Is this romantic? Am I being high-maintenance?

[progmom]

So I was flirting with progdad, and said something like: "You know...you could have done better than me..."

His response: "I didn't want to do better."



Wouldn't the correct response have been: "No way, baby! There's no one better than you!"


Or am I just being high-maintenance again?

[RevolutionaryActs]

1. Awww, I think it just means he likes you.

for whatever reason. :eyes:

[progmom]

4. ok...i am totally confused about who you are

first you ditched the "well behaved women" sig...now you're some kind of smiley-tex hybrid. :crazy:

[RevolutionaryActs]

9. I'm trying to disguise myself.

No one can know who I am....

[texas1928]

15. Oh you are using me.

:mad:

[RevolutionaryActs]

17. Yes... I mean no... um what was the question?

:patriot:

[sundog]

19. why are you being so coy this evening?

who are you hiding from? :P

[RevolutionaryActs]

20. I'm not being coy... I'm just being weird.

[sundog]

22. you freak!

change it AGAIN! :P

[RevolutionaryActs]

24. LOL! Change what again?

My avatar or my sigline? :P

[sundog]

25. what are you running from?

did you rob a bank? :shrug:

[RevolutionaryActs]

27. I'm just insane tonight.

I need change.


And I figure if I keep messing with my sigline and avatar, it will keep me from obsessing over my newest TV crush. :shrug:





Besides, I think it's perfect now. :P

[sundog]

29. aaaaaaajjjjjjjjhhhhhhhhh

[RevolutionaryActs]

30. BWHAAAA HAAAA HAAAAA

:P

[texas1928]

31. NAH NAH

I am first.

HA HA HA
HA

[RevolutionaryActs]

34. Now, now boys.

Settle down. :P

[CaliforniaPeggy]

36. And what, pray tell, is wrong with being used? Esp. HERE!

Let's hear it for being used, as long as it's limited to pictures, lol!

I wouldn't mind if someone used MY pic...(this is NOT a hint, BTW)


:kick:

[sundog]

2. high maintenance

what did you expect I'd say?

:P

[hippiepunk]

3. I'd vote high maintenance

he said what came to his head first.

[Beware the Beast Man]

5. One more vote for high-maintenance.

;)

[progmom]

7. oh no. not you?

[Beware the Beast Man]

11. See, you're doing it again.

Another one of my perennial favorites is the goold old "Are you happy?" as if I'm going to say, "No. quite miserable, thank you."

Of course, I AM happy...

[progmom]

18. am i meeting mrs beastman this weekend?

:hi:

[Beware the Beast Man]

Sadly, no.

:(

We're not coming out to Boston. 'Tis a silly place.

[progmom]

26. oh. i was confused.

x(

too bad!

[MissB]

6. High maintenance?

:shrug:

Maybe he just didn't finish the sentence. "I didn't want to do better, because..."

[FuzzySlippers]

8. File for divorce!

:P

[sundog]

10. hahaha

:rofl:

[Bouncy Ball]

12. He certainly put it clumsily, but I'm sure his meaning

was nothing but good.

I had to laugh because that sounds JUST like something Mr. Bouncy would say.

[Tom Kitten]

13. I think

you're spoiled!

Most men are incredibly slowfooted when it comes down to romantic banter...I should know, I've blown it enough times I could write a book about it!

[progmom]

16. meh. you're right.

:hi:

[LSdemocrat]

14. You can't complain when you set up the premise that others are better

You can't reasonably expect someone to take a somewhat subtle romantic hint.

[texas1928]

21. Well if you have to ask.

Then you MUST be HIGH maintenance.


:hide:



:P

[R. A. Fuqua]

23. I think it is kind of sweet--

"I didn't want to do better."

I see a lot of people who are always looking for the BBD (Bigger, Better Deal). they want someone richer or younger or better looking--so they are never satisfied with who they are with--they always keep an eye out for the BBD. If they find a BBD they will dump whoever they are with for the BBD.

It is very wonderful to be so content in your relationship that you are not interested in anyone else--even if they are better.

And it is more honest than saying that you are the greatest possible, most perfect person in the world. We all know that there is always someone out there who is better looking, or younger, or has more money--the key is --being so happy with who you are with that you are not interested in trading--even if you could trade up.

