OK, now I'm pissed! - Democratic Underground

Not_Giving_Up

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Wed Apr-27-05 08:17 AM
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OK, now I'm pissed!

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We've been living in this trailer park for a little over a year. The management is a joke, only writing up the people that they've decided that they don't like for violations of park rules. They decided fairly early on that they don't like us because we don't take their crap.

There are about a billion kids in the park, and they all wait for the school buses at the front, where there is a store, owned by the park owners, which also houses the office. Before I went into the hospital, they started calling to tell me that my son was picking on my daughter at the bus stop. I was getting two or three calls a week. We spoke to him each time, and the calls stopped, so I thought the problem was resolved.

Now, I know my children, and I know that my ADHD/Aspie kid takes sibling rivalry to new levels. My daughter does not pay attention to traffic, and since half of the park drives their offspring to the bus stop (why are the kids so FAT??), there are 20-30 cars up there every morning. My daughter has been told to stay in one specific area to avoid getting run over, but she doesn't want to stay there. Her big brother tries to make her stay there, and doesn't hesitate to attempt to physically put her where she belongs. We have told him to knock it off, to just let us know if she's not staying where she's been told to stay.

So, yesterday afternoon at 3:15, I get a knock on the door. It's a CPS investigator. The people at the office called them claiming that they are concerned for my daughter's safety. The investigator had gone to both schools that morning and spoken with the children. My daughter, the Queen of Drama, tells the woman that her brother beats her up all of the time. She's nine, and will exaggerate any point if it will get her attention. They ask where he hits her, she tells them the arms. They photograph her arms, which don't have a mark on them. Good...Now they have photographic evidence that my child didn't have a mark on her. The investigator spent thirty minutes asking me questions. She asked how the children are disciplined, asked to see each of their rooms, all that stuff. She tells me that the road in front of the park is very busy, and is concerned that my son might push my daughter into traffic. I tell her that he's very protective of her (only he's allowed to pick on her), and that most of the problems come from her not staying out of the way of traffic, where we have told her to stand. Neither of my kids are anywhere near the busy road before the bus comes. I gave her the name and number of the therapist that sees the kids weekly, and listed the meds that the kids are on. I told her that we are very well aware that boy child often has problems keeping his hands to himself, but that it's improved greatly over the last year, since he's been in therapy, and that girl child has not been seriously hurt by him. She'll be back in a few days to give me a safety plan, as if I don't know what I'm doing, and I have to go down to the bus stop with the kids every morning to make sure that nothing happens.

I think what pisses me off the most is that she interviewed the kids at school. Now both schools know that CPS has been called and is messing with my life, but they don't know why. She could have talked to them at home and gotten the same responses.

This morning at the bus stop, the manager woman was out there with her four kids. One of them was riding his bike through the maze of parked cars, not paying attention to traffic at all. She kept yelling at him to watch out, but never made him get off of the bike. She said that the only way she could get him to the bus stop was to allow him to ride his bike down there. One of her other kids was climbing the burglar bars like a jungle gym, hanging upside down over concrete. She wasn't paying attention, and would freak out when somebody pointed out to her that her child was about to potentially fall and crack his head open. Her sixth grade daughter started trouble with a boy whiile her mother was inside, then ran to her mom when the boy attempted to step on her feet to make her leave him alone. "Mooooooooom! So and so is stepping on my nice clean shoooooooes!" When Mom came outside, another boy told the girl, right in front of Mom, that she'd better tell the whole story.

So, let me get this straight...She calls CPS on me because my son gets a little over zealous trying to make sure that his sister doesn't get run over, but she can't control her own children even when she's right there.