how did you meet your spouse/significant other?

[fluffernutter]

who asked who out first?

[bleedingheart]

1. he was begging me to date him...but I rebuffed him...

then I realized the guy I was dating at the time was just not committed to a long term relationship...and so I broke up with him and asked my hubby to my alma mater's homecoming game... 1 year later we were married... 10 year anniversary this past October...

edit: we met at work...

[Left Is Write]

2. At a bar. He asked me to dance.

We were virtually inseparable from the get-go and married exactly three months to the day after we met.

The night we met was very nearly eight years ago.

[Shredr]

12. I love that story!

Love at first sight! You must really be soul-mates. That's awesome.

[zann725]

41. At a bar. He asked me to dance. Then asked for my number.

I wasn't sure how I felt, so I gave him the wrong number, transposing the digits. Unfortunately, or fortunately, he was a Math major...and persistent. Trying all variations of the number, he finally reached me. And admiring his persistence, I gave him a second chance...that somewhere along the line, became a marriage.

[GreenPartyVoter]

3. Met him freshman year of high school in English class. I chased

him for a year (through two other girlfriends) and once I finally gave up on him he then decided to start chasing me. Typical. *lol*

[bearfan454]

4. I met Mrs bearfan at a Valentine's day dance.

How romantic, huh ?

[elshiva]

5. At college and he asked me out.

Nice thread, fluffernutter. Nice name too.

[Catchawave]

6. At a protest in the late 60's....I put a daisy

in his rifle....guess you can say...love at first sight <snork>

[Longgrain]

7. I haven't had the pleasure yet...

but I'm hoping it's soon.:-)

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

8. It was December 1993

I was the radiology residency coordinator at a Wichita hospital; the future Mr. DTBK was a psychiatry resident doing his internal medicine rotation at the hospital. I kept a candy jar on my desk for the doctors to indulge, and he used to stop and get candy. I thought he was very cute and polite. He's Pakistani, so I figured he was destined for an arranged marriage, but I thought what the heck - I'll give it a shot. I asked him what he was doing over the Christmas break, and he said he was going to Dallas to visit friends. Knowing he wouldn't be home and thus not able to reject me, I called his number over the break and told him I thought he was really nice and I'd like to get to know him. Wonder of wonders, he called me when he returned, and we spent an hour or two on the phone chatting, and we made a date for dinner and a movie. On January 7, 1994 we went to see "Mrs. Doubtfire" and to Spaghetti Warehouse for dinner. He said he felt we had "chemistry," but when he dropped me at my apartment he shook my hand and practically ran away. I thought he wasn't going to pursue it and was disappointed, but a week later he called and asked if I wanted to come over for some Indian food. He made me a delicious dinner of qeema (a beef dish) and wonderful chai with milk and cardamom. We've been together ever since (marrying on August 7, 1995)!

[Nikia]

9. Met my husband in college

We had 2 classes together at the beginning of sophomore year. I thought that he seemed sort of interesting and he thought that I was sort of cute. I saw him at a party after being rejected by my crush earlier that evening. We started dancing. A guy who had been dancing with me earlier tried to butt in, but my husband pushed him out of the way. Then we started making out. We've been inseparable since.

[sweetladybug]

11. Well, my husband and I met on May 5th 1970. We met at a gas station

that he was working at. I didn't like him at 1st,we even got into an arguement the 1st time we met. But I quess God works in mysterious ways since we have been together for almost 35 yrs. And I can honestly say I think we were made for each other (he's the love of my life and I know I'm the love of his life)
Gayle

[short bus president]

10. We met outside of Vestibule C,

both of us weary from travel. 'Tho I was somewhat airplane-food-breathed, we nevertheless kissed passionately in front of the line of taxis. But we got to know one another here, playin' in the Lounge. I don't think that to this day either of us has actually asked the other out...

UPDATE: I asked her out, and she said yes!!!