It is a very beautiful sentiment, very eloquently expressed. I understand where this man is coming from.

[progmom]

28. you're right.

...and now I feel like a jerk for even posting this thread. x(

[R. A. Fuqua]

32. no no no--

you are obviously a sweet and sensitive woman--the thing is that men aren't always obvious about the things that they say. Sometimes you have to read between the lines a little bit. It is really hard for us to explain ourselves sometimes.....especially when we are trying to impress a beautiful woman like you.

[progmom]

33. oh.

thanks! :blush:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

37. Your eloquence is quite moving. Thank you for it.

I hope that you have someone who appreciates your particular style...

:hi:

[R. A. Fuqua]

42. thank you for appreciating me.

I have observed that that is the number one way to get into a man's heart--just appreciate what he does (or tries to do) for you.

I have several wonderful women who influence life--my grandmother, my mother, two sisters, and a lovely girlfriend--plus lots of female friends.

They have taught me to appreciate women, I feel that the women in my life do so much and work so hard to take care of everyone and in return they ask for so little in return. I try to do everything in my power to make their lives easier and happier. When they are appreciative of my efforts--that is all I need to be happy.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

57. I believe that you have found the secret for making women happy!

If more men knew what you know, the world would be a much better, and happier, place, imho...(BTW, my husband knows this secret, and we have a long and very happy marriage.)

:toast:

I hope to see you posting more; you have VERY intelligent things to say!

:hi:

[R. A. Fuqua]

61. thank you!

you know, you were the first person to welcome me to DU--so I feel like you are my special friend here.

It seems like we have some awesome DUer's here in California--I hope I get to meet more of them--and maybe in person someday!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

62. Oh good grief, you're in California?

WHERE? I'm in Manhattan Beach, a little yuppie enclave next door to LAX.
Are you nearby? I hope....
And thank you for your friendship!

[R. A. Fuqua]

64. I'm in the Bay Area.

Half Moon Bay---just a little out of San Francisco.

But, I do occasionally go down to Southern California--I have a brother who lives in Carlsbad (near LegoLand).

I love LA--I like going down to the art museums, my favorite is the Getty. I am planning to go down sometime this summer (King Tut exhibit is coming to LA and I really want to see it). Maybe if I am lucky, I can make my trip coincide with a DU get-together.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

65. I too love the Getty; have only been once.

Perhaps a DU get-together is a possibility...Why should Boston have ALL the fun?

[R. A. Fuqua]

66. exactly!!! the west

coast has so much to offer--we should not let the east coast DUers have all the fun.

(I also love the Huntington (?sp) they have the most beautiful gardens if you ever get a chance definitely go there and enjoy!)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

68. My husband and I were there last year with some friends; what an

incredible place...I could not see all of it. Too much to see in just one trip. I get museum fatigue after awhile...My eyeballs want to fall out and roll on the floor. Incredible gardens. We are busy thread-jacking today!

[R. A. Fuqua]

70. yes--I loved it--

I would like to live there (surrounded by the gardens).

It is so peaceful and beautiful. An oasis of tranquility with the big city so close!

We need to lobby for a west coast DU get together!

[R. A. Fuqua]

71. hey--thread jacking

pays off! I am suddenly up to 100 posts!!!

[redqueen]

67. I love these answers.

Thanks for your comments!

[ContraBass Black]

35. Don't back a man into a corner and expect him to respond with perfection.

He told you quite plainly that you are exactly what he wants. What more do you need?

[medeak]

38. THIS IS JUNIOR HIGH CRAP!

good grief..

my mom was jnr high school counselor...she called it the "vast wasteland of hormones"

[CaliforniaPeggy]

39. Hi, progmom, He doesn't sound like the kind of guy who would be

particularly romantic...Perhaps he is the type of guy who plainly and maybe hurridly speaks his mind w/o too much thought. Only you would know if that's the case with him...I'm sure he means to tell you that he loves you, and that you make him very happy...You suit him down to his toenails...

I think that we women tend to have a different view of what men who love us should say. Maybe we've been spoiled by the romantic novels or movies of our youth...I don't know. He sounds like a great guy who loves you.

