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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:51 AM Original message |
Married DU'ers, I have a question. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:53 AM Response to Original message |
1. Have you told him how important it is to you? |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:00 PM Response to Reply #1 |
11. Absolutely I have. |
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LynzM (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:53 AM Response to Original message |
2. Have you talked to him about it? |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:01 PM Response to Reply #2 |
12. Oh yes, most definitely I have. |
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Hobarticus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:54 AM Response to Original message |
3. This man says... |
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kick-ass-bob (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:57 AM Response to Reply #3 |
7. This is good. |
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enigmatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:01 PM Response to Reply #7 |
13. Excellent answer |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:23 PM Response to Reply #13 |
36. I've always had this great motto that perhaps I should share with him: |
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enigmatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:35 PM Response to Reply #36 |
67. I like it! |
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ewagner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:58 AM Response to Reply #3 |
9. Good call.... |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:02 PM Response to Reply #3 |
16. This may be true. |
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kick-ass-bob (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:07 PM Response to Reply #16 |
20. I'm not sure I'd admit this in this situation either. |
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Hobarticus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:35 PM Response to Reply #16 |
68. He probably won't. It's a guy thing. |
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Hugin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:54 PM Response to Reply #3 |
56. "I put off things too, because I'm afraid to screw them up." |
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kick-ass-bob (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:03 PM Response to Reply #56 |
58. Is this all you do all day? |
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Hugin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:10 PM Response to Reply #58 |
61. Hey, I'm learning... I'm learning... |
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liberal N proud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:55 AM Response to Original message |
4. Motivate him |
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mzmolly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:55 AM Response to Original message |
5. Well you could be manipulative and say you have other ideas for that |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:04 PM Response to Reply #5 |
18. True... |
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mzmolly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:15 PM Response to Reply #18 |
29. One thing I've done for my husband is to "research" a project and give |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:20 PM Response to Reply #29 |
33. Hey that's great. Thank you! |
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mzmolly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:22 PM Response to Reply #33 |
35. You bet. |
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Mrs_Beastman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:29 PM Response to Reply #33 |
42. I agree so far |
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SheilaT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:57 AM Response to Original message |
6. One possible solution |
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kick-ass-bob (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:00 PM Response to Reply #6 |
10. passive-aggressive? maybe, maybe not. |
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enigmatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:04 PM Response to Reply #10 |
17. Exactly |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:06 PM Response to Reply #6 |
19. My husband does tend to be passive-aggressive... |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:10 PM Response to Reply #19 |
24. my husband works a lot |
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Demit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 11:58 AM Response to Original message |
8. Advice from someone with an ex-Mr. DemItAll: |
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Redstone (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:01 PM Response to Original message |
14. Can I have his router if you hire someone to do the job? I bet |
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evlbstrd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:02 PM Response to Original message |
15. It took me many months |
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madrchsod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:07 PM Response to Original message |
21. hire someone to finish the job |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:07 PM Response to Original message |
22. Hire a contractor to finish the job. Never again believe him when |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:28 PM Response to Reply #22 |
40. no offense, but your solution is dripping with contempt |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:34 PM Response to Reply #40 |
46. Well, offense taken. Your response to me is plain silly. |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:40 PM Response to Reply #46 |
48. apologies. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:48 PM Response to Reply #48 |
52. But she didn't say he screwed up... |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:00 PM Response to Reply #52 |
57. I agree that's a better analogy. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:07 PM Response to Reply #57 |
60. I think it was the 'burnt dinner' thing |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:15 PM Response to Reply #60 |
64. understandable. but like I and others have pointed out, |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:18 PM Response to Reply #64 |
65. Yep... exactly. |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:28 PM Response to Reply #65 |
66. well, I do not blame people for getting sucked into those roles, after all |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:49 PM Response to Reply #48 |
53. It's not contempt. It's accepting the fact that her husband is simply |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:10 PM Response to Reply #53 |
62. well....I guess you aren't seeing what I am with what your'e saying. |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:08 PM Response to Original message |
23. Go to your local home improvement store and... |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:13 PM Response to Reply #23 |
26. Yes. I wouldn't mind doing it myself... |
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NewJeffCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:32 PM Response to Reply #23 |
45. This would be my advice |
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Fleshdancer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:12 PM Response to Original message |
25. I've had these issues with my husband in the past.... |
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enigmatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:15 PM Response to Reply #25 |
28. Best sentence in this thread |
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Fleshdancer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:25 PM Response to Reply #28 |
39. thank-you enigmatic |
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enigmatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:29 PM Response to Reply #39 |
41. I agree completely |
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NewJeffCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:35 PM Response to Reply #28 |
47. agreed |
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fluffernutter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:13 PM Response to Original message |
27. hire a carpenter and get it over with. |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:15 PM Response to Original message |
30. Thank you to everyone for your advise. |
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seemunkee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:16 PM Response to Original message |
31. Has he built anything before? Does he have real plans |
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stopbush (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:18 PM Response to Original message |
32. Having a husband like that could lead you to drink... |
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AlCzervik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:22 PM Response to Original message |
34. Either let it go or learn to do things by yourself. |
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Debi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:24 PM Response to Original message |
37. Find out how much it will cost to have it done by a contractor |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:24 PM Response to Original message |
38. not to trivialize your frustration, but this sounds very familiar to me |
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CornField (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:29 PM Response to Original message |
43. I put Mr CornField on a timer |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 03:39 PM Response to Reply #43 |
71. I like that idea. n/t |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:30 PM Response to Original message |
44. He obviously doesn't want to build it. |
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amazona (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:42 PM Response to Original message |
49. this is what men do -- no great Freudian hidden meaning |
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Debi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:51 PM Response to Reply #49 |
54. It's not just a male thing |
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SarahB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:45 PM Response to Original message |
50. I was married for 13 years. |
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OffWithTheirHeads (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:47 PM Response to Original message |
51. The guy is in over his head and afraid |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 12:52 PM Response to Original message |
55. My friend's hubby is the same way. He ripped |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:05 PM Response to Original message |
59. Give up on having a bar |
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Seabiscuit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:11 PM Response to Original message |
63. Procrastination can be a bitch to live with. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 01:50 PM Response to Original message |
69. The IDEA is the important thing (planning, thinking) not accomplishing it |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 03:35 PM Response to Original message |
70. I just thought of something that I should mention |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed May-11-05 03:45 PM Response to Original message |
72. Tell him if it's not done by the end of the month, |
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