Anniversary last week. When one looks behind the facade I see two people staying together for appearances. My question would be how many people are there who stay together because of some religious guilt imposed by the church?

[redqueen]

40. I'd love to know the answer to that question as well. n/t

[yvr girl]

16. My parents have been married for 43 years

It is a second marriage for both of them though. I've never been married myself.

[Left Is Write]

17. My parents celebrated 46 years of marriage two months ago.

[LaurenG]

18. My parents were married in 1952

and they were married until my dad died last January. My mom says she is still married and always will be.

I think stable parents teach stability in marriages. However, I have been divorced so I don't know. :shrug:

[Horus45]

19. Sounds like my Mom

Even though it's been 10 years since his death she has no interest in finding another man.
One of her excuses is "At my age if I find a man, more than likely he won't be in good health and I'm NOT going to spend the rest of my life taking care of some old sick man!"

[LaurenG]

25. How funny, the sick old man part

she really loved your dad. My dads death has been really hard on my mom.

Welcome to DU.:hi: :thumbsup:

[Left Is Write]

24. Your mother sounds like both of my grandmothers.

Neither re-married after their husbands died. They still felt married to my grandfathers, and were both one-man women in every sense of the phrase.

[Debi]

20. Just celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary

I divorced husband #1 after 2 1/2 years -

Married to #2 for nine years and counting now, don't see an end in sight - *blissful sigh*

[Beaverhausen]

21. 52 years last June

and not one of their three kids has/had a good marriage!

[ScreamingMeemie]

22. Just shy of 40 years when my father left my mom in July.

:hi: I think that is horse hockey. I think people either stay together or there are insurmountable problems that tear them apart. Some marry when things are good...and can't handle it when they go bad. A recent study came out saying that those who marry in their mid twenties are more likely to stay together. I think it's a matter of good matching, hard work and other things.

I've been with MrG for 13 years, known him for 24 and married for 9. :hi:

[China_cat]

23. My parents were never married.

He raped her. But my mother and stepfather were together for 15 years until she died.

My grandparents, who raised me, were married 4 months short of 65 years when my grandmother died. I've been married almost 32 years.

This time. :blush:

[GOPisEvil]

26. Still married after 43 years.

:D

[Lydia Leftcoast]

27. Yes, 39 years, until my father died

It was not a particularly happy marriage, though.

[SeattleGirl]

28. Parents were married for 22 years at the time my dad died.

Mom told me later she probably would have divorced him eventually if he had not passed away. She didn't wish him dead or anything; they just had a very miserable marriage in many ways, and I think that by the time he became ill, she had been thinking of divorce.

[bleedingheart]

29. 15 years ...until death do they part...

my mother was widowed for the second time when my dad died...and stated when anyone was interested in fixing her up again with someone else...

"I am not interesting in burying anymore of them"

[Midlodemocrat]

30. 45 years when my mom died. They were happy the whole time.

[Richardo]

31. Dad and Mom Richardo celebrated their 50th this year...

:toast: We all went to Vegas!

[graywarrior]

32. 30 years, til they killed one another a year apart.

[khashka]

33. Don't think it's that easy

My parents have been happily married for over 40 years - tnrough good times and bad times.

Sometimes very bad times....

Meanwhile I'm divorced (7 years of marriage) and gay (the longest I've been able to stay with another man was 5 years).

But I'm not sure longevity is the neasure of a relationship.... perhaps it's intensity. I've never quit loving the people I've loved, I don't think you can. But things change and needs must.

Khash.

[Nikia]

34. They divorced when I was 4

They got married when my mother was pregnant with me. I have been married for five years. The events of their divorce and the aftermath did cause a lot of trauma in my childhood. Maybe, it would have been traumatic too if they stayed together. At least I wouldn't have had to deal with parent's transient SOs, an abusive step father, a step mother who seemed jealous of us, moving a lot, and all the issues of relaying messages between parents. I think this all has made it hard for me to deal with relationship issues. On the otherhand, I am motivated to be better than my parents and stay married. Perhaps, people with fewer issues with their divorced parents do alright though.

[Harrumph]

35. My parents just celebrated their 62nd anniversary.

All 3 of us kids have been divorced at least once.

[Lady President]

36. 42 years until my father died

My parents were married 42 yrs. until my father died this summer. They were very happy together.

It's a mixed blessing. On one hand, I know good relationships exist, and I could never be a man-hater. On the other hand, I've never been married because I judge my mediocre relationships against an incredibly solid one. I think I needed to see a happy medium.

[bigwillq]

37. Mine are still married.

37 years.

[astonamous]

38. NOPE. Divorced when I was 2 or 3.

I have been married to my first and last husband for 23.5 years. My husbands parents were divorced too.

[redqueen]

39. I think statistics can be very misleading.

My parents are still married, but shouldn't be.

I'm going to get divorced.