High maintenance? Nah...

:pals:

[Huckebein the Raven]

40. Just a tad

:P

[Skittles]

41. if you asked him DO THESE PANTS MAKE ME LOOK FAT

he would reply IT'S NOT THE PANTS. He doesn't mean any harm, just got no sense. I wouldn't kick his ass but perhaps I would just bend his arm a little. :7

[MrScorpio]

43. Yep, you're being high maintenance

He loves you and all your flaws. It what makes you you and he's with you with his eyes and heart wide open and fully aware. All in all, I think that it's a better deal... Because it speaks of an unconditional love.

And after all, isn't that what all of us would rather have?

[roscoeroscoe]

44. i've gotten zapped often by my darling,

and it's gotten us into some tough territory. trying to get waaay past getting into fights like that. but along the way, a lot of interesting... discussions. i always find myself defensively saying something like, 'well heck, if you're going to write my lines too, just let me know in advance so i can reherse and deliver them well.'
it's awful to be criticized over stuff like this. does this make me look fat? how many variations of ambush-conversation starters are there?
i love my wife dearly (the golden delight of the universe) but it gets pretty dark sometimes when she jumps on me over stuff like that.
please try to allow plenty of slack in conversation with your love~~

[tjwmason]

45. Not really high-maintanence

It sounds like one of those sentiments which just came out wrong - but yes you're right the perfect response is 'no body's better than you'.

He was definitely trying to 'you sure are the girl for me and I couldn't want anything else' but the sentiment got a wee bit mangled.

You should only put him in the dog-house for about a week or so, not some serious punishment.

[SKKY]

46. Jesus Christ! Take a freakin' complement.

[bridgit]

47. too many confuse 'high maintainance'...

with common low-grade neuroses

:shrug:

[progmom]

49. .

:wow:

[arwalden]

48. You Were Fishing For A Compliment And Reassurances...

... he decided to have a little fun and tease you by eating the bait and throwing the hook back at you.

Just a guess... :shrug:

[progmom]

50. Ack.

Reading some of the responses here, I am realizing that I came across as way mnore serious than I intended. I posted the original message mainly to goof on my husband - I showed him the post and the responses that had come in last night. :)

Yes - I absolutely know I have a wonderful, articulate, amazing husband. And I actually thought his response was pretty sweet.

:hi:

[tjwmason]

51. That's all we wanted to know really

Glad that you're so happy together :hi:

[progmom]

52. thanks

I read the responses that came in over night, and was mortified.

How is your afternoon going?

[tjwmason]

55. It's going fairly well

We've got some thunder outside - which is very jolly as long as the lights don't start to flicker...unfortunately I can't play loud Beethoven (which I like to do during thunderstorms) as I'm in a shared office.

How's your morning - apart from mortification that is?

[progmom]

56. morning is not the way i expected it

instead of being at work, i am home with a sick progspawn...who was playing with his playmobil house but is now requesting that i read him a book.

:hi:

[tjwmason]

58. I do hope that progspawn gets better quickly

He looks so sweet in the picture you posted of him - and it can be so ghastly to see them not well and not really understanding what's going on.

:hug: for both of you.

[shesemsmom]

53. HUM>>>>>

sort of a backhanded compliment!!

[leftofthedial]

54. does this dress make my butt look big?

[Misunderestimator]

59. Oh, I say stupid shit like that all the time...

Of course, I'd be sensitive if someone said it to me. :shrug:

[Schema Thing]

60. I'm sure Progdad is a smart guy....

...I'm a smart guy; but being smart does not make me quick with the perfect phrase. I am ALWAYS giving an honest answer that is, shall we say, less than the romantic ideal. Aarrghh, sometimes we just need to catch a break!

[Left Is Write]

63. My thoughts. I know you have been waiting for them.

;)

Honestly, I would guess that was just progdad's clumsy way of saying that there IS no one better than you. Clearly, there was no one PREFERABLE to you; ergo, you are the best.

Feel better?

[4_Legs_Good]

69. "I would rather be with you than with the finest woman in the world!!!"

is what he should have said.

david