How do you nicely ask a fundy not to visit you in the hospital?

[Ladyhawk]

I don't want to simply put him on a no-see list. He would have to drive a few hours out of his way to see me, but I'm afraid he might come.

Once before when I was vulnerable, he went back on his word and tried to proselytize me. That was not OK with me and I want to take steps to prevent it from happening again. I might be in pain. I hope nothing goes seriously wrong with my surgery, but if it does, the last thing I need is a bunch of fundies coming to visit me.

I suppose I could just flat-out tell him that he took advantage of me once when I was vulnerable and that I can't allow him to do it again.

If I have to do that, I'm afraid any semblance of cordiality will evaporate and I still need a vocal musical outlet and he's the only game in town, unfortunately.

[MissB]

1. I'd put him on the no-visit list.

You don't need the worry or the headache that comes with the possiblility of him visiting you. Do you?

[LiberalEsto]

2. Have someone call him

and tell him to stay home.


Blessings of health and healing to you.

[catmandu57]

3. Have the nurses put

a no visitors sign on your door.

[The empressof all]

4. Just tell him.....

Just tell him that although you know and appreciate his concern, you will not be up to accepting visits from anyone other than (whomever- or no one). Your medical professional has advised you to focus all your attention on recovery and you will not be up to having visits. Let him know that you want a speedy recovery so you can get back to doing your normal routine as quickly as possible.

Sometimes just telling the truth without all the gory details is just the best thing to do. You don't have to make it personal and you don't have to feel that anyone deserves an explanation further than that.

BTW: I never have understood why anyone would think to visit someone who is sick and ill without being invited. I know if I was sick the last thing I would want is a bunch of people hovering over me trying to make me feel better.

[Hobarticus]

7. That's a very smart play...

And good luck and speedy recovery!

[Ladyhawk]

9. Thank you! This is the way to do it without stepping on feelings.

I visited him when he was in the hospital a few years ago and I'm afraid he'll want to return the favor. It...really...isn't...necessary. :)

I can only think of two people I'd want to see, anyway, and my nephew is probably too young.

[MADem]

5. Tell him your doctor will be limiting your visitors

...because of the "stress" of your procedure to FAMILY MEMBERS ONLY. Then warn your doctor about this jerk. And put him on your NO list. If he sends you a card, have someone who doesn't know him call and thank him for you, and then warn them to have the cell phone "break up" (rub tin foil or crumpled wax paper on the mouthpiece, very convincing!) if he starts in on the 'eternal word' BS.

[Ladyhawk]

8. Haha...pretty much it will be anyone BUT family members...and fundies. :)

Long story. :D

[CanuckAmok]

6. Tell him Clinton's penis banned praying in hospitals and you....

...don't want to go to jail.

[HEyHEY]

10. Insert Schiavo joke here