:bounce:

[Cyndee_Lou_Who]

15. NO, I did not!!

I said "I'd love to"!

[LadyLeo]

13. Good ol' AOL..

Was bored one night, looking thru the profiles on AOL and reading some of them. I happened across his and laughed hysterically at his personal quote, something to the tune of..."You cant wait for opportunity to knock, you have to drag it thru the door kicking and screaming". (I've seen this saying since, in several different ways, but it was new then) and it just tickled me and I couldnt stop laughing.
I sent him an email, told him I loved his quote and if he wanted an email pal, to write back. He did write back, but explained that he would be out of town for work for three days. I figured, it was his way of saying "Thanks but no thanks" and that I wouldnt hear from him again.
Four days later he emailed me, we began talking more and more, then calling then he came up for a long weekend with his daughter.

He moved here a little over a month later and we married a little over a month after that. (Met online in Oct, he came up over New years, moved here in Feb. and married in April.)

We celebrate our 4th anniversary in three days!! Gotta love AOL...

[Shredr]

14. match.com

I'm serious.

We're one of the success stories.

Although we almost weren't.

I'd gone out on a few heinous dates through match.com and was about to cancel my membership when he wrote me.

I didn't want to have another lousy night, so I said no, but he persisted.

Finally I agreed, and I'm so glad i did.

Our chemistry was obvious immediately. And we've been inseperable ever since.

Almost 2 years now.

[ScreamingMeemie]

16. He was 12. I was 12. He sat behind me in 7th grade. He thought

my turquoise corduroys made my butt look big. I asked him if he wanted my left over pizza. In 8th grade we had separate classes so it ended. In high school, my best friend and I made gagging noises as we walked behind him, with the hand in the back pocket of his girlfriend's jeans...and I promptly went on with my life. C.J. Barrymore's: I was playing pool. He was trying to look cool leaning on a bar stool in his leather jacket and boots...he fell over, I giggled...we went out for breakfast...


....but....

He was too nice. He wanted to open doors for me. Escort me to the ladies room at the movies. Take my *gasp* parents out for dinner. I broke up...looking for a bad boy.

....I found one...

Press on forward 3 years. Bad relationship over. My parents always bringing up that wonderful guy "you dated for a while a few years back". Beautiful baby girl as a gift to make up for the hurt. His cowboy boots on the hardwood floor of a friend's house. My heart...stopping...for a second. Inseparable every weekend after...

12 years, a marriage, one adoption, three losses, one bundle of baby boy, a few really rough patches, sad times, mad times, glad times, and...

....he still makes my stomach flip flop whenever I catch sight of him.


All told, I've known him for 22 years and loved him madly for 12.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

18. I love this story!

Congratulations on finding such a keeper!

[ScreamingMeemie]

25. I try not to forget how lucky I am that he gave me that second chance!

He's truly wonderful! :hi:

[Cyndee_Lou_Who]

19. Great love story!!

You deserve all that happiness!! :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

26. Thank you Cyndee...He is my everything.

I know it sounds mushy, but I owe him so much. :hi:

[MrScorpio]

17. We were introduced by a mutual friend

Formal introductions are the way to go, my friend

[GOPisBAD]

20. at a minimum wage job...

...I was 20 and had been working at a movie theatre for about 6 months. I was in college and was only working for beer/date/food money. It was May and school was out for summer. She was 16 and it was her first job. She was working to try to buy her first car.

I was her trainer. We "clicked" immediately. We were both in "relationships" with other people at the time we met so all we could do was flirt. Mine was semi-serious, but I knew it was destined to fail. The only reason I tried to keep it going was because since I had lost my "first true love" the year before I was doing everything I could to find the second. Hers was your typical high school thing. Not that serious, but probably serious to them. We were great friends/flirts for 3 or 4 months.

Then they broke up. Even though I had a girlfriend, I made my move. She was interested. I was crazy about her. Without going in to details, something happened and I broke up with my girlfriend two days later.

