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Edited on Mon May-30-05 04:31 AM by DemBones DemBones
never talked about it.
After he was dead, his younger brother finished writing a family history he had worked on for years, tracing the family back to the 1500's in England. In the family history, my uncle (Army, served in Japan during the Occupation, too young to get in during the war) wrote about their first cousin, Eddie, an Army medic, Bronze and Silver Star winner, killed and buried "somewhere in Italy." He wrote that Eddie and my dad had been close friends, being the same age.
I never heard my dad speak of Eddie, never knew the story at all. I only knew what a difficult person Uncle Ed (my great uncle) was, how my dad and his brothers tried to avoid Uncle Ed for the most part -- do you suppose Uncle Ed's peculiarities had anything to do with losing his only son in the war? Or my dad's quirks, for that matter; how did it affect him to lose a cousin who was also a friend? :think:
My older brother was a Marine, enlisted during the Korean war, enlisting at 17 1/2, convinced his country needed him as cannon fodder (he actually said this to my parents.) He did three or four tours of duty.
My husband and younger brothers were fortunate enough to draw good numbers in the first draft lottery during the Viet Nam war. My husband had filed for conscientious objector status but no decision was made on his case. My mother, who'd raised us on or near bases all over the U.S. and abroad, and been a good military wife, quickly making every new house into a home, said she'd encourage my brothers to go to Canada if drafted. My father, fed up with the Viet Nam war's immorality, agreed with her on this.
But those who served during the Viet Nam era, including many friends and classmates of mine and of my husband's (notably his best friend David, drafted and sent to Nam), deserve to be honored as much as those who resisted an unjust and illegal war. It was a difficult time to be a man of age for military service, with many having to make a difficult decision.
(It's those who wangled Guard duty back home or extended deferments, phony 4Fs, etc., and who now support war (or, worse, claimed to support one they wouldn't serve in) who are worthy of scorn. Their consciences should plague them but they likely have none!)
Added on Edit: I want to also honor my father-in-law who, during WW II, was drafted at age 28 into the Navy, though he'd been married and a father for years, and had high blood pressure to boot. At his physical, they made him lie down and kept taking his blood pressure until they got a reading low enough to make him draft-worthy! He wasn't happy about leaving his pregnant wife and I'm sure money was a concern (when did the military ever pay what a man was earning in civilan ife?) but he did his duty in a war almost everyone agreed was a just and necessary war. His younger, and yet unmarried, brother also served, but in the Army.
All these old soldiers, sailors, and Marines (except a couple from the Viet Nam generation) are gone now. May they all rest in peace as we remember them this Memorial Day.
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