This was a big weekend for me.... and he didn't even call

[MissMillie]

ok... thanks in advance for being my "Dear Abby" I have to admit it, I'm lousy at dating and romance, so having you folks to sound off to helps.

Anyway, I ran my 5K on Saturday. Mind you, I came in dead last (of the runners) but I knew that was going to happen. Anyway, I ran it. All of it. And I'm prouder of myself than I have been in a very long time.

I've been running for 2 months. For the last month, I've also been seeing Jay. He's been terrific--attentive, sweet, supportive, and fun. This weekend however, he really dropped the ball.

He didn't call on Friday night to wish me luck w/ my run. He had to drive out to pick up his son at college on Saturday (it's a long drive), so I knew he could not come to my race. However, I called him on Saturday after my run and got his voice-mail. I left him a message. I *still* haven't heard anything from him.

I just sent out an email, telling him a little bit more about my race and asking him how his weekend was.

I know I'll feel lousy if it turns out he had major trouble on his drive out to Rochester, but it can't be unreasonable of me for wanting to share my achievement w/ him... can it?

[Lannes]

1. Maybe he didnt know how important the race was to you.

[GreenPartyVoter]

4. Agreed. Just let him know that for future races you'd love a word

of encouragement from him. :) *hugs*

[MissMillie]

12. It was my very first race

and it was all I talked about.... well, almost all I talked about.

I think he knew.

It may be that his son required more attention than I know... so I'm trying to be fair.

[Wcross]

2. Hey, he is spending quality time with his son.....

Sure, he may be a little insensitive by not calling but he probably was busy catching up with whats going on in his sons life. OR- he might have went to a keg party at the college and hooked up with a couple of co-eds????? (just kidding!)

[Shell Beau]

3. Not unreasonable at all.

But if I were you, I would wait for him to contact you. Do not call or leave any more messages. Maybe it was just a hell of a weekend for him. These things happen all of the time, but now the ball is in his court. Just be patient and wait to hear from him. I know it can be hard, but I think it's the best thing to do.

[Bunny]

7. I'll second that. Do NOT call or contact him. It's in his court.

Maybe he had a lousy weekend, maybe he had a great weekend with his son and is just returning to his 'real life', maybe he's trying to dump you. Who knows? But don't contact him again, wait for him to contact you.

(BTW - the OP should know that I've had one divorce, and two long-term relationships that did not end well. So take any relationship advice from me with a couple of grains of salt! :))

[JimmyJazz]

5. Congratualtions on your run! That was quite a goal you set

for yourself! You should be proud of yourself.

As for your man, I have no advice. It is certainly not my area of expertise and I am not known for being patient so advising someone else to be would be incredibly hypocritical on my part. But, I hope he calls. :)

[DS1]

6. Wait to find out why before getting fired up

Could be anything at this point

[LynzM]

8. Congrats on the race!!

That's awesome that you ran it all!! :bounce:

As for him.... wait and see at this point. I'd be upset if I were in your shoes, as well. But until you know, I think it's best to just leave it to him to get back to you, at this point. :hug:, 'cause I know that sucks...

[Mizmoon]

9. Congrats on the race, forget about the guy

If he's "too busy" to call you back or email you, then something is wrong.

I don't mean to be cruel, but that's what my gut says. You're too good to be kept waiting like this ...

:pals:

[tigereye]

10. Congratulations on your achievement Miss Millie!

[auntAgonist]

11. MissMillie

Congrats on completing the run!! You SHOULD be SO proud of yourself. You've definately achieved a monumentous goal. It's onward and upward from here. I am proud of you, and hope some day soon I can post some accomplishments too!

Give your friend a bit of a break, he might not have realized the importance of the run to you, and as others have said, is probably caught up in his son's visit.

hang in there MM!!

and WTG!!!!!!!!!

:applause: :hug: :applause: