How important is romance in your relationship with a significant other?

[laura888]

[MrScorpio]

1. I am Romance

Look it up

[Deja Q]

2. I'm single, and am compelled to stay that way.

Like or dislike does not come into my consideration. :-)

[liberal N proud]

3. I don't know about romance but sex is all I need

Actually, it does require romance.

[ET Awful]

4. I wouldn't know, it's been too long since I had a significant other

:(

[SarahB]

5. I'm not sure.

I'm more of the roll over and go to sleep type and I'm a bit more opinionated and assertive when it comes down to it as well. I'd rather have a partner that felt equal than feeling as though he was "romancing" me. That being said, I still like attention and being shown that I'm treasured and attractive to the person. It's just complex at times.

[BOSSHOG]

6. Anytime I'm with my wife, its a romantic occasion

Whether we are at the Pizza Buffet, or watching the evening News or out weeding the garden or grocery shopping or in bed. She's my best friend and the love of my life.

[khashka]

7. Romance ain't a big deal

Or at least the accepted definition of romance. I don't need flowers or the right music, etc.

I do need someone who knows what they want in the relationship and is eager to learn what I want. Someone who knows himself well and wants to know me equally as well.

Someone who wants to be as familiar and comfortable with my body as he is with his own. Someone who knows (or is willing to learn) where our seperateness is and where our congruency is.

That said, any guy who can really cook gets my vote :)

Khash.

[huellewig]

8. What is romance?

When I see a pretty patch of flowers and ask my girlfriend to pull over so I can pick one for her. Is that romance? When I lug a picnic basket to her work at noon on the bus so we can eat and cuddle in the sun on a large patch of green grass. Is that romance? I do those things all the time and never get the same in return. To be perfectly honesty I don't really care. Our stupid game of trying to get the best French fry on the plate is enough to keep me calling her number.

I guess I don't have a good grasp of what the male perspective of romance is. If it exist.

[Magrittes Pipe]

9. You need friendship AND passion.

The most important thing for getting a couple through the ups and downs of a relationship is the friendship. But you need to be able to get completely lost in each other occasionally. Far too many relationships have one, but not the other. Hell, far too many relationships have neither.

I am lucky enough to have both.

[fudge stripe cookays]

10. Make that....

friendship, passion, AND a sense of humor. :-)

The friendship is the most important part for us, but our senses of humor, and innate goofiness have seen us through some difficult moments in life (just in general, not between us).

We still hold hands in the car, fall asleep spooning, and he puts me to bed when I fall asleep on the couch. We make friends giggle with our mushiness.

Affection rules.

[Magrittes Pipe]

11. Oh, yeah. The fact that she's funny makes it all possible.

But, really, looks ain't got much to do with it.

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[Redstone]

12. You're right, you gotta have laughs,

along with the other stuff.

And the right person; I changed from being The Remote Stranger to being The Last Of The Red-Hot Romantics only when I met my wife, and it's stayed that way for 15 years.

We're constantly surprised, when we're in a group setting, that we're the only couple who touches one another frequently, and we're never sitting on the couch with any space between us (which can be an impediment when I'm tryng to do something on the Powerbook, but that's a small price to pay for intimacy).

And we have a lot of fun doing doofus stuff, especially with the little guy. And ridiculing each other when one of us does or says something dumb.

Redstone

[Magrittes Pipe]

13. "we have a lot of fun doing doofus stuff, especially with the little guy"

I hope you're referring to your child. :P

[Misunderestimator]

15. LOL

:spray:

[fudge stripe cookays]

16. We have a little guy too.

Only he's furry and white and weighs 95 pounds. He he.

That's sweet Redstone! The luuuv of a good woman and what it can do! reprehensor has had me laughing almost from Day 1. We were an internet relationship, and I have kept ALL of our e-mails, sentimental fool that I am. Sometimes I go back and read them and STILL laugh my ass off.

It's what kept me coming back for more. I still call him Butthead after all these years, and he still calls me Lains. Makes me all comfortable and stuff. And we do the silly ridiculing stuff too. Usually in one of our silly accents. If you didn't know us, you'd think you wre in the room with 2 schizophrenics.

Yep, we're couch cuddlers too. We'll spend most of the evenign in separate rooms doing computer stuff and surfing, but he comes in the living room, and it's he and I and Fargo all cuddled on the couch. It's very cute.

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[terrya]

14. Bingo. You have that exactly right.

Doug, my SO, is my best friend. That's what makes our relationship so special...he is my friend as well as my lover and soulmate. You must have that balance of friendship and passion to make a relationship work.

[supernova]

17. Who says romance and friendship have to be mutually exclusive?

I want both.

[skygazer]

18. I voted "other" because none of the others seemed to fit

Romance is important but so are many other things - friendship, humor, compassion, understanding, trust, intuition... Relationships are complex.

I'm really fortunate because I have all of that with my hubby. He is more romantic than I am and brings it out in me. Sometimes, we'll just spontaneously light candles, put on music and dance in the living room. That's great. Sometimes, we'll be sitting on the sofa, me in my baggy sweatpants and messy hair and out of the blue, he'll take my hand and tell me, with tears in his eyes, how much I mean to him. That's very cool.

So, yes, very important.