If someone requires patience, does that make them a burden?

[coloradodem2005]

In a manner of speaking.

[Selatius]

1. What's the context of this patience?

Is this, patience before the time to have sex like delayed pleasure? (That's a bad example, I know, but I'm shooting in the dark here.)

[coloradodem2005]

2. When dealing with someone in an interpersonal relationship.

[Selatius]

3. Oh, I was half-way hoping it wasn't something this messy

Personal relationships are hard to try to understand. Each couple has their own dynamics. It's like trying to guess the position of a piece of twig in a tornado at any given time. You know which way the tornado spins, and you can get where the tornado is heading, but it's difficult to get that much more detailed beyond that point.

I'm still kind of in the dark, though. What is the nature of the patience? Is it the person doesn't give you attention until good and ready like after finishing a task or something even though it's an urgent matter, for instance?

[MrSandman]

4. Not necessarily...,

It might make them high maintenance.

I guess the manner of speaking is, "How much patience are you willing to invest?"

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. It depends. Does that requirement burden you? Sounds to me as though

it does burden you. Only you can decide...Perhaps my story will help. I hope so. I see that you're in pain tonight from your various threads, and I'd like to help you, if I can. So, my story:

When my husband and I were dating, he did the "usual, normal" thing and made a fairly serious pass at me. I rebuffed him. It was way too early and no way was I interested in behaving that way. And then I told him that I'd broken up with guys over sex before, and I wouldn't hesitate to do the same with him. He said, OK. I was shocked. I realized later that he was in the game for the long haul, and not for the momentary pleasure. He was serious about me, and that increased my respect for him. So this is my perspective on patience. I hope it helps you. PM me if you like.

Please take care. You matter...

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