Her parents were none too crazy about me at first. I was "too old" for her. They put me through several tests. Most of them still piss me off to this day, but it's okay. I'm over it. :-)

Four years after we met, we were married. They seem to love their two grandchildren very much. In fact, after I "proved myself worthy" they seem to like me a great deal.

That's the "long story short" version. :-)

[lavenderdiva]

21. I have known Mr. Lavenderdiva my whole life... literally

when my mother gave birth to me, and brought me home from the hospital, he was there. She changed my diaper, and he was there; he says I was the first girl he ever saw naked. Hmmmm... I was there at his first wedding. I was there when he got divorced. I was the one he called after the divorce, when he wanted to start dating, and didn't know what to say to the other girls or where to take them on dates. I was the one he called and said 'Why can't I meet and marry someone like you?'. Many years later, when it dawned on both of us that we really liked being around one another, we started dating and fell in love. Got married in 2002, and he's wonderful!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

22. I was in a reasonably serious (nearly engaged)relationship with a young

college friend. One night we went to some friends' house, and there I met another young man. He didn't impress me favorably at all. My boyfriend wanted us to date other people to make sure we were meant for each other, and he gave the other young man my phone number and told him to call me. He'd also told me that he was going to date other young women, and that he'd be back. I WAS SO ANGRY! Then the new young man called for a date, and I was damned if I was going to sit in my dorm alone, so I said yes...It took several months and my old boyfriend's not returning in time before I fell in love with my now husband...We were married a year after we'd met and are still married nearly 40 years later! We are the loves of each other's lives so much that now it's scary...and wonderful...I often wonder whatever happened to that old, former boyfriend...I hope he found someone else...

:loveya: :loveya:

[R. A. Fuqua]

23. my girl was at a bar playing pool with her friends

she was wearing a mini skirt and a skimpy little tank top and she looked HOT!

I went over--introduced myself--and refused to leave until I got my date. We went back to my apartment that night, lit up, had some great sex and have been together (with a few lapses) for two years now.

She wants to get married, but I don't believe in it.

[4_Legs_Good]

24. We never really "dated" so to speak

I was interested in her for years, but at some point we were both "available", and things just worked out such that, well, they worked out. We had been friends for a few years before that.

We've been married for almost 8 years now...

david

[LiberallyInclined]

27. personal ad in the chicago reader

i placed it-
she answered.

[REP]

38. Personal Ad in the (KC) Pitch

I wrote; he (and about 200 others) answered and we've been together ever since;13 years now.

[achtung_circus]

28. We've known each other forever,

our parents (the 3 surviving ones) are best friends. We have common memories going back nearly 50 years. When I moved back east 18 months ago she was living across the road from my brother, she needed some help rehabing the condo she'd bought, here we are. She's gone to sleep & I'm posting on the couch.

BTW I had what was hopefully the last meeting with my divorce lawyer today.

Who knew, way back then, just how odd the future could be.

[Blue_In_AK]

29. I met my spouse when I was a junior in high school

His sister was my best friend, and I met him the first time I spent the night at her house. I was supposed to have a blind date, but the guy stood me up, so J** took me out to the dance instead. We dated for seven months, and then broke up because my parents thought we were getting too serious. That was in 1963. In 2000 for some reason I started thinking about him again, took a chance and found his sister through information, she told him I had called, and the next thing I knew we were talking on the phone again. After a few months corresponding, I went down to Texas to see him, sparks flew, and after we both got out of our horrible marriages, we got married in June 2003. It's the best thing that ever happened to both of us. The best part is our politics are almost identical, and we even had almost identical scores on that Belief-O-Matic test that was around here last weekend. A match made in heaven for sure.

[Cyndee_Lou_Who]

30. Aww!! You filled in some blanks from that other thread where you

posted the pic! That's so heartwarming!! Congrats to both of you! Wonderful story!

[Blue_In_AK]

32. Thanks, CLW. :-)

[Lisabtrucking]

31. I was sitting behind a two way mirror in a liquor store watching for

thieves and sipping tequila with a Friend. When his Friend came in the liquor store. I asked who's this good looking guy walking back here. He said it's his buddy he wanted to fix me up with.

[Rowdyboy]

33. A Monday night in a gay bar in Mississippi....He was talking politics and

when I discovered he hated Bush senior I knew I had a new friend. I asked him to have dinner at my house the next evening. I cooked beef stirfry and we talked for hours. Six months late I moved into his home and we've been together 16 years now.

Life is good.

[StrongbadTehAwesome]

34. At nerd camp (Missouri Scholars Academy).

We were sitting next to each other at a lecture on Einstein's theory of relativity. I had a horrible throat-tickle cough that wouldn't go away, and I was so embarrassed because I kept interrupting the teacher by coughing. Future hubby noticed how red my face was and tried to cheer me up by cracking jokes. We started talking...and didn't stop for the next 7 hours (until curfew).

He had a girlfriend at the time, and when the three weeks of "nerd camp" were over, we went back to our respective hometowns two hours apart...but we wrote letters, then e-mails. The girlfriend fell by the wayside, and we started dating. We made a long distance relationship work through our last two years of high school together, then very deliberately chose the same college. :)

June 16th will be our 7th anniversary (2 years married).

[Susang]

35. In a bar across the street from Second City

I worked at the bar, he worked at Second City. He came in there almost every night for four months before he got the nerve to ask me out. This was even after I had given him rides home from the bar after we closed!

Some boys are dense. :freak:

[alittlelark]

36. At KZZX in Alb. We were both in HS and doing weekend shows.

He asked me out first. My mom moved a few months later to be closer to her BF, and I was re-districted to his school - he was student body president at the time.

[mr blur]

37. We "met" on the internet,

Met up for for real 2 weeks later, she moved across the country to live with me 2 weeks after that. (OK, I know the UK is a small country, but it was still very cool!) Married 2 years after that, which was 8 years ago.

[Az]

39. Twelve years ago today(really)

Ann Arbor holds an event called the Hash Bash every year. While I don't smoke I support legalization. I was attending it with a Church group (UU churchs... why more DUers aren't members...). There was also an event going on on the College campus that I was interested in. Animania. Me and one of the other Church members decided to check it out.

Animania is an Anime appreciation club. We get together to watch a bunch of Anime series and movies. As we entered the room where the club was meeting she came bouncing out. The person that brought me to the club was a friend of her's. It was one of those moments. Both of us were intrigued with each other instantly.

12 years later we still attend Animania together. Tomorrow we are celebrating our 12 years. :woohoo:

[Duncan Grant]

43. Happy Anniversary, Az.

:toast: :thumbsup:

[SarahB]

40. So, I'll tell the story of my soon-to-be-ex...

(I don't have a significant other, nor do I even think I want one. I just have various forms of weirdness lately.)

It was labor day weekend 1990. I was getting to be friends with this neighbor of mine that was very sweet to me (like a big brother, after all, I was 18 and he was 27). Anyway, we went with a few other people to a lake to swim, cook out, etc. when I was sitting next to him and then started playing footsie with him. I guess I made the first move, but he was very receptive.

The rest is history. Actually, all of it is now history pretty much except for a bit more paperwork. We just left the legacy of our f*cked relationship to pass along to our children. About half of that time we were together was actually pretty good. The last 7 years or so haven't been so good. It's been pretty bad actually (how many many ways can two people try to avoid each other is more like it), but you already have kids (and then ooops, one more) and you keep trying and going because this stuff is serious business until one of you realizes they just can't go any longer.

[fleabert]

42. work, friends and roommates first, never had a first 'date'...he did

kiss me first though...

[leftofthedial]

44. double date

arranged by a friend in college

she was set up with my best friend

I was set up with her roommate

We hit it off right away and now, 30 years later, we are getting divorced.