[Syncronaut Seven]

41. 22 years of mutual violence, 1 Kid w/comp. PTSD, 2 more dysfunctional

They held it together for the kids. I would have been better off as an orphan.

[Truebrit71sbruv]

42. Yes...

... married in '63 and still going strong...

[salin]

43. my parents were married for 39 years,

until he passed away.

My married siblings have both been married for more than 20 years.

[Lars39]

44. 50 years, 9 months.

[hickman1937]

45. Yes for 51 looooong years.

They stayed together for years for the kids, after that I think from habit, pride and debt load. It ended when Mom died in 2001. My Dad sits around missing her and waiting to die. It still dumbfounds me.

[distantearlywarning]

46. 35 years this year and still very happy.

Their marriage is a model for my own.

[Left Is Write]

51. I feel just that way about my parents' marriage.

[donheld]

47. My parent stayed together far too long

There was no love there, just stay together for the kids.

[cmd]

48. 33 years until mom died n/t

[marigold20]

49. 54 years

Don't know if they set an example for all of us - one sibling is on her third marriage, though it seems this one is going to work. One is single, others have been married for 20 to 35 years.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

50. They would have been married 40 years if he'd lived 3 months more

Their marriage was pure hell sometimes...for us and them. But they decided to stay together, and I don't know if I'm better or worse for it.

I think it's wisest not to pay too much attention to statistics, but to listen deeply to your own heart and your own mind before making the decision to stick with it or call it quits and move on.

[AirmensMom]

52. My parents were married for 56 years before my Dad died.

I've been married for 29 years so far. Three of my siblings have been divorced ... one of them three times. Not a great track record in my family, so I guess it didn't help that our parents stayed married.

[Misunderestimator]

53. Yes, until my mother died. They were married for 33 years.

And my father's been married to his second wife for 13 years.

[ashling]

54. My parents are still together

They married in '48. They were best friends. My mom died in 1973 and never got to see Nixon resign. My dad never remarried. She was his one love. (of course, I don't really think anybody else would have put up with him :) ) He died in 1998. We scattered their ashes (along with those of my little brother who died of AIDS in 1997) in the Sangre de Christo mountains of New Mexico.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

55. My parents have been married for 29 years

And I haven't been married yet

My paternal gandparents were married for over 50 years until the death of my grandfather and my maternal grandparents were married for 64 years until the death of my other grandfather

[curse10]

56. They are still married- 32 years and counting

:-)

[mohinoaklawnillinois]

57. My parents were married 41 years when my Mom died in 1983.

Mr. Wonderful and myself made it 25 years this past August.

[ChoralScholar]

58. My parents were married in 1964, and were married until she died in 2002

Except for a period of 1-2 years they divorced and got back together. My dad was a truck driver, and I never noticed anything different.

If your parents divorce and remarry and you never know it, maybe it wasn't all that big a deal.

[TallahasseeGrannie]

59. My parents were married 67 years

I have been married 33 and my sister, 43. I think it helps when you grow up seeing the give and take of a successful marriage.

[PassingFair]

60. Parents together until my Dad died...

from ALS. My mother took care of him at home for 2 immobile years.
I still get teary eyed whenever I think of that time.
7 years ago, and she has not gotten over the loss.
She spends much of her time at church and believes
they will be together again when she dies. So sad.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

61. They were together for 27 years, and death did them part..

[BamaGirl]

62. Mine have been married 35 years

[hippywife]

63. Mine just celebrated

48 years two days ago.

[u4ic]

64. 47 years, until my mom died

Maybe 2-3 of them were happy. :-(

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

65. Yes. 1946-2004.

Mom died last year; they were happily married for 58 years.

[flamingyouth]

66. Still married after 42 years

:)

[Straight Shooter]

68. My parents have been very happily married for 55 years.

Of their 4 kids:

Child #4 is twice divorced, single for 11 years
Child #3 is divorced once, is now married 20 years
Child #2 is divorced three times, probably married again; I don't know
Child #1 is married once, still married after 25 years, as far as I know.

How about that? We skewed the odds :D

[qnr]

69. They would have had to have been married in the first place n/t

[BuddhaGirl]

70. my parents have been married for 52 years, my grandparents

were married 67 years when my grandpa died.

My first marriage lasted 9 years (the "practice husband") and I have been very happily married now for 7 years to my beloved current husband!

[tigereye]

71. they have been married for 48 years

through good and bad times.. I admire their loyalty.

I have been with the same person for more than 20 years... I think it really depends on the people involved, not just the history of their parents relationship. My h's parents were married for about 40 years.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

72. 33 years this Christmas Eve.

They're only in their 50s, too.

[wildhorses]

73. divorced after 38 years

good times and bad times

[Withywindle]

74. Married in '68, still going strong...

...I'm 36 and have never been married at all. Don't know what that means.