I've inherited another kid...WTF??

[Not_Giving_Up]

So, my son (11) has a friend of the same age. Thursday night, the friend comes over around 7 PM, asking if he can spend the night because his mom has to work the next day, and the babysitter isn't going to be available. He's a nice kid, never gives me a lick of trouble...sure, no problem. He spent the night, and most of Friday here.

Today, same kid comes over around 5 PM. The boys were playing, I left for a little while (other half in charge). After I got back, his mom calls and asks me if he can stay here for a while because her husband? has to go put in a washing machine for his grandmother and she was at a birthday party. She tells me that he won't be late, so I agree.

At 8:45, I ask kid if he has a way to get in touch with dude...He says he doesn't know dude's cell number. I ask him to call his mom's cell...He tells me that dude proably went somewhere and got drunk. He calls his mom, but she doesn't answer. She calls back a few minutes later and says dude will be back around 10 or 10:30.

I feel for the kid, and don't really care if he spends the night again, but :wtf: It's the night before Easter! No, we're not church people, but my daughter still believes in the bunny, and is likely to wonder why kid doesn't have a basket here.

[bigwillq]

1. Just tell your daughter that the basket is waiting

at his house. She will most likely believe that.

[Not_Giving_Up]

3. Yeah

I'm sure she will.

Another mom in the park pulled this crap on me for about a month. Her kid would just show up and then she would call and ask if he could stay here...every freaking weekend.

Quite frankly, I wouldn't mind...If these people would watch my kid so I could go out every now and then. Not only that, but my money is beyoND tight right now, and feeding another growing boy isn't exactly in the budget.

[bigwillq]

4. Ask them to watch your kid

and if they say NO, then it's time you start saying NO!

[Not_Giving_Up]

6. Mine has spent the night with them before

but it's been a really long time. I still had my other kid here...I can never manage to get rid of them both, unless it's to grandparents, and that's rare.

[bigwillq]

8. The grandparents should help out more

Although I really don't know much of your personal situation.

When I was little, we stayed at my Nonni's every Friday night so my parents could have at least one day and night to themselves!

[Not_Giving_Up]

10. I agree!

I was at my mom's parents every weekend. My mother in law would rather do everything inebriated, and my stepdad has to be at home because my mom is not a stable person, so that makes it hard.

[bigwillq]

12. Sorry about that situation

Like I said, I knew nothing about your personal situation and I only said that the GP's should help out more but I really meant if they COULD help out more.

Looks like they really can't and that's really unfortunate, not only for you, but for your kids who seem to be missing out in the GP department.

[Southsideirish]

2. I guess this is the kind of situation that Dr. Laura goes on about.

Poor kid. Some parents really suck.

[Not_Giving_Up]

5. There are two other kids in the house

I don't know where they are right now (both younger). Kid has also said that he has two other siblings in foster care, but I don't know why.

[Bouncy Ball]

7. A family moved in to the house across the street several months

ago and I was looking forward to getting to know them, being friends with them after talking to the mom a couple of times (seemed really nice).

Then my daughter started playing with their two daughters and they were over here constantly for hours and hours at a time. I mean like eight hours at a stretch. They'd just come over "to play" but then when hours had passed and I needed to go run errands they'd look at me and say "oh our parents aren't home." Big surprise to me.

After that happened a few times, we learned to not be available for play dates. Sorry, but playing is one thing. Your kids coming over and then you taking off for eight to ten hours with no way of getting hold of you is NOT cool.

So now she just plays with them OUTSIDE. That way when my daughter comes in, they aren't with her and I'm not responsible for them the entire day.

[MuseRider]

9. Oh yes, the extra kid.

We had an extra kid often because his parents had 6 kids and often forgot about him, he was the youngest. The worst was when they went out of town and told his older sisters he was at our house and to go get him after the night and they did not show up, did not answer the phone, were not home when we went to check. He ended up with us for 5 days not knowing where his family was. Thankfully he was a good kid and we all liked him a lot. I can't imagine having so many kids and so little regard for them but I was glad we were there for him. This happened several times but usually for only 2 days. Whenever he came I planned on him staying.

[Not_Giving_Up]

13. He's a good kid too

It's not his fault he lives in a fucked up situation...It just pisses me off that the mother doesn't ask me first. She also thanked me for taking him somewhere today that some other kid's parents took him to.

New rule: Don't have more kids than you can keep up with!!!!!!!

[MuseRider]

16. Very good rule

however for a whole lot of people I have met, one kid is far too much for them. But then I was the perfect mother. :eyes:

[miss_kitty]

11. that's a sad story

your kids are lucky. poor feller probably feels bad. He has no control over the situation and you are probably trying to be good to him while not becoming a dupe for the mom and the dude.

too bad his parents did not realise having kids meant they had responsibilities beyond arranging safe secure child care that they don't have to pay for. at least they still try to do that.

[Not_Giving_Up]

14. I know that he goes to his dad's most weekends

I figured he'd be there for the holiday...guess not!

My dad took off when I was little, and my mom should never have had kids...so I feel his pain.

[miss_kitty]

17. it's probably more good than we'll ever know

that he can hang at your house from time to time

[Not_Giving_Up]

15. I'm gonna log off for a while...

Dude is supposed to call soon. I'll check back in a bit.

[hickman1937]

18. Sounds like big trouble in that house.

Tuck them in for the night, and find a couple of bowls to divide your kids baskets into 3, just in case. Kids don't deserve this shit. Poor kid. He probably is more aware of whats going on than anyone knows